People who are choosing to be childfree
in Psychology ·
granitetiger69 said:
Why obsess over something you physically can't do? IVF can drag on for years.
On adoption, YOU'RE RIGHT.
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Why obsess over something you physically can't do? IVF can drag on for years.
On adoption, YOU'RE RIGHT.
People who are choosing to be childfree
in Psychology ·
electricbear222 said:I don't see myself ever having kids... I'm neither conventionally attractive nor wealthy, and frankly, it doesn't seem like anyone is interested in getting intimate with me.
Reminds me of infertility and IVF. People always go looking for some sign from above, but honestly, being sterile is about as clear a sign as you're gonna get—you don't need to have kids.
People who are choosing to be childfree
in Psychology ·
Choosing not to have kids is perfectly fine. Sure, maybe it’s not "natural" since humans—like every other living thing—have that biological drive to reproduce. But how does someone decide they just don't want to be a parent?
I hope one day we start prioritizing the reasons "against" it like this:
1. I'm not ready for the responsibility of raising a child, knowing I'll inevitably force my own biases on them while simultaneously robbing them of other potential paths. The thought of limiting someone else's choices that much actually terrifies me.
2. I realize the planet is already overcrowded and my own existence is basically a luxury.
3. I want a career; I don't want life to just pass me by.
It feels like that third point is usually the big one, which is pretty sad. It’s just as selfish as having kids just so you can brag about it to your family and friends.
I hope one day we start prioritizing the reasons "against" it like this:
1. I'm not ready for the responsibility of raising a child, knowing I'll inevitably force my own biases on them while simultaneously robbing them of other potential paths. The thought of limiting someone else's choices that much actually terrifies me.
2. I realize the planet is already overcrowded and my own existence is basically a luxury.
3. I want a career; I don't want life to just pass me by.
It feels like that third point is usually the big one, which is pretty sad. It’s just as selfish as having kids just so you can brag about it to your family and friends.
People who are choosing to be childfree
in Psychology ·
Grace Edwards said:👍
One reason why talking to people feels less and less necessary to me lately. If we agree, I feel like I'm just talking to myself. If we disagree, it actually hurts—like physically hitting my head against a wall. And if I just bite my tongue and give some fake little smile just to keep the peace, then what's the point? It feels like a massive waste of time to pretend.
It's pretty rare to find someone who hits that perfect middle ground on everything.
But, back to the topic...
The other day I was watching this documentary about folks from a small town in Texas. When an Imotian was describing this single guy who traveled halfway around the world and started his own business, he ended up adding that the guy had no wife or kids. "See? Nothing there." 🙏
Then, when he talked about one of his neighbors' marriages, he went, "They have five kids, so clearly the marriage works." Sure, maybe the husband gets aggressive after a few beers, or maybe they can barely afford to feed the kids, but apparently, "if there are five of them, everything is just fine." 🙏
Go ahead and talk to those people you disagree with. Seek them out. Those debates help you figure out who you actually are, and they help others too. It's worth the headache,