Posts by Susan Robinson3

cosmiclynx79 said:Why do people treat introversion like some kind of illness they can just cure?

Austin Patel20 said:So, I’ve been noticing this weird thing about myself lately. Like, whenever something goes south and there’s someone clearly at fault, I get this sudden, intense urge to step in and play defense for them. I start trying to find excuses, or I’ll try to spin the whole story from a different angle just to make them look less bad.
Even when it’s super obvious—like, staring you right in the face—that they totally messed up, I still catch myself trying to justify what they did. It's like I'm actively fighting against common sense and everyone else's opinion just to keep them from getting judged.

copperseal said:I’m with you—revenge is a dead end. Even though when someone screws you over, your gut instinct is to hit back while your blood is boiling.
But once you get that payback, that conscience kicks in. You feel like crap because acting like a jerk isn't who you actually are. You try to be a decent person, so then you have to deal with the guilt on top of everything else.

Bottom line: don't go looking for revenge.
And if you're a good person, you can't really play the "eye for an eye" game either.

I’m still fighting those same battles myself, and honestly, there’s no magic fix. But I’ve noticed that just ignoring them works pretty well so far.
Like, don't let them get under your skin, or at least don't let them see it.
Basically, when someone tries to act tough or hurt you, just give them that look that says, "Nice try, but nope."
Just ignore the noise, hold your ground, and stay true to yourself.
And figure out who’s actually worth your trust.

Susan Robinson3 said:Your perspective is beautiful; please stay true to yourself.👍

I actually recently sought revenge over something because I let my ego get the better of me, and I have regretted it deeply ever since. Revenge is honestly one of the most foolish and pathetic things you can do to another person; the moment I did it, it came back to haunt me twofold in the form of a guilty conscience that still weighs on me today. There will always be bad people and evil in this world, so just don't waste your energy or your nerves on them. A friend of mine, who knows quite a bit about these dynamics, once told me that malicious people actually feed off your suffering—so don't give them the satisfaction. Be stronger than them. Good luck! 👍

driftinghound12 said:Rather than quoting everyone individually, I’ll just leave a collective comment based on everything discussed so far... Sure, I agree you should distance yourself from toxic people—absolutely—but if life forces you to live with them or interact with them, you inevitably get sucked into their games. I'm not entirely sure if malice is hardwired into someone's DNA, but there's definitely a connection; my own father was like that, while my mother wasn't, and he constantly belittled her because she didn't fit his narrow vision of what a partner should be. Also, I never claimed I do things for recognition; I do them out of pure passion. What really gets to me is how society tends to reward hypocrisy, lying, or those who tear down someone else's honest work just to get ahead. As for getting even with these types of people, I have zero interest in stooping to their primitive level or wasting my breath trying to strike back. But when you're forced into a corner where you have to react, you end up burning through all your energy on useless nonsense, which is the kind of pressure I was thinking about...🙂

mellowjackal2 said:In my view, these individuals are shaped by growing up in toxic environments—specifically within a family home where they witness malice day after day. As a result, whether consciously or unconsciously, they continue to operate this way throughout their lives unless they find a way to break the cycle. They simply end up mimicking those same behavioral patterns forever.
It essentially comes down to a home lacking empathy, warmth, and genuine love, as well as a lack of core values. Later in life, they struggle to find any other way to exist because they haven't learned how to function in a healthy environment.

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Susan Robinson3 said:At first, I honestly thought someone was just trolling, 😵 but if this is for real, then here is my take. Looking at it through a religious lens, I see it this way: If Jesus wasn't meant to fully defeat Satan in this world, then I certainly can't be expected to either. 🙂Satan exists to test me, acting as a catalyst to help me discern what is truly good. I view evil as a profound trial that everyone must endure to mature and ultimately decide which path they want to walk.

I am certain that those who commit evil eventually face the consequences; I truly believe in the idea that everything comes back around. That said, facing evil can sometimes offer a strange kind of benefit, because once a person witnesses firsthand how destructive and corrosive evil is to both the spirit and the body, they often lose the desire to ever touch it again.

As painful as it is, evil can actually serve a purpose if a person is smart enough to learn from it—to realize that after hitting their head against a wall fifty times, they should probably try a different approach. Unfortunately, people tend to be quite foolish, often repeating the same mistakes and spinning in circles until they finally break themselves.

Man, I've been burned so many times that almost nothing really gets to me anymore. 👍

Not even a little bit, especially since the people I thought were close to me turned out to be incredibly toxic. Now, I only really trust my family, a few close girlfriends, and I trust everyone else even less.

I only trust myself. 😉

Mark Vaughn8 said:You’re looking at it all wrong. Jesus came here to wipe out Satan's work and give us a fresh start through his life on this earth. He beat him right here on the ground, once and for all.

neonsailor26 said:So, what exactly is the deal with people like that? Is it just plain old rudeness, or is there something deeper going on under the surface? For those who might not be familiar with the slang, basically, we're talking about people who love to get physical—to strike someone or hit things... specifically, I’m talking about those types who just can't help themselves when it comes to hitting people on the head or swinging clubs around and stuff like that. Why do they even do it? Is it—and I really want to emphasize this—is it just pure, unadulterated disrespect, or is it something else entirely? Because from where I'm standing, it feels like a genuine form of abuse (something I've actually had to deal with myself)...

And I'm also wondering, how should one even handle people like this? They always try to brush it off as just "messing around," but in my book, there is absolutely nothing funny about it—though, of course, you can never truly make those "people" see your side of things. Should I respond with something even stronger to show them they can't do that, or is it better to just steer clear of them altogether?

Thanks so much in advance for any insight you all can share!

Paul Thompson3 said:Hey driftinghound12! Skip the suicidal thoughts—instead, just realize you've been living under a delusion. You’ll have to accept this new reality and adjust your expectations and behavior to fit a new truth: most people aren't actually good, and if you give someone your total trust, you should probably assume they'll eventually betray it.
Next time, don't broadcast your plans; just do what you think is right for yourself first—confessions can be the icing on the cake later.

People respect bad actors simply because they fear them—kindness has never really been in high demand. People say it is, but let's be real, it isn't.
If you're looking for religious insight, the whole Jesus-Barabbas thing makes it pretty clear how the masses think.
Bad things are more powerful than good ones because that’s just how the world works. Destruction is fast and easy, while building something takes actual effort and time. A relationship built over years can be nuked by one person's actions in a matter of seconds.
Next time you're looking to make a friend, watch how they treat people they have absolutely nothing to gain from. If they're jerks to them, they aren't good people—don't waste your trust or your best self on them.

There are still plenty of decent, high-quality people out there—it just seems you haven't been lucky enough to be surrounded by them.