Posts by Keith Lee86

Matthew Robinson3 said:I’ve actually tried some of these methods before because I've been searching for answers long before I ever sought out advice like this. Some worked, some didn't, but I'm still putting in the effort, which is exactly why I decided to reopen a thread like this.

Well, from where I'm sitting, it looks like you've already gathered all the tools you need. Honestly, I went through a phase myself where I felt like I had to lay out every single secret and life lesson for anyone who showed even a shred of interest in me. But here's the thing—people aren't all the same. Not everyone is "all in." And most importantly, not everyone is YOU. Some people will just nod along like they get it, while others might actually mock you or look down on you for sharing. And honestly? You're actually better off when the second group shows up—whether it's friends or family. Why? Because that's how you know you're actually onto something! If you were pouring your heart out about your mental state and someone just shrugged it off like it was nothing, then you'd be on the wrong path. It's impossible to just "get" deep stuff instantly, so anyone claiming they fully understand you in a heartbeat is probably lying to your face. Also—and this is big—you don't owe anyone your help. You can mention a few options (which it sounds like you've already tried), but that's it. If they want help, they'll come find you. You have to lead by example! Become the kind of person you'd actually want to be, and people will notice. They'll gravitate toward you and ask for your take without you having to say a word. That's how you actually help people—by living it. Otherwise, you're just shouting into the void. Your first priority has to be working on yourself; you're the only person you're truly responsible for.

Matthew Robinson3 said:If anyone has some actual advice, I’m all ears. How do you deal with living among people who just don't get you? It feels like they can't even begin to grasp any real depth. You have parents who seem like they never truly knew who you were to begin with, and friends who treat you like some sort of joke. How am I supposed to survive on the mere hope of meeting someone new—someone who might finally let me turn the page and actually start my life? I'm tired of constantly reshaping my own story just to be accepted by people who aren't even listening.

I’ve been through this exact thing myself—well, at least with my parents—and honestly, it’s still happening. Other circles are usually a bit more chill and open to people who are different, you know? But man, I don't think there are many moves left on the board here. Some people would tell you, "Just pack your bags and leave," or "Start over like you said, flip the script." But it's never that simple—it's never just a straight line. If you try to walk away, the people you're leaving behind will probably claim you've totally lost your mind; they'll do everything in their power to keep hovering over you. It’s incredibly hard to sit them down and say, "Look, I'm moving out because of X and Y," and expect them to just say, "Okay, fair enough." And then there's the money issue—if you don't have a steady career or if you're still stuck in school, forget about that option entirely. Let me put it this way to make the point clearer: if you try to prove to a speeding freight train that it's heading the wrong way, and you stand right on the tracks to show it... well, it's just going to run you over. Sometimes it's just smarter to step aside and keep your thoughts to yourself. To avoid those massive blowouts, sometimes you just have to cave a little and retreat into your own corner... that’s honestly the path of least resistance.

electrictinker26 said:What do you think? It seems like the issue is really about letting go of specific memories or the way we identify with a self-constructed illusion—basically, we get too caught up in our own personal narratives. I just thought of that in English and didn't feel like translating it back.

Or maybe it's just an issue of accepting things as they are, right? 🙂
In my case, my people actually love me for exactly who I am—which is a little different from the norm—and we talk about this stuff all the time. We joke around about it, too; it doesn't always have to be some heavy, soul-searching drama. I mean, if you've found your path and others haven't, what, are you supposed to just stop hanging out with them? That sounds ridiculous.
And regarding the alcohol thing—that’s really on you. There are plenty of spiritual paths out there that will never tell you to quit everything cold turkey; instead, they teach you to accept reality as it stands and then work with it—to transform those habits into something higher, etc. I guess that's helped me... anyway, cheers.

When you’ve got a goal in life, you tend to go all in to make it happen—but let’s be real, sometimes things just don't pan out. Other times? They just fall into your lap. One minute you’re thinking about it, and the next, boom, there it is, before you even realize what hit you. Now, people talk a lot about "manifesting" or attracting what you want, and they love to credit free will for that. Wrong!!! Totally wrong! Everything is already set in stone—it’s already happened. We like to flatter ourselves by thinking we have free will, but even those actions we claim are our "choices" are really just karmic reactions playing out. Even Jesus talked about how everything is predestined—to the point where He said even the hairs on your head are numbered. At the end of the day, true free will basically doesn't exist. It’s just a concept for people who get caught up in the whole duality trap—you know, the endless back-and-forth of good vs. evil, black vs. white, love vs. malice...