Posts by restlesscanyon5

Don't just take the path of least resistance.

Nothing in life comes with a guarantee. Not even those decisions we’re absolutely certain about. Things can fall apart before you even realize it.

So why be afraid?

We all run the risk of failing, even when we start out with the best intentions. That applies to everything, not just your career. That's just how life works. It's part of growing up, too.

Responsibility is pretty subjective anyway; at the end of the day, it really just boils down to your own conscience.

If you have the chance, do what you love and what actually fulfills you. Take that fear and turn it into a drive to be the best at what you do. Trust me, people notice when you put in the work, and eventually, it pays off.

Your job is to show up and take ownership. You're going to mess up—that's a given. You're a human being, not some programmed machine, and humans make mistakes. As long as it isn't intentional, you'll be fine.

Ladies, I need some advice...

Everything used to be totally normal from my very first cycle. My period usually shows up every 22 to 25 days.
But for the last two months, nothing. And no, I’m definitely not pregnant.

Has anyone else dealt with this?

My doctor is out on medical leave before starting her vacation, and frankly, I really don't feel like hunting down a new physician right now. I'm not in any pain—if anything, I actually feel great...

jadewolf16 said:Honestly, life is a breeze if you're a gorgeous young woman—or even if you're just a good-looking older lady or a handsome guy, right? It’s a little tougher on the older guys who aren't exactly easy on the eyes, and it gets even trickier for the younger ones... but man, it's brutal for women who aren't much to look at. But wait, brace yourselves for the absolute hardest part: it’s definitely those stunning women who are just starting to hit their first wrinkles!

Spot on.

Once you hit 25, everything just starts sliding downhill.

Sometimes I have a hard time believing the person in this photo from 10 or 15 years ago is actually the same woman looking back at me in the mirror...

My grandma used to tell me to get married while my face still belonged to me and my body was actually appealing to others, but well... life happens.

Jessica Gomez5 said:I'm not going to get dragged into a massive debate about this because it's pointless unless you're dealing with a situation that is an exact mirror image of mine. This whole "DNA" argument is nonsense, and honestly, I'd change my mind in a heartbeat if I were facing a different scenario... Look, it goes like this: Of course I am going to care for my brother and make sure he's taken care of, but I am not going to carry his entire existence on my back for the rest of my life... Do you even realize how twisted and unnatural that would be? He is a grown man who isn't capable of looking after himself; he needs to be surrounded by people in his same situation in a facility designed specifically for that kind of support, because that is what's best for him and for me. We're talking about specialized assisted living or community housing tailored for people like him—not some depressing nursing home, but a place providing 24-hour care with activities designed for their specific needs. I can still visit him and take him home for the weekend whenever he wants... Since I spend so much time around people in similar situations because of him, I know exactly what I'm talking about, and as for the emotional side of things, everyone should just keep that to themselves. He is my brother by birth and he isn't responsible for his condition, but neither am I. Parenting is one thing, but being a sibling is something else entirely. Why am I getting worked up? Because I've already run into comments from people who don't understand, assuming I should have to shoulder all the responsibility myself. Even professionals argue against that because it's unnatural, and that's how I feel too—for the sake of my future family and for my own sanity. Beyond our parents, we don't share anything else, and my moral duty is simply to ensure he is properly cared for for the rest of his life.

I hear what you're saying, but you don't get us. It's obvious to everyone here, including you: when parents of a child with special needs pass away, they leave that weight squarely on the shoulders of the healthy sibling. We aren't here to debate eugenics, so let's move on...

That line where you said "...I have no relationship with him and he's a huge burden..."—that's basically you spitting on your own character.

No one is claiming medical facilities are better than home, but people feel best in their own environment. That's why your brother is at home; his parents didn't just get rid of him.
The way you're presenting yourself is honestly pretty grim. You're turning your back on your own blood just because it's heavy. And you know, you have the exact same genetic makeup—what happens if you have a child with the same condition? What then?!

Taking care of your brother could actually give your life purpose and make you a better person. If you actually spent time with him, you'd see your whole perspective on what matters change.

Believe me...

Jessica Gomez5 said:Don't take the comment about emotions too literally, because you have no idea what his headspace is actually like right now. You also don't know the dynamic my parents spent years building while trying to shield me from his mental health struggles just so I could have a normal shot at starting my own family... anyone who actually lives with a family member like this will get exactly what I mean, but it's easy for everyone else to judge from a distance while watching it play out on a TV screen. Living through it every single day is a completely different story.

From the moment you're born, you're basically destined to be the one left holding the bag, looking after your brother.

I know exactly what that's like, even if I can't fully grasp what you're feeling. When it comes to my own family, nobody's going to step up and care for them better than I will. My future spouse is going to have to accept that as part of the deal—just like they'll have to accept our shared DNA.

How can someone who claims to be such a good person say they feel absolutely nothing for their own brother?

Regardless of his condition, he’s still family...

Just swallow your pride for a second and talk to him. Tell him that, honestly, life usually throws more curveballs at us than we actually want to deal with.

Yeah.

It's just because they have zero awareness of what life actually is.

You see the exact same thing with people struggling with severe mental illness or dementia. They lose that connection to life, to themselves, even to the world around them...

I guess most people are only happy until they finally come face-to-face with real fear.