Posts by Chris Cooper5

Gary Perez9 said:I mean, am I hanging out with you, or with blurred, outoffblue, daimlerbenz, ginki, janeway, or whoever else happens to be around?😂

So what's this trash even competing against now? Honestly, forget that eyesore... I can't even tell if it's male or female at this point.☕

lonegardener said:Like I said, it’s a total lottery. You either get lucky or you don't. I highly doubt you can manufacture a friendship through some calculated strategy or forced effort. If you do, it isn't a friendship; it's more like a business partnership. You should check out the Tennessee Williams novella, *Suddenly Last Summer* by Stone. I think you might enjoy it... and it's a quick read, maybe around 60 pages or so.

Hmm. Nothing makes sense to me either, yet I never feel bored. Though, perhaps we define "boredom" differently.

😍 See? It's obvious to me that what you said above was a provocation, yet I still can't resist responding. Well, shoot.

But tell me—how exactly did you conclude that I am "perfect just the way I am"? Because if you truly perceive me that way, then you've managed to read me better in a moment than I have in all these years. In that case, I have no choice but to tip my hat to you. 🙏

I mean, look at me, I never even leave my apartment—especially not out at night—so I have no clue where someone would even meet a friend. It would probably just be the mailman, or the guy from Comcast coming to fix the cable, the cleaning lady, or the cashier at the grocery store downstairs. There aren't exactly many options there. Then again, it's a different story if you're out and about every day, being part of the world. Even if you are social and always down to hang out.

lonegardener said:Like I said, it’s a total lottery. You either get lucky or you don't. I highly doubt you can manufacture a friendship through some calculated strategy or forced effort. If you do, it isn't a friendship; it's more like a business partnership. You should check out the Tennessee Williams novella, *Suddenly Last Summer* by Stone. I think you might enjoy it... and it's a quick read, maybe around 60 pages or so.

Hmm. Nothing makes sense to me either, yet I never feel bored. Though, perhaps we define "boredom" differently.

😍 See? It's obvious to me that what you said above was a provocation, yet I still can't resist responding. Well, shoot.

But tell me—how exactly did you conclude that I am "perfect just the way I am"? Because if you truly perceive me that way, then you've managed to read me better in a moment than I have in all these years. In that case, I have no choice but to tip my hat to you. 🙏

I don't know, I deal with enough mental health stuff that life itself feels more boring than anything else, I guess. And, well, maybe you can live without friends if you're a peaceful person and you're okay with what you've got. But then again, humans are social creatures, and they say you're only worth as much as your circle of friends. Sometimes I'd love to just grab a coffee with someone, talk about interesting things, hang out, and share the highs and lows. When I don't have anyone, I just have to find other ways to stay busy. It would all be fine if I were healthy. But like this... it's not great whether I'm alone or out in a crowd.

Gary Perez9 said:

I was just sitting here thinking about how much things have changed lately, and honestly, it’s kind of wild when you stop to look at it. I remember back in the day when everything felt a bit more straightforward, like when I used to spend my Saturday mornings wandering around downtown Chicago just soaking in the atmosphere before grabbing a coffee. Now, it feels like there's always this constant hum of activity and change happening right under our noses. It’s funny how life works that way, isn't it? One minute you're just cruising along, and the next, you realize the whole landscape looks different. Anyway, I hope everyone is having a wonderful day and finding some little moments of peace amidst all the chaos! kaže:
Well, I guess things are finally shifting around! I’ve been stuck up here on the high ground for a while now, but I’m actually getting ready to move down to the spin unit. It feels like a bit of a change, but honestly, I'm looking forward to it.

Don't worry about moving me over to the spin class just yet; I’m actually right on the verge of hitting that advanced level!🤣

Well alright then, when are we actually gonna hang out?

Just a quick heads-up, please try not to get into any heated arguments on my thread. I’m really just looking for some constructive conversation here.☕

silenttinker said:Look, I’ll just be honest—I struggle with socializing, and honestly, the whole concept of "socializing" itself is a massive headache for me.😎

Well, you aren't exactly making things interesting here... maybe try a different thread? I don't know, honestly.🤷

Gary Perez9 said:YOU JUST DON'T GET IT, AND NEITHER DOES ANYONE ELSE☕

If they had gone through everything you and I did... man, it's tough. Finding a real friend is harder than it looks, I guess.

Gary Perez9 said:Oof, you're actually a bit out of my way, but maybe once I'm heading up to visit my aunt in New York City.😉

Dammit, I’m stuck up here on the high ground, but I think I'm gonna head down to the Spinney.

Gary Perez9 said:YOU JUST DON'T GET IT, AND NEITHER DOES ANYONE ELSE☕

Honestly, I feel like nobody really gets me. It’s like... I don't know, maybe I just don't say things the right way? Or maybe people aren't actually listening. I guess it just feels that way most of the time.😢 I guess I’m just one of a kind. Or maybe that's just me thinking that. It’s a weird feeling, I suppose.🥳

Gary Perez9 said:I mean, aren't we already close, plus I'm pretty sure you're secretly head over heels for me anyway.☕

fine then, so when are we grabbing coffee? or am I just not your type either?

quietheron6 said:Chris Cooper5, you’re totally contradicting yourself here—like, pick a lane! You say nobody wants to hang out with you and that you're lonely, but then you turn around and say you blew off a friend because you just aren't feeling the social vibe. Make up your mind and stop venting about nothing.

Look, that friend was just boring, so I guess I was right to ditch her. And yeah, maybe I am being contradictory... I know that. I'm just trying to figure it all out, I guess.☕

lonegardener said:Yeah, you're describing a really tricky situation here. It truly is, and personally, I don't have some magic recipe to "overcome" it—something that's guaranteed to work. I often get the feeling it just comes down to pure luck, or maybe just a lack of interest.

To be honest, I’d say the only real difference between us is that I never actually get bored. I can't remember a single time in my life when I felt that way. Even if I wasn't doing anything particularly important. For instance, even being here on this forum isn't boring at all; if anything, it's the opposite. I'd go as far as to say that "boredom" is a state of being that I don't really understand. 😕

It doesn't always boil down to luck, I guess. Honestly, a lot of it comes down to who you actually are as a person. Looking back at my old school days, I noticed so many people were always surrounded by these huge groups of friends, mostly just because they were social butterflies or whatever. I wasn't really that type—I never really hung out with anyone outside of class. And those massive friend groups? Most of them don't even speak to each other anymore. For me, if I decide someone is a friend, I’m that kind of person for life. It's just... well, I don't really have many friends to apply that to right now. I have a few left over from high school, but we never actually see each other. They're good people, and they've helped me out plenty of times—I really do care about them—but they aren't exactly what I picture when I think of a "best friend." There are just so many different factors involved in all of this, I suppose.

lonegardener said:Yeah, you're describing a really tricky situation here. It truly is, and personally, I don't have some magic recipe to "overcome" it—something that's guaranteed to work. I often get the feeling it just comes down to pure luck, or maybe just a lack of interest.

To be honest, I’d say the only real difference between us is that I never actually get bored. I can't remember a single time in my life when I felt that way. Even if I wasn't doing anything particularly important. For instance, even being here on this forum isn't boring at all; if anything, it's the opposite. I'd go as far as to say that "boredom" is a state of being that I don't really understand. 😕

Boredom is usually defined as this lack of purpose or meaning, I guess. Or maybe that's just it. For me, honestly... I don't know, everything feels pretty tedious all the time. It’s probably just hit this weird, unhealthy phase in my life. Not that there’s much sense to anything anyway, if I'm being real. Some people can spend their whole lives alone and never feel bored, but for others—people like me—everything just feels flat. Even hanging out with people gets old fast. So, I don't really get why I'm even typing this out, saying I need friends or whatever.🙄

Gary Perez9 said:I'm definitely not a clone myself, though I might know who actually is😛

so, uh... you wanna be friends or what? 😍

Chris Cooper5 said:I suppose it’s because I haven't left my apartment in five days. ☕ Most people are just kind of boring to me anyway, so I don't really feel the urge to build friendships with them. It’s just... I don't know, it feels a little awkward that nobody talks to me at college. I don't get why. ☕
I'm in a new city now, so I mostly just talk to the cashier and my parents on the phone. I guess that's why I end up posting so much on this forum.

Maybe people aren't actually that boring. You don't really know until you actually meet them. But how do you even do that? I don't know. Every time I do meet someone, we never become friends. It almost never happens. The thing is, I just can't bring myself to do it. I don't have the energy to go out and hunt for friends or try that hard. I've got way too much other stuff going on. But then, in the end, I just get lonely.

Take my major, for example. There are about a hundred people in my program, and they all hang out in these little groups, while I'm always just... there by myself. I really don't understand why. And I guess it's pretty normal that people gossip about me since I'm always alone. To be fair, I am a bit of a loner, so maybe they're laughing at me, but the truth is I've always had a million things running through my head and I just don't have the drive to socialize. Then boredom hits, and I realize I don't actually have any friends. I don't really see how a psychologist could help with that part. I don't know.

lonegardener said:Have you considered the possibility that you might have misread the situation? 😉

Look, you even admitted that people constantly misinterpret you. Do you think it’s impossible that you might be doing the same—misinterpreting things yourself?

You wrote, "ignore me, just like everyone else." While it doesn't follow with mathematical certainty that you view yourself as "different," it certainly implies it. Human conversation isn't a logic puzzle where everything has to be stated with 100% precision. There are nuances, implications, and subtext at play here.

But let's move past that. So, you believe you're a completely normal person. If that's the case, what exactly is the issue? Why are you struggling with socializing when other "normal" people aren't? I assume you have some sort of initial theory on why that is.

I suppose it’s because I haven't left my apartment in five days. ☕ Most people are just kind of boring to me anyway, so I don't really feel the urge to build friendships with them. It’s just... I don't know, it feels a little awkward that nobody talks to me at college. I don't get why. ☕
I'm in a new city now, so I mostly just talk to the cashier and my parents on the phone. I guess that's why I end up posting so much on this forum.

Gary Perez9 said:well, if you aren't in the loop, I guess your clones definitely are.🤣

get lost, you damn clone🙄☕

And honestly, I don't really care... even if I don't finish my degree, it's not like the world is going to end.☕

Wait, what does jbfc even mean?

Gary Perez9 said:Look, you really have to take everything written here with a massive grain of salt. For starters, I’m honestly skeptical about whether he’s even heading to that college; if he is, he’s been failing classes for years, and as for the whole thing with his friends, I just can't be too sure myself.🤷☕On a side note, I think you're actually pretty fun to talk to over on the psychology thread and the general chat, even if it feels like everyone else there is constantly picking on you.😂

Well, I am going to college, but I'm not really attending classes regularly. And honestly, I don't have a single friend there.

lonegardener said:It wasn't you. 😕

You asked "why am I like this," so I gave you an answer. I assumed you were asking about the concept in general, rather than just focusing on your specific situation.

(To be fair, I haven't scrolled through your entire profile—I'm sure you've made plenty of logical slips yourself. And I certainly have my own. 😍 )

No, it's not that. You're telling me that *I* think you're different from everyone else, and then you explain how you aren't actually special and are just like everyone else. It's like... I never even said you were different in the first place. I'm just a totally regular person.

lonegardener said:It’s a professional hazard. Let me break it down for you visually:



See that underlined wavy line? Also, take note of the red X on the left and that little red square on the right edge of the editor.

Well, that’s exactly what happens in my head whenever I spot a logical fallacy. For years, my first instinct whenever I see that red line is to fix it Amazon. 😍

Yeah, okay, but which logical error did I actually make?