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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how much of a gamble it is when a club decides to move on from a player who has basically carried the team on their back. It's such a weird tension. On one hand, you have the logic of the business side—maybe they need the cash, or maybe they think they can find a "newer, better" version of that same talent.
On the other hand, it feels like a gut punch to the supporters. We see these guys as the heart of the squad, the ones who actually deliver when the pressure is on. I remember back in my local amateur league, we had one guy who was absolutely unstoppable for two seasons straight. When the club eventually let him go for a decent fee, the whole vibe of the team just died. We never really recovered that same spark.
It makes me wonder if clubs are getting too obsessed with the "next big thing" or just balancing books at the expense of actual chemistry. Is it ever worth losing your most reliable asset just to refresh the roster, or is that just a recipe for a mid-table slump?
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Joseph Bailey41 said:I think Kinslow is great. It took me a little longer to really "get" it, though... the book didn't totally click for me, but his audio exercises are phenomenal. There's one specifically for negative emotions that I just listen to whenever. Lately, I haven't needed them as much because I've grasped the core principle and can apply it on my own. It's all about focusing on that "empty space" between two thoughts or emotions. You watch the thoughts or feelings pass by just to catch that gap that eventually opens up between them... and then you just observe that, along with the sense of peace that comes with the process.
👍Yeah, there's also this way of looking at it:
http://www.newlife.com/how-to-stop-ruminating-on-thoughts/
For a long time, I thought controlling my own mind was an impossible feat. Then, I spent a long while knowing it was possible, yet failing to actually reach that state and feel it. Now, I can finally say I have experience communicating with my own mind. I wouldn't call it "control," though... it's more like observing your own mind.
Our minds are hardwired to build constructs, script scenarios, and manufacture emotions. Most often, these are just emotional patterns the body got used to from the past, regardless of whether they actually support us or hold us back. I’m sure everyone reading this has felt that moment where the mind simply refuses to stop racing through a topic. If you feel like you can't shut your mind down—like it’s somehow detached from you and just "playing its own movie"—that is the sign that you can observe it. The fundamental truth we have to grasp is that we are not our minds. Or rather, we aren't *just* our minds.
The well-known American author of "Quantum entrainment", Frank Kinslow, discovered a clever technique to help quiet your thoughts. Suppose you find yourself under siege by your own thinking. What you can do is consciously tell yourself: "Now I am waiting to see what my next thought will be." Then comes the next sentence: "Now I am waiting to see what shape my next thought will take?" Followed by: "Now I am waiting to see what color my next thought will be?" What you'll notice is that in the gap between waiting and the arrival of the new thought, a void emerges. That void is the thoughtless space. If you keep repeating those questions, that thoughtless space expands.
A second technique is more demanding; it involves letting thoughts arise while simultaneously watching them as if they were a separate part of you. Try framing it like this: "Let's see what my mind is producing now, what story it's trying to sell me. I won't believe it immediately; I'll just watch it for a start." In other words, you move yourself into a space where your awareness (your attention) observes your thoughts. In that moment, wisdom becomes your natural state. Because wisdom is precisely the refusal to be tethered to your own feelings and projections; wisdom is the ability to maintain "just-in-time" self-reflection and make decisions based on free choice rather than emotional turbulence.
In short, you can't control thoughts, but you can observe them and recreate them. Thoughts will come regardless because the space they emerge from is infinite and unknown to us. As a leader, you face thousands of stimuli daily that trigger specific thoughts and feelings. When that happens, just remember and ask yourself: "Whoa, what is my mind trying to create now? Are you being useful to me right now, mind, or are you not?" You'll see how the mere act of observation changes the content of your thoughts and your emotional reaction to them. Usually, the shift moves toward peace, strength, and a change in direction.