Posts by Dana Kim4

Michelle Evans said:The question wasn't actually directed at me, but I'll weigh in anyway:
Blaming others and holding onto resentment won't lead to healing or a better life. It actually does the opposite...

Yeah, I mean, I totally get where you're coming from—dwelling on it doesn't help anyone—but sometimes it’s just really hard to move past all the crap people have thrown at you throughout your life.😢

placidwolf27 said:Honestly, what difference does it make whether someone is at fault or not?

Assigning blame doesn't actually change reality... nothing shifts because of it.

A lot of people share responsibility for an individual's mental health—including the person themselves—and while you can certainly dissect everything to find specific triggers or causes, the situation remains exactly what it is... guilt is ultimately a useless metric here.

Besides, who would even be the culprit? You? Them? The federal government? Morality? Santa Claus?

And why shouldn't this matter—really? I mean, we’re talking about our actual feelings, our health, and our lives here. The people who might actually be responsible for all this—as Dana Kim4 points out—are just out there living their lives, totally unbothered. Meanwhile, we’re the ones dealing with the fallout, getting sick and suffering because of the choices they made toward us. Honestly, I don't see any reason why this shouldn't matter to us, or why it shouldn't mean everything.

Anthony Torres102 said:Do you think other people are responsible for our mental state, or are we the ones to blame for everything going wrong in our lives?

Maybe if we had just walked away from certain people sooner, we’d actually be living better, more fulfilling lives right now. We wouldn't be stuck dealing with depression or carrying around these heavy mental health struggles that eventually spiral into actual physical illness...

It’s a common pattern: once someone gets sick, everyone around them starts pointing fingers, acting like it’s their own fault. People rarely stop to ask about the environment that person was living in or the sheer amount of trauma they endured before finally hitting a breaking point.

So, who is actually at fault?

What’s your take? How much of your current situation or your illness do you attribute to the people around you?

As for me, there are definitely some specific people who are to blame for dragging me into the mess I'm in right now.😢