Can someone help me make sense of this?
in Psychology & Therapy ·
So, I’m out for a walk today with my three-month-old (who basically lives in my arms), and we decide to stop at an outdoor patio for a quick break. I order two sparkling waters, and within minutes, the baby just starts crying. It’s not just a whimper—it’s a full-on meltdown. I tried holding him, but nothing worked; he just wanted to be carried. He was clearly overstimulated and fussy. Honestly, I felt so embarrassed. In a moment of total desperation, I just set him down to lie there and cry for about ten minutes while I had a cigarette and finished my water. Eventually, the crying turned into this intense, piercing screaming.
Just a few yards away, there was this group of about six people in their 30s, and they were staring at me the whole time.
When I finally decided to head out, I apologized for the noise. They didn't even say anything back; one of them just gave a little wave, like a "whatever" gesture.
I really want to know what you guys think. Was I being judged?
Was it because I was being "rude" by staying and making everyone listen to the screaming instead of just leaving immediately? Or were they judging me for letting the baby cry while I sat there calmly smoking and drinking?
How would you have reacted if you saw this happening? What would your take be, and honestly, how should I have handled it?
Just a few yards away, there was this group of about six people in their 30s, and they were staring at me the whole time.
When I finally decided to head out, I apologized for the noise. They didn't even say anything back; one of them just gave a little wave, like a "whatever" gesture.
I really want to know what you guys think. Was I being judged?
Was it because I was being "rude" by staying and making everyone listen to the screaming instead of just leaving immediately? Or were they judging me for letting the baby cry while I sat there calmly smoking and drinking?
How would you have reacted if you saw this happening? What would your take be, and honestly, how should I have handled it?