bluemason3 said:To be honest, this feels more like a psychology lecture than an actual PDF. Self-actualization depends entirely on which crowd you decide to hang out with. In this context:
- Buddhism/Advaita: Who is this "you" experiencing the problem? Where do these issues even originate? None of it—not your ego, nor the stuff happening to it—has any objective or lasting reality. Once you grasp the illusionary, transient nature of existence through a direct insight into reality, everything else just sorts itself out. If you don't have to make things difficult, don't.
- Devotional Religion: A higher power dictates and knows everything. Your best bet is to surrender and let go. Let it happen according to His will and grace. Whether it works out or not, we play by His rules.
- The Dark Path: Stop being a coward. Build yourself up, learn to look out for number one, and quit blaming everyone else for your own weaknesses. Make a fortune, maybe summon a demon in a black hoodie if you feel like it. Do whatever you want. Just make sure you're the one in control when it counts.
- Fluffy New Age Vibes: Calibrate your aura, read some mystical poem about love and wisdom, and pay someone to tell you how special you are. Basically, just get lost in the sauce.
That’s pretty much the long and short of it.
Well, buddy, that’s exactly where he runs into trouble. He can't find anyone who actually matters to him because whenever he meets someone who *could* be important, he approaches them with that attitude of yours: "No big deal, I can step up if I have to (but if I don't have to, I won't)."
...and so he just goes through the motions, consuming people and then showering them with gifts only as much as he can stomach, and only when it fits his own temporary little moment.
So, you with your marijuana-nirvana, and those self-absorbed, six-headed trolls (let's not even get into your equinox jam-making antics right now)—you guys aren't exactly producing much in the way of actual self-fulfillment.
He who leans toward emptiness finds his fulfillment in that emptiness.
He who leans toward fullness will be filled.
@ Mr. steelmarlin77, you're searching for fulfillment by looking at your own reflection in the people you've showered—and continue to shower—with attention.
...And hey, let them tell you how much they actually care about you. Don't pretend to be something you're not.
(I've always found it funny how the people who claim to be the most self-aware are usually the ones with the least amount of sincerity. It's always such a shock to them when there's nobody left to remind them of what they've actually achieved—which, let's face it, is usually quite a lot.)
@ Mr. steelmarlin77, why don't you try giving back to those people in your life, not for your own sake, but for the sake of God? That is, for the One who is in charge, for the end justifies the means, and in Him lies the realization of everything. 🙂
He is the giver of Truth to every single one of us—on our own time and on our own terms.