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Can someone help me make sense of this? in Psychology & Therapy ·
Jessica Chavez4 said:It would be great if we had kid-friendly and kid-free cafes, similar to how some places are designated as smoking or non-smoking. Though, if I were in charge, I’d probably categorize all the kid spots as "non-smoking" just to spite you all. 😳 :naci:

I have no interest in black-and-white thinking. 😁 But if, God forbid, I were granted the authority to implement segregation, at least 2% of the population wouldn't be allowed anywhere near a beer, an ice cream cone, a child, or a cigarette. 🤣
Can someone help me make sense of this? in Psychology & Therapy ·
Look, don't sweat it; nobody actually thinks you're some kind of failure as a parent, and you certainly aren't headed to a life sentence in prison.🙂 People were simply irritated by a baby crying in a setting where they didn't expect it—somewhere they went, much like you, just to grab a drink and relax. They felt a sense of relief once you left, and within two minutes, they had completely forgotten you even existed. The only winner in this scenario was the bar, assuming they ordered another round just to calm their nerves.🤣

When my kid was an infant, he used to scream his head off at the most "inconvenient" times, too, but I truly couldn't bring myself to give a damn about what anyone else thought. My child is the center of my universe; I just held him tight and did my best to soothe him. There is honestly nothing more rewarding than being there for your child and giving them your undivided attention and everything you can in that moment.

Just smile through it and tell everyone you had a wonderful time. Because you did! Don't let the atmosphere get to you, and for heaven's sake, don't pass that tension on to your baby just because someone is giving you a dirty look. If this becomes a regular occurrence, just pray it isn't colic. Enjoy every single outing with your little one, be a proud parent, and ignore the mindless stares from strangers. Trust me, they all screamed and dealt with diaper blowouts when they were little, too.😉
Jodi Arias in Psychology ·
feralhound17 said:Just looked at the photos—at first glance, it’s obvious this woman is incredibly skilled with makeup and total transformations.
https://www.google.com/search?q=jodi+...n2IcXlPK_FgdAJ
From a sexy blonde—maybe even too sexy—to this naive, innocent, intellectual librarian vibe with posture so soft you’d think she wouldn't even crush a mosquito.
For a second, I almost thought—no, there's no way she could have done it.
But honestly, it's possible someone actually advised her to pull off those looks.

Asking how people like this are made is a stupid question.
In different circumstances, maybe she wouldn't have done what she's accused of, and then she wouldn't be categorized this way in the first place.
My take is that there is always some kind of trigger or reason why someone does something—regardless of how banal that reason might seem to the people watching.
Either way, her methods are extremely masculine, since these kinds of crimes are usually committed by men.

If someone truly doesn't care whether they spend their whole life in a cell, face execution, or walk free later, the only thing that's obvious is that the person doesn't feel like they're losing anything significant—not through imprisonment, and not even through death.

I've been following this high-profile trial here in the States, and it's a shame there aren't more broadcasts available.

As for this blonde, my first thought is how many forum members will see her and think about how hot she is, thinking she shouldn't have killed him but could have just been with one of them instead.

Sorry, I have to circle back to this claim of yours. I’m not at all surprised by your conclusion, nor do I blame you for it. It is perfectly clear to me that your perception is warped and that you are a victim of a systemic media campaign—which, in the US (at least as long as I can remember campaigns against sexual violence have been waged here), boils down to portraying men as the sole aggressors. Not long ago I wrote about how such falsified, intentionally unorganized, and unprofessional data processing has led us to a credibly convincing number one spot WORLDWIDE for the number of male perpetrators (a staggering 96.2%). So, if that were actually true, I would wonder how American women can even live alongside their so many bloodthirsty males, and why they haven't all moved to Canada, or at least Jordan, Guinea, Zambia, Sierra Leone, Laos, or Ethiopia where they might feel significantly safer.

On that note, I want to add something regarding this topic of Jodi, because I find it baffling why the American public hasn't reacted with the same level of outrage toward the crime committed by Ana Magaš, who also has BPD and who, according to her attorney's testimony, is a manipulator, and who did not kill her husband from behind in self-defense. Jodi is portrayed globally as a "psychopath," while the perpetrator Ana is treated almost like a saint here; meanwhile, her butchered late husband is characterized by leading women's organizations as a typical male abuser who more than deserved his fate, resulting in him being doubly victimized without any shred of piety regarding his death.

In the scientific article Borderline Personality and Criminality, a detailed clinical psychiatric study on the makeup of prisoners convicted of the most serious felonies is presented:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2790397/

The authors presented data showing that research indicates generally 25 to 50% (depending on the specific country) of the TOTAL number of convicts have borderline personality disorder. That is drastically higher than the 2-3% of people with BPD found among the general population outside of prison, as I have already noted. The data is grouped by various parameters; for instance, in the United Kingdom, out of 90 convicted murderers, as many as 49 have BPD, whereas in France, "only" 8 out of 99 murderers have BPD, and so on....

However, the national statistics from all these studies clearly demonstrate that among those convicted of the most serious felonies, the number of female prisoners with BPD is three to eight times higher than the number of males with BPD. (For example, in Germany, 5.3% of men in prison have BPD, whereas there are as many as 42.9% female BPD prisoners).

Therefore, crimes like the one committed by Jodi Arias are mostly committed by women. Using methods that are three to eight times more "distinctive" than those of men. 😢
Jodi Arias in Psychology ·
Samuel Harris10 said:I suppose one reasonable conclusion is that she’s a pathological liar, a sociopath, and a psychopath—which she almost certainly is.

Your conclusion is a bit of an oversimplification.🙂 Until recently, experts who hadn't personally examined her were merely speculating that Jodi isn't some simple sociopath, pathological liar, or narcissist as the media portrays her, but rather someone struggling with borderline personality disorder (BPD).

Among them, Dati Archer was the first to publicly identify the diagnostic criteria for BPD within Jodi's behavior:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ality-disorder

Sheila Wendler, a forensic psychiatrist based in Hawaii, holds the exact same view:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/0...n_2528011.html

Finally, Dr. Janeen DeMarte, an official witness for the District Attorney's Office, precisely diagnosed Jodi as having BPD during the trial just three weeks ago.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/jodi-arias-...ry?id=19028331

Samuel Harris10 said:But how does someone like that even develop? Is it nature and genetics, or a combination of environmental factors?

In their book, The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide, specifically in the chapter titled "what causes borderline personality disorder" on pages 41-60, Alex L. Chapman, Kim L. Gratz, and Perry d. Hoffman acknowledge that scientists have only just begun to solve the complex BPD puzzle. Nevertheless, they boldly conclude in the text that the most common cause of BPD is biological—specifically involving reduced functionality in the prefrontal cortex, or impairment of the amygdala and hippocampus—thereby challenging the rigid, outdated notion that BPD is caused exclusively by childhood trauma.

feralhound17 said:Just looked at the photos—at first glance, it’s obvious this woman is incredibly skilled with makeup and total transformations.
https://www.google.com/search?q=jodi+...n2IcXlPK_FgdAJ
From a sexy blonde—maybe even too sexy—to this naive, innocent, intellectual librarian vibe with posture so soft you’d think she wouldn't even crush a mosquito.
For a second, I almost thought—no, there's no way she could have done it.
But honestly, it's possible someone actually advised her to pull off those looks.

Asking how people like this are made is a stupid question.
In different circumstances, maybe she wouldn't have done what she's accused of, and then she wouldn't be categorized this way in the first place.
My take is that there is always some kind of trigger or reason why someone does something—regardless of how banal that reason might seem to the people watching.
Either way, her methods are extremely masculine, since these kinds of crimes are usually committed by men.

If someone truly doesn't care whether they spend their whole life in a cell, face execution, or walk free later, the only thing that's obvious is that the person doesn't feel like they're losing anything significant—not through imprisonment, and not even through death.

I've been following this high-profile trial here in the States, and it's a shame there aren't more broadcasts available.

As for this blonde, my first thought is how many forum members will see her and think about how hot she is, thinking she shouldn't have killed him but could have just been with one of them instead.

Because of generalizations like that, several people on this forum have been banned multiple times, and threads have been shut down... ☕

Just so you're aware, BPD is officially classified as a disorder that affects roughly 2-3 percent of the total population according to the World Health Organization (WHO). To break that down further, women make up about 75% of cases, while men account for the remaining 25%.