Posts by silvercyclist69

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Paul Martinez15 said:I’ve definitely found that working on myself helps dial down the envy—but man, I’ve got another hurdle to clear. It absolutely kills me when someone who had a massive head start—like, they were born on third base while I was still trying to find the stadium—acts like they’re somehow smarter or better than me just because of where they started. It’s soul-crushing.

When you say it "gets to you," what does that actually look like? Do you find yourself engaging with those types of people, or do you just steer clear?
I can't help but wonder if that old saying, "birds of a feather flock together," actually holds true for everyone.

Envy is such a fascinating emotion to pick apart. We all feel it at some point, but I’m constantly wondering where we draw the line—when do we decide to actually lash out at someone because of what they have, and when do we just let it go? It seems like there's a massive divide here. You look at incredibly successful, wealthy people, and they rarely deal with this kind of resentment; instead, people tend to openly admire their achievements and their status. But then, on the flip side, you see certain individuals who get constant backlash and targeted simply because of their success. What’s the actual driver behind that? There’s this deep-seated concept of petty jealousy that pops up whenever one person gains even the slightest edge over another. It stems from those tiny, incremental differences between us. We like to tell ourselves we all started on a level playing field, which leads to that nagging thought: "If we all had the same shot, how did they end up getting ahead of me?" It’s strange to me how, in certain parts of the country, people will shower praise on criminals, folks who just moved in for quick cash, or career politicians, yet they’ll turn around and openly resent someone who is genuinely educated, hardworking, and building something legitimate. Where does that disconnect come from?