analogdriver52 said:Man, when I wanted to see if I could actually pull this off, I just switched to a diet heavy on stews—think chili, beans, leeks... stuff like that. I kept carrots in the fridge so I could just grab one for dinner. Combining that with some core workouts to tighten everything up gave me results crazy fast. Now I know if I don't keep my posture tight, those pounds will just creep right back on.
Oh, and I cut out the sodas and candy bars and swapped them for fruit. Don't even try telling me you can't do that... it sounds ridiculous. Just say, "No, I don't want to give up chocolate, lounging around, soda, or great food," and call it a day. Stop with the "I wish I could" nonsense.
I'm really curious about that "pretty fast" part! How fast are we talking here?
David Mendoza4 said:So I basically tell her exactly what needs to change so things can finally get better, but then after a little while, everything just drifts right back to how it was before.
And look, I never said I hate everyone, so please don't put words in my mouth! It's more that I've just been really vibing with my own company lately, you know? Most people just don't really click with me, especially when I'm out in those big, random crowds where I don't feel like I belong. I'm definitely more of an introvert, but honestly, what's the big deal? It’s not a problem for me at all; I'm just trying to share what I've been going through with anyone else here who feels the same way.
Heh, I actually have a perfect quote for this... one of those hilarious characters I run into—he runs a local Airbnb business, so we cross paths quite a bit during the summer—once told me: "Listen, kid, there's no worse kind of guest than a loner. There are two reasons they're traveling solo. Either they're crazy and nobody wants to travel with them, or they're going through a breakup and they're crazy because of that." 🤣🤣
Personally, I love the idea of just disappearing into a crowd, heading out into the wilderness, or just staring blankly at some imaginary point in space. I don't see why anyone would find that weird. Honestly, there are plenty of much worse ways a person could spend their time than just being alone...
Anyway, I'm totally with you. I wouldn't call myself an introvert—not even close—but I just can't be bothered talking to strangers or dealing with boring people about all that superficial stuff like: "How's it going?" or "How's school?" —> my god, I really couldn't care less about those things. Sometimes I'll literally hop off a Greyhound bus early just to avoid having to chat with someone incredibly dull.
One of the few things I love about living in this country is how much great weather we get, so I'm constantly out on my bike, which means I rarely run into the horrors mentioned in the paragraph above. 😍 😍
7. When those mid-day hunger pangs hit, stick to apples or other kinds of fruit—it helps keep things moving through your digestive system. Just watch out for bananas; they can actually be a bit deceptive when you're trying to stay on track. 8. You really need to ditch the junk food—I'm talking chips, salty snacks, and that habit of eating your feelings with cookies. Look, I'm not saying you can't have dessert, obviously, but let's try to keep the portions reasonable. 8. Once you're done eating, get up and move around a little. Don't just head straight for the couch or bed; maybe take a quick stroll through the local park or down to the beach or somewhere similar. Just keep the body moving. 9. Try to lean more toward cooked meals rather than fried stuff—honestly, if you can avoid frying things altogether, that's even better. 10. Eat plenty of vegetables and scale back on the meat consumption.
If any other bits of my old routine pop back into my head, I'll be sure to let you know. 😉
My old man used to always yell at us, "You kids need to watch what you eat!" So, what kind of diet are we talking about here? Honestly, most advice is just nonsense. If you actually want to drop 30 pounds in four months, here’s how you do it: 1. Cut out the booze entirely. I mean, not even a tiny sip once a month—just forget it exists. It’s not happening if you want results. 2. Get yourself a bike and ride it, or go out for a run, or hit the pool. Whatever you do, don't bother unless it's for at least 30 minutes—you have to burn through those sugars first before your body even touches the fat. 3. Drink two big glasses of water at least half an hour before you sit down to eat, and then don't touch any liquids for an hour after your meal. If you drink right after eating, you basically dilute your digestive enzymes, and you'll just end up gaining weight instead. 4. You should be drinking at least one liter of water for every 50 pounds of body weight. And don't just chug it all at once—there's no point in slamming water if you aren't thirsty; you'll just end up running to the bathroom and peeing it all out without any benefit. Same goes for everything else. Just have a glass when you wake up and another right before bed. 5. Say goodbye to bread, pasta, and rice. Just leave them alone. Especially the bread—and definitely stay away from the white bread. 6. Just keep moving.
There you go. As you can see, it isn't necessarily about eating less food. If you follow this and still don't see progress, well, then you might just be a lost cause and there's nothing left to try!🤣
silverbison62 said:Of course it isn’t... man, if we could just have one single day without some idiot breathing down our necks so we could finally get rid of everyone who drives us up the wall... I work in this super niche specialty shop, right? And every single time, some clueless person wanders in and basically announces, "I have absolutely zero clue what I'm doing, please help me." So, I walk them through it and give them two clear options—because trust me, I tried offering more than two once and it just turned into a total clusterf***—but they still just stand there staring blankly at the shelves like a deer in headlights. They end up wasting my precious time, time they could be using for literally anything else instead of just being a complete drain on my sanity... Like, seriously, what does a label even mean to you? You literally admitted you don't get it, so just take the one I suggested and beat it!
Get this—the ATM is totally empty. I’ve had two locals come by ten different times already just to ask when it’ll be refilled, and I have to tell them ten different times that it happens at 2:00 PM sharp!!! They'll probably show up again, too. I guess they don't have much else to do, so it's easier to just pester me...
Anyway, if nothing else happens, I'm wrapping up work in five minutes, heading home for some food, popping my earbuds in, and riding my bike all over the island.
silverbison62 said:🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏oh boy, oh boy... my absolute favorite part is when someone walks up to ask a question, but they don't even have a clue what they want or how to phrase it... I swear, I'd just start screaming if I could...
If I actually started listing every single bit of nonsense these people dump on me, I think I’d probably just implode right then and there—but let me give you a perfect little example of pure idiocy. This guy—just a total moron, really—spent about five minutes acting like he was about to ask me something important. He pulls up a chair, sits down, grins right at me, and then just walks away without ever remembering his question... Now, I have a question for all of you... what do you think? Did he put the chair back??
vividtrucker10 said:I was just wondering—roughly speaking—at what point did you all become such misanthropes?
I have this feeling that I've always been this way—though, looking back, maybe it really kicked in once I started college. Or perhaps somewhere toward the end of high school.
Hey everyone. Quick question here! I’ve really struggled with being around people over the last five years—honestly, I try to avoid them as much as possible. If I go out for coffee, it’s just a quick thing, then I’m out. But one thing I’ve noticed lately—and this has been going on for about two and a half years now—is that I feel pretty much asexual. So, I was wondering... do you guys think those two things might be linked? Just a thought...
feralorca82 said:Yeah, I'm in the exact same boat. The issue gets worse (in my opinion) when you try to explain it to someone. They just don't get it and start looping with questions like, "But why? Why's that? Why this?"—goddamn leeches 🙂 leave me alone! Nothing is worse than being totally drained and having someone relentlessly pry for info you have no intention of sharing.
To make matters worse, you always end up looking like the jerk or the moody one because you "hurt their feelings" just by letting them know to go f***
So, let me borrow a line from a really dear song: AND I FEEL, LIKE I JUST GOT HOME!!!🙂 🙏 🙏 that’s... well, that’s basically the gist of it. Just leave me be. I don't even want to look at you, let alone listen to you, because all I can hear is 🙂
It’s funny how family always seems to be this foundational backdrop for everything we try to achieve—you know, that constant presence behind every goal. In my case, though, they pretty much stepped back the moment our first real argument went down. They realized fairly quickly that there was zero point in sticking their noses where they weren't wanted.
Jamie Davis9 said:Well, I suppose I’m officially joining the club. People have this exhausting way of wearing me down and getting on my nerves—even those closest to me eventually—so I find myself at my absolute happiest when I'm flying solo. It happens more often than you'd think ( 😁 ) where I just won't bother opening the front door, I'll let the phone ring indefinitely, and I won't venture any further than the local Target. My career requires me to be constantly talking and managing others, which I don't mind, but once I'm home, my house is my sanctuary of peace, solitude, and total autonomy. I don't even invite people over for visits. 😁 My family tells me that being this neurodivergent isn't healthy, but honestly, I fail to see the problem. I'm perfectly content. When I feel like being social, I am, but most of the time, I have zero desire to see a soul. It's as simple as that.
Way to go, Jamie Davis9! I am in the exact same boat here. I agree with everything you said, word for word. 🙂
Honestly, you’re a lost cause—really. You’re an embarrassment to us fellow misanthropes, those of us who find our only joy in the simple fact that we just can't stand people! I’ve only got five words left for you: please, seriously, go get some help!! 🤣 You absolute menace!! 😁😁😁😁 😉😉
How could I not? It’s just about staying upbeat—honestly, riding my bike has always been my go-to for a mood boost, especially with some good music playing in my ears. You’re a long way from being a total misanthrope like I am. H-ha, you just have to put in the work and stay consistent. Just look at me!! 😁 😉
Amy Scott93 said:This pretty much sums it up. Lately, I’ve been trying to find some peace—if I can't make peace with the people around me, at least I try to be at peace with myself after telling them where to shove it. And then I feel bad. Honestly? The payoff is usually pathetic. It’s like most people have zero self-respect. After I get blunt with them, they end up apologizing for things they didn't even do, and listening to those apologies just makes me feel even worse.
You aren't a misanthrope—you've just fallen into a bit of a rut where everyone is getting under your skin. Just take a breather. You'll feel better soon enough.
Donna Taylor68 said:The funniest part is when my buddies ask why I’m always glued to my PC—as if they wouldn't rather just "hang out in person" 🤣 as if! 😍 Question: where does this all end up long-term?
For some people, it definitely leads toward isolation or becoming a bit of a hermit. For me, though—and this might sound a bit random—it actually pushed me toward cycling through the hills and valleys, finding new trails, and traveling more. Whether I'm heading out to the Pacific Northwest or just exploring a nearby national park, I can actually afford to do it now because I don't spend nearly as much money hitting up bars or going out every weekend. I even quit smoking! 😁 The only slightly awkward part is that initial feeling—that sense that your group of friends is looking at you a little weirdly because you're traveling solo—but hey, that passes pretty quickly. Just grab your sunglasses, pop some music in your earbuds, and just go. I don't know about everyone else, but for me, it's been absolutely brilliant. 😍
Hey there. Well, welcome to the club, my friend. I’m actually dealing with the exact same thing. If I can offer one little bit of insight for your own sake—though it might be a bit late for me—my social circle didn't just become unbearable overnight. It was more of this slow, agonizing grind over a really long period of time. It was just a constant stream of these little things they kept doing—stuff that always rubbed me the wrong way, you know? Things like being chronically late, being totally unreliable, just general laziness and all that nonsense. I realized I was slowly losing my mind because I kept trying to nudge them to change, while they were actually getting worse—they see right through me, they know it bugs me, but they just keep doing whatever they want anyway. So, eventually, I just flipped the script, and now here I am, chatting with you. Anyway, it is what it is. My personal theory? You aren't born a misanthrope—you kind of just grow into it over the years.