Hormonal Contraception: The Pill [General Discussion]
in Women's Health ·
Henry Young5 said:We’ve been at it for just under six months now. Honestly? It’s incredible. Everything is perfect, except for this one specific hiccup: our timing. Usually, we’re totally in sync and finish right around the same time, which is great. But when I hit my limit, I have to pull out, and then she’s just left hanging—completely unsatisfied. And look, I feel terrible about it. I genuinely love watching her enjoy herself; I want her to have a good time too.
She isn't interested in condoms, and our current method of contraception is the IUD (yeah, I know, it might not be the most foolproof thing ever, but it’s the only way she’ll agree to have sex, and I care way too much about this connection to pass it up). We both tested clean at the start and we aren't seeing anyone else, so STDs aren't the worry here—it's strictly the pregnancy scare. I’m pretty disciplined and always make sure to pull out at least five seconds before the point of no return, but I’m terrified that one day I won't be able to control it, especially if she's on top.
We definitely don't need a kid right now (translation: we’re both full-time students with zero dollars in the bank), but we definitely need the sex. Also, anal is off the table.
I almost managed to talk her into the pill once when her period was running a few days late, but then these other issues popped up. Please, give me some practical advice or even some medical talking points I can use to convince her to start taking the pill. It feels like our only real solution.
Oh man. Usually, it's the guys who refuse condoms, but for a girl to reject everything... wow. Maybe suggest she talk to her gynecologist about how "reliable" the withdrawal method actually is. That might change her mind. It seems to me she might just be underinformed.
Alternatively, just buy condoms and put one on when you're both ready to go.😉...