Betty Brown said:I try not to dictate my kids' career paths, but I’ll certainly do my best to make sure they don't get stuck in medicine—unless they eventually land in dentistry. That's largely based on my own family experience.
I really wouldn't want my children to go through all that nonsense.
First off, during those six years of med school, you don't have much of a life if you actually commit to the studies (which is a given)
Then there’s the massive disappointment of watching people who barely showed up to class—and somehow managed to scrape by through sheer luck—suddenly snag the best residencies.
Even if they do land a residency, what follows is literal indentured servitude for several years until they finish, including exhausting on-call shifts that leave you completely drained. So, once again, you get nothing out of life; your family ends up being an afterthought, which is especially true for women.
Once the residency is over, the exploitation just continues, often seasoned by those same colleagues who—heaven forbid—always find some way to get themselves onto every single conference, or get listed as co-authors on papers they haven't even looked at, and somehow end up involved in various side projects that bring in extra cash.
It isn't until about ten years into a specialty that things might finally stabilize enough for a person to start working normally. But by then, it's usually too late because you've witnessed far too much garbage—even if you weren't personally involved in any of it, though the probability is high. For instance: after spending an entire day on a ward, you move straight to an outpatient clinic for on-call duties where patients keep coming in all night. Then, at 4:00 AM, a child comes in with a fever, and you think it doesn't look serious, so you send them home. The child dies in the morning!!! It isn't just about having to explain something to a parent; it's the fact that you'll carry the weight of "If I had just admitted them, that child would be alive today" for the rest of your life. You can Google it all you want, but the consequences stay with you. And it's not just from your own mistakes, but from those aforementioned colleagues, because you're on the same ward and you see everything they do—or rather, everything they fail to do.
And I won't even mention what happens to one's family life during all those years.
That kind of psychological pressure and physical toll simply isn't worth it, no matter how much more money they might be making now. I also finished a relatively difficult degree and I work quite hard, but people's lives don't depend on my job, and I earn more than they do.
Which is why I'm not surprised that doctors, once the Hippocratic Oath loses its luster and they take a good look around, start feeling cheated compared to others and begin looking for "alternative ways."
It seems to me that medicine should only be pursued by monks without families—people who have renounced worldly material comforts, possess a spiritual drive for it, and can actually handle the lifestyle.
I agree with you on certain points, but it has to be said that a career in medicine depends HEAVILY on which specialty one chooses.
Dermatology, ophthalmology, psychiatry, nuclear medicine, occupational medicine, or family practice are examples of specialties where practitioners enjoy a fairly normal life, not just after their training, but during it as well. Of course, there are still sacrifices, hierarchies, and on-call shifts, but you can't compare that to the grind and Spartan regime found on an internal medicine or surgical ward...🙄
In our hospitals, there is a terrible imbalance between departments... on some wards, people are falling over from exhaustion and have enough work for 20 hours a day, while on others, at 1:00 PM, it's empty; the doctors head home, leaving only the nurses and the on-call staff, and people literally have nothing left to do.