Dealing with jealousy
in Psychology ·
Hey steeltiger2.
I totally get you. From what I’ve been through, I know how those completely delusional feelings can just hijack your brain, and how damn hard it is to help someone else when you're stuck in that headspace. For me, it’s like this massive pile of obsessive, irrational thoughts where I basically force myself to suffer, and unfortunately, my partner ends up being the target. I had one disastrous relationship before this, but the real issue goes way deeper than that. It’s all just a nasty byproduct of my own low self-esteem, feeling weak, and that constant fear of being rejected, failing, or just getting hurt emotionally.
I wish there was an on/off switch to just kill these thoughts in my subconscious, but honestly, I’ve hit a point where I can't control them anymore. They spiral so hard they end in depression and anxiety attacks that totally wreck my ability to live a normal life.
Look, you never truly know anything in life, and you can never be 100% sure about anyone—including your partner. But I’m pretty sure I won't find anyone more patient or better than the guy I have now. It’s not that he gave me a reason to doubt him; it’s just that I’m insecure and dealing with my own baggage. The problem is entirely me.
Anyway, enough of this depressing rant. What I’m realizing is that I need professional help. I can’t handle this on my own, and even with my partner’s support, I’m the one who has to fix this. Like Kate Collins5 said, jealousy is just a symptom of your own insecurity, and that's where the work starts.
I'm not trying to lecture you, but I know I need a solid therapist to teach me how to actually deal with these feelings constructively. I'd function so much better in every part of my life, not just when it comes to romance.
I totally get you. From what I’ve been through, I know how those completely delusional feelings can just hijack your brain, and how damn hard it is to help someone else when you're stuck in that headspace. For me, it’s like this massive pile of obsessive, irrational thoughts where I basically force myself to suffer, and unfortunately, my partner ends up being the target. I had one disastrous relationship before this, but the real issue goes way deeper than that. It’s all just a nasty byproduct of my own low self-esteem, feeling weak, and that constant fear of being rejected, failing, or just getting hurt emotionally.
I wish there was an on/off switch to just kill these thoughts in my subconscious, but honestly, I’ve hit a point where I can't control them anymore. They spiral so hard they end in depression and anxiety attacks that totally wreck my ability to live a normal life.
Look, you never truly know anything in life, and you can never be 100% sure about anyone—including your partner. But I’m pretty sure I won't find anyone more patient or better than the guy I have now. It’s not that he gave me a reason to doubt him; it’s just that I’m insecure and dealing with my own baggage. The problem is entirely me.
Anyway, enough of this depressing rant. What I’m realizing is that I need professional help. I can’t handle this on my own, and even with my partner’s support, I’m the one who has to fix this. Like Kate Collins5 said, jealousy is just a symptom of your own insecurity, and that's where the work starts.
I'm not trying to lecture you, but I know I need a solid therapist to teach me how to actually deal with these feelings constructively. I'd function so much better in every part of my life, not just when it comes to romance.