John Hill said:Alright, look, I moved this thread to where it actually belongs. And just to be clear, decisions like this aren't made by Jose White18 alone, or by me, or any single moderator acting on their own. These three specific threads have been a mess for a long time now. Originally, there was just one single discussion about cheating. Then, a few women showed up claiming they didn't fit into that specific conversation, so three separate threads about adultery were opened. We allowed them because we wanted to be accommodating; we thought splitting things up would cut down on the constant bickering by letting people group themselves by interest. Instead, it just created these little cliques that ended up warring with each other. In any other normal situation, when threads get this out of hand—where moderation becomes a nightmare because we're constantly deleting arguments—you’d just lock them down. But because we wanted to cater to the regulars who frequent these topics, we kept putting it off. Eventually, we hit on the idea of moving them to a section of the forum with more relaxed rules, so they can still have their space to hang out. As for ZUD, we might eventually open a new thread regarding infidelity for new people interested in the subject, but this time without all the fragmentation and the clan warfare.
It’s completely justified that three separate threads were opened, and honestly, I think it’s blindingly obvious to everyone why we need three instead of just one!?
Those adulteresses barely spent any time on ZUD before everyone started throwing that same old "it's been happening forever" excuse at them.
John Hill said:Alright, look, I moved this thread to where it actually belongs. And just to be clear, decisions like this aren't made by Jose White18 alone, or by me, or any single moderator acting on their own. These three specific threads have been a mess for a long time now. Originally, there was just one single discussion about cheating. Then, a few women showed up claiming they didn't fit into that specific conversation, so three separate threads about adultery were opened. We allowed them because we wanted to be accommodating; we thought splitting things up would cut down on the constant bickering by letting people group themselves by interest. Instead, it just created these little cliques that ended up warring with each other. In any other normal situation, when threads get this out of hand—where moderation becomes a nightmare because we're constantly deleting arguments—you’d just lock them down. But because we wanted to cater to the regulars who frequent these topics, we kept putting it off. Eventually, we hit on the idea of moving them to a section of the forum with more relaxed rules, so they can still have their space to hang out. As for ZUD, we might eventually open a new thread regarding infidelity for new people interested in the subject, but this time without all the fragmentation and the clan warfare.
What kind of massive, explosive shouting matches are we even talking about here???
Look, not every single disagreement has to be treated like some kind of toxic back-and-forth battle. And honestly, if things actually reach a breaking point, why on earth shouldn't grown adults be allowed to go at it? If a situation has escalated to that level, let people vent and argue it out. It's part of being an adult.
And yeah, look, people have definitely split off into different threads based on what they're talking about, though only a handful of folks actually bothered to jump over to the next Topic... and honestly, even if it was some kind of mass exodus, it’s not like there's a rule against it or anything, so I don't see the big deal.
Or maybe we should just stick to guarding the sheep, making sure they don't wander off and join the neighbor's flock?
John Hill said:Alright, look, I moved this thread to where it actually belongs. And just to be clear, decisions like this aren't made by Jose White18 alone, or by me, or any single moderator acting on their own. These three specific threads have been a mess for a long time now. Originally, there was just one single discussion about cheating. Then, a few women showed up claiming they didn't fit into that specific conversation, so three separate threads about adultery were opened. We allowed them because we wanted to be accommodating; we thought splitting things up would cut down on the constant bickering by letting people group themselves by interest. Instead, it just created these little cliques that ended up warring with each other. In any other normal situation, when threads get this out of hand—where moderation becomes a nightmare because we're constantly deleting arguments—you’d just lock them down. But because we wanted to cater to the regulars who frequent these topics, we kept putting it off. Eventually, we hit on the idea of moving them to a section of the forum with more relaxed rules, so they can still have their space to hang out. As for ZUD, we might eventually open a new thread regarding infidelity for new people interested in the subject, but this time without all the fragmentation and the clan warfare.
Is it really that much to ask? If someone actually takes the time to report a problem on the Topic, can't you guys just take a quick look and see what's going on? It shouldn't be this hard.
Look, if there aren't any complaints rolling in, that just means everything is running smooth, right? It means you can actually sit back and get your moderator duties done in peace without some random person breathing down your neck.
If there really was such a massive wave of reports and complaints flying around about certain dialogues and debates, then why on earth did everyone just suddenly shut up about it? Seriously, if things were hitting that boiling point, you don't just let the whole thing go silent without a single word being said. It makes zero sense.
It’s not even the same thing, you know? We aren't even gathering in the same spot. And honestly, how do you guys even envision this working—just opening up a brand new thread and calling it a day? Like, seriously? How are we supposed to actually carry on a conversation if we have to follow someone else's arbitrary rules and judge everything by their own twisted standards of what makes an adulteress? It's ridiculous.
Honestly, cheated spouses, mistresses, and adulteresses have absolutely no clue what they’re talking about when they start venting about the whole "infidelity" issue. It's like they're all speaking different languages. Instead of just rambling on, they seriously need someone to hand them a specific formula—a set of rules or a playbook—on how they should actually be communicating with one another.
No, I honestly have no clue what they were thinking with that move.