Carl Rivera43 said:I’m looking at this through a positive lens, and honestly, this whole post is proof of that.
So, whether they realized it or not, it seems like others—either consciously or just through vibes—pushed you to finally put this down in writing.
As for answering the title: you absolutely deserve opportunities, chances, and support from the people around you. But how do you actually make that happen?
Well, look, I’ve definitely had my fair share of whims and failures along the way, but if I look back over the last few months, I can see how much work I've put into myself. It’s been a journey.
Here’s a great link that touches on this topic:
http://www.nytimes.com/family/how-to-build-better-relationships-after-struggle
Thanks for this, I'll give it a read.
vividowl3 said:Look for value in things outside your immediate bubble. When you're out there in the workforce, what really matters—what actually moves the needle—is having a broad perspective and the sheer grit to stick with it. There is always some niche area where you can outperform the competition, and if you play your cards right, you can showcase and prove that superiority. Of course, it all depends on which university program you're coming out of.
You probably haven't looked at it this way before, but honestly, there are so many things in life that could be significantly worse. People tend to treat being "average" as if it’s some kind of tragic flaw, even though they already possess it! It’s absurd. If you have average eyes, you don't spend your days mourning the fact that you lack one eye or that you weren't born with those piercing blue eyes you see in Hollywood movies. Just embrace who you are; frankly, the people around you likely accept your reality much better than you do.
Nicholas Gonzalez8 said:So many people walk around thinking they’re unattractive. It’s crazy. But honestly? There’s always someone out there who thinks you look great—it just takes a little time. At the end of the day, beauty is totally subjective; what one person loves, another might not care for at all.
Look, I was never much for manual labor either—I definitely wasn't built for grinding through heavy lifting or anything like that. But I kept searching until I finally hit on what actually clicked for me. If I were you, I’d go ahead and take a Jungian personality test. You might actually get some decent leads on what kind of career would suit your vibe.
And listen, being born into nothing doesn't mean you'll stay that way. You can absolutely build your own fortune and change your circumstances over time 🙂
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Also, if you feel like you don't fit in socially, maybe it's just because you haven't found "your people" yet. Once you connect with just one person who truly gets you, it becomes so much easier to spot others like them.
I didn't say it couldn't happen. Like I said before, I know there are plenty of bottom-feeders out there.
Look, regardless of how I feel about myself... I don’t exactly look like some average Joe. I’ve got a decent build and I'm pretty lean, sure. But between the long face, the big nose, and the cherry on top—this receding hairline that gets worse by the day—it's what people notice first. It’s tough to deal with, especially when you factor in my shitty attitude and all my other flaws. Makes it even harder.
Look, I'm not some robot that can just flip a switch and act like everything's fine without feeling anything. If anything, this is when I'd need someone close to me most. And yeah, there are girls I find attractive, but they're way out of my league—okay, maybe that's subjective, but why would I think I could charm them?
Honestly, I don't even know why I'm posting this. I'll probably just get some pity comments or people telling me "maybe you have that special something." We all know how it works: looks come first, then money or brains... and I'm lacking all three.