hiddendriver34 said:I’m really pushing my oldest toward a math-heavy path—ideally aiming for MIOC, which is basically the gold standard around here. The problem is, he’s totally undecided and hasn't got a clue what he wants to do yet. I'm nudging him because the kid is a natural; math and physics just click for him instantly. There are some incredibly high-level careers in physics, and since he hasn't even seen a "B" on his report card—he's consistently at the top of his class—it feels like a waste not to go for it.
To be honest, people with mathematical minds are like exotic, fascinating plants to me. I’m definitely not one of them (and neither is my husband; our son likely inherited those genes too).
He actually shares a similar philosophy to Summer—he’s hesitant about MIOC because he’s terrified of being buried under a mountain of work and losing his free time. He’s also worried about getting in since he doesn't have a perfect 4.0 GPA. But like I mentioned in a previous post, if you aren't obsessed with maintaining a perfect average and your ambitions are more balanced, you don't necessarily have to kill yourself working once you get there.
Don't get me wrong, I’m not a helicopter parent. I give my kids plenty of room to make their own choices, but I am being pretty persistent about this one. I’ve got one more year to try and win him over. 🐔
It is actually quite difficult to define what constitutes "too much work" versus having enough free time.
Those "exotic plants" with mathematical minds tend to breeze through the advanced math curriculum, which usually covers about 6 or 7 hours of math per week during the last two years of High School (or the computer science track, which is 5 or 6 hours of core classes plus 3 hours of CS).
Their other subjects take up about as much time as they would in any other school, depending on the specific curriculum they encounter.
What typically makes a school feel overwhelming or like a massive time-sink is:
- Students who lack the natural aptitude for STEM subjects. You can teach them, sure, but since they don't have those basic predispositions, they have to practice and spend much more time studying than a child who has that natural knack. When you add in all the other required subjects, the total school load becomes huge.
- Students who are exceptionally bright and cruised through Middle School easily, but never actually developed solid study habits. Because of that, freshman year can be a bit of a shock as they realize they actually need to put in the work. To parents, this might look like a disaster or a "hard" school, but honestly, it's usually just a transition period in the first year.
- Students coming into the STEM program with less foundational knowledge than they should have from Middle School. Even though there's a standardized national curriculum that everyone is supposed to follow, that isn't always the reality for every student for various reasons I won't bore you with here. That’s why entrance exams are so necessary.
Over the last few years, I've heard people say that MIT puts impossible questions on their entrance exams, but knowing the students who actually pass and find those problems easy to solve, I'd say that for the kids who *belong* in that school, those tasks aren't actually that hard. And yes, these are typically the kids who have taken extra math tutoring for four years straight and participated in numerous math and computer science competitions, performing well even at the local level.
It’s a shame the entrance exam doesn't include physics and computer science too—I really mean that.
- Students who are competitive achievers (and MIT has spent decades building that reputation). They spend more time studying and tackling extra problems, and it's good that they have the chance to get support at school and encouragement for competitions. Sure, they have less free time than others because they are prepping for meets, but that doesn't mean the school is forcing extra work on them; it means the students are choosing to do more so they can compete.
The entrance exam problems are available on their website. Most of the material should have been covered in Middle School anyway, so just let him try solving them.
Maybe ask the mail carrier to help him out if he gets stuck!😉
If they decide to major in something like linguistics or even general studies with a math-oriented brain, school should be a breeze. As long as they—and their teachers—don't skip too many classes, they'll probably breeze through math and physics during lecture time. That leaves them with way more free time to focus on other stuff. 🤷