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feralhound55 said:I know plenty of people who can't stand being alone. It usually stems from a lack of self-satisfaction—basically, they don't actually like themselves. They set these impossible standards, feel like failures when they miss the mark, and end up being their own worst critics. Naturally, they can't tolerate their own company, so they just keep running from one thing to the next.
If that doesn't hit home, maybe you’re just chasing happiness through other people. It's driven by this irrational fear that being alone equals dying. Realistically, you aren't going to be unable to feed or care for yourself for two years straight. The issue with this manufactured dependency is that you lose control over your own life; if someone you care about moves away or passes on, your happiness goes down the drain with them. And you can't really blame them—they're just living their lives.
At the end of the day, you're the only person you can truly rely on—you aren't going anywhere. Everyone else is just passing through, so you might as well learn to enjoy your own company. Take some time to get to know yourself and do things you actually enjoy. Treat yourself like a friend—with a little respect and kindness. You don't have to lock yourself in a room for a month; just try being alone for ten minutes a day until it feels natural. If it doesn't? Fine.
But trust me, once you realize how much solitude recharges you—bringing back peace, focus, and genuine joy—you'll start looking for every excuse to steal a few moments for yourself.
One more thing: true solitude—real quality time with yourself—happens in total silence. No TV, no music, no video games, nothing to distract your senses. That's what actually recharges the batteries. Just take it slow, a minute or two at a time every day...
That was beautiful, feralhound55... 😉
Just so you know, this headspace you’re in right now—it’s temporary. It’s just a phase. Honestly, it’s a good sign that you actually realize that, so maybe try to turn that focus back toward yourself for a bit.
You know... please don't take this the wrong way, but even if you feel like you have fifty friends right now, I think you'll eventually realize that as the years go by, maybe one or two will stick around. Or maybe even zero.
People can be pretty harsh these days—mostly looking out for themselves, though obviously not everyone—so it’s really not ideal if you aren't comfortable being alone with your own thoughts.
You've got to learn how to do that!!
It’s honestly such a beautiful part of growing up.
Because, I guess, if you don't know how to be by yourself, you won't really know how to be with other people either.
There are so many things you can dive into—reading books, catching movies, going for walks, running, taking care of yourself, focusing on your appearance or your health... all these things where you don't actually need anyone else.
Don't neglect yourself. Learn to embrace your own company; trust me, it’s a wonderful experience. And this feeling will pass too—really, believe me—you just can't spend all your time sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.
Do something for yourself right now. Maybe tomorrow, set a little goal for yourself that might help you start feeling a bit better!
For me, I decided to focus on working out, staying active, and finally taking care of my appearance, which I'd kind of let slide because of those constant depressive thoughts.
The feeling I had once I finally moved past that standstill... I can't even describe it!
Is there anyone a bit more experienced or older in your life that you could sit down and talk to?
More than anything, I think you just really need to have a real conversation.
So, I was just wondering—if you don't mind me asking—how old are you?
Patrick Carter said:How old are you?
What changed in your life about three months ago?
When do you actually try to sleep in the morning after an all-nighter? How much sleep are you catching during the day?
Are you on any medications for other health issues?
Caffeine intake? Smoking? Any other stimulants?
Sleeping pills might help, but they’re a temporary fix—you shouldn't be using them for more than two or three weeks at a stretch.
We need to figure out the root cause of this insomnia—it’s likely some form of stress or anxiety.
Look, if you ask me, there was only one person here who actually gave you a real, thoughtful response, and you just completely brushed it off...