Posts by goldensurfer3

Hey everyone, I just had to drop in and let you all know... I'M EXPECTING TWINS!!!!!
Things have been a little rocky lately, but I'm staying positive and hoping for the best...
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Here’s a little update from my side...
First off, thank you all so much for the kind wishes...
But, well, it looks like I’m facing some issues again...
Just typical pregnancy stuff, I suppose...
Total bloating!!!!
Man...
It's been going on for a week now....
My stomach feels just like someone who's four or five months along....
It's rock hard...

Things are looking up significantly today...
My honey went over for lunch...
But honestly, last night...
We spent hours just talking, and man, I really needed that soul-searching time...
The only thing my dad asked him was: "Do you love her?" And he didn't blink—he told him straight up that he plans on spending the rest of his life by my side. He said he’s never felt anything like this before, and promised he'd protect and cherish both me and our little peanut...
Everything is okay now...
I can finally be completely honest with my family without feeling like I have to put on an act. I can tell them if I can't eat because I'm nauseous, or if my heartburn is acting up...
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It's all going to be fine....
Thanks again, everyone!

Thanks, gentlebear3...
I finally told my parents...
Mom actually asked if I was being serious, and I just stayed quiet at first. She eventually realized her question was totally out of line and asked me to explain myself. How do you even explain that? I just told her she should be happy, and then I just broke down. Through all the tears, I told her that the baby's heart is already beating—it’s like this steady, rhythmic thumping.
Dad didn't say a single word; he just pulled me into a huge hug...
They're still pretty much in shock...
So...
I guess that's just how it goes, right? It feels normal, I suppose...
But honestly, I don't feel any better now that it's out in the open...
I really thought telling them would feel like a weight lifting off my shoulders, but it hasn't. Now, I'm just staying in my room; I'm simply not ready to talk to anyone yet...
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There’s still a loophole available, so I definitely plan on taking advantage of it—though I’ve heard rumors that even as a full-time student, you might be eligible for maternity benefits (I really need to look into the specifics of that)...
I’m going to have the conversation with them today... but honestly...
my hormones are just all over the place right now, so I'm basically just sitting here moping...
I know there will be support out there... and I know things might get a little heated at first (not that I see much reason for anyone to lose their cool, other than the fact that neither he nor I are working right now, and we don't have a place to live yet... but we can figure all that out eventually)...
Thank you all so much for being so supportive....
It truly makes things feel a bit lighter...
Oh, and I almost forgot... yesterday I told a friend of my mom's that I was pregnant, and she was absolutely overjoyed. It actually made me think, "I wish Mom could react like that".....
It really lifts your spirits when you see how much joy something brings to other people...
But then again...
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I have this twin brother who is my absolute rock... honestly, I think I’d be losing my mind without him. But lately, I feel like Mom is starting to pick up on my moods because I end up bursting into tears at basically everything she says. It’s like I just can't help myself, so I'm planning on finally sitting her down and talking to her about it, maybe tonight or tomorrow...
I don't think she'll ever buy the story that the baby was just some unexpected surprise... but I know things will turn out fine because they weren't even nine years old when they had me and my brother. So... yeah... I'm a twin, my boyfriend has a twin brother, and on my dad's side, it feels like everyone is a twin or something. It's just everywhere in the family.
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Talk soon!

We’ve made the final decision to go through with the pregnancy. Our OB-GYN basically told us this could be our one and only shot at having a baby, and since he can't make any guarantees about future fertility... we have to take this chance.
But now there's this massive weight hanging over me.
HOW ON EARTH AM I GOING TO TELL MY PARENTS?
PLEASE, if anyone has advice or even just some perspective, let me hear it...
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It’s funny—when I'm hanging out with my boyfriend, everything feels totally fine. I feel steady, like I can handle it. But the second I'm by myself? It's game over. All these fears just crash down on me at once—despair, anger, pure panic... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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First off, thank you all so much for everything you’ve shared...
Before this whole thing actually happened, I used to tell myself I’d only consider an abortion if my child was sick. And honestly? Today... I feel exactly the same way...
I want to have this baby...
My boyfriend has calmed down a little bit too, though we were both 100% certain I wasn't pregnant at first...
Then today, he asked me how I could still love him when he's the one who got me pregnant... I was just stunned. We made this baby together...
Anyway, whatever happens, I'll be sure to check back in with you all...
And you know what?
That day I missed my period, I actually felt like I was pregnant, but I just kept pushing that feeling down...
It's just... there is nothing quite like that feeling when you realize a tiny life is growing inside you...
I think I always let silly, selfish fears get in the way of pregnancy because, after such a long and exhausting struggle, I had finally worked my way down to 110 pounds and a size 2 in clothes. But now... oh boy, once things start changing...
Let it happen...
I am happy...
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now what?!!!
When you find yourself facing an unplanned pregnancy, the very last thing you feel capable of doing is... think.
So... I need some help here...
I don't need a lecture or anyone telling me how I could have let this happen or why I wasn't more careful (I'm sure there will be plenty of those comments)... but...
Here is the situation...
My boyfriend is 25; he’s got eight exams left plus his thesis, and he isn't working right now.
I'm 24; I still have four exams and my thesis to go, and I'm not working either.
We've been together for three months; we never fight, and we’ve already talked about our future. We are certain we want to spend our lives together because it feels like what we've been waiting for our whole lives.
The reality of our current situation: both of us are unemployed, we have nowhere of our own to live, and I am pregnant.
My thoughts:
1. Getting an abortion. (I'm curious, but I'd really appreciate hearing from people who actually have experience with this or are qualified to speak on it: what are the chances that everything will be fine later on? Will I be able to get pregnant normally and carry a baby to term? From what I've seen, all the girls I know who had abortions are struggling to conceive now, or they barely manage to make it to seven months with a pregnancy.)
2. Telling our parents. (Man... talk about a shock...) But I truly believe they will stand by me. They have never turned their backs on us, so I don't think they'll start now. If we can find a way for both him and me to get jobs as soon as possible, we could rent an apartment, move out of our parents' houses, and start our new life. We would focus entirely on this and give up the partying, the traveling, and the going out...
I always imagined I’d have my life figured out by now—finish college, land a career, travel, and just enjoy ourselves for a year or two... but instead...