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Thomas Davis6 said:Yeah, honestly, what you did was pretty selfish and just plain low. You really think it’s okay to just ghost someone without any explanation and leave them spinning their wheels, wondering what they even did wrong? I mean, being direct might sting at first, but ignoring someone and cutting ties like that... it doesn't exactly scream "good character." People always say they can't "look someone in the eye and tell the truth," but most of the time, that's just a cover for being too cowardly to face the music.
Thomas Rodriguez14, you should definitely just be upfront with that girl. Like, totally straight up. No need to play games or beat around the bush.
True, but do you honestly believe saying "I'm sorry, but I don't enjoy your company anymore" would have been any less painful? In my specific situation, it wouldn't have helped at all—I know exactly how she reacts to things.
There simply is no graceful way to end a friendship.
I’ve been in a similar spot. On her end, we were, I think, best friends. She is lovely and all that good stuff—we never fought, our relationship was perfectly civil, there's no argument there—but after a while, I just stopped finding her fun. It felt like hanging out with her was becoming a chore. I definitely felt like this friendship didn't carry much weight for me anymore, and honestly, it started feeling suffocating. Just a "friendship" existing for its own sake. I’d find myself wondering more and more often, "What the hell am I even doing here?" 🤦 And now... how do you actually explain to someone close to you, out of nowhere, that you don't want to hang out intensely anymore? Honestly, I have no clue if there’s a smart way to handle it. My solution, as cowardly and selfish as it was, was the simplest one: I just cut all ties. It was definitely selfish and a total jerk move, but I couldn't bring myself to say it to her face. 😢 On the flip side, ignoring everything swirling in my head and pretending everything was fine seemed like an even worse option. So, I started ghosting her. It was incredibly difficult, and I wasn't sure if I was doing the right thing, but enough time has passed that we don't just stop hanging out—we don't even say hello anymore. It was an excruciating situation, but looking back, it feels like things ended up where they should have. My advice to you is: if you have the guts, tell her to her face. If not... well, learn from my mistake. Just be prepared for your conscience to sting for a long time. But even that fades eventually. Anyway, good luck. 🙂