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I’m cut from the same cloth. I prefer one-on-one conversations where there’s actual substance—shared interests and topics that allow a discussion to breathe. Or maybe a small group of three at most. Once the crowd gets larger than that, I tend to fade into the background; the noise and the constant social posturing just drown everything else out. Sitting through massive gatherings for hours is a struggle. Whether it’s a huge family reunion or a long birthday party that drags on for five or six hours, I’m usually checking my watch after sixty minutes, just waiting for an excuse to slip out.
Being alone doesn't bother me either. I stay busy researching things, reading, browsing, or hitting the gym. I can easily spend hours just walking by myself without feeling a bit bored.🤷
I don't think we're talking about people who are forced into isolation against their will. It's more about those who are naturally solitary—the ones who simply don't fit in because they find loud, overbearing social circles exhausting.
Back when I was younger and had fewer responsibilities, I knew I was an introvert, but I figured it would eventually just fade away. Once I got married, though, it became much more obvious. My wife started making me feel like some kind of social outcast for avoiding crowds, and there’s this unspoken rule in American culture that couples always have to hang out with other couples. Now, if we’re at a gathering with four or five other pairs and I decide to skip it or bail early, I get labeled as the weirdo or told that I just don't like people.
It isn't that I dislike them; it’s just that I can't stand the topics, the pushiness, and the endless hours of mindless chatter and petty gossip. I’d much rather spend my time reading, going for a hike, hitting the gym, or traveling instead.
I used to be big on socializing and hitting the town, even though I’ve always been a bit more reserved than the average person. As I get older, I’m realizing I only really need a handful of close friends—people I click with perfectly in a one-on-one setting, or maybe a small group of four at most. Those are the people who actually get me.
Most other social circles just feel draining, and honestly, I don't see the point. I could spend days on my own, watching TV, browsing the web, or just walking through downtown, without feeling any itch to be around people. Over the years, social expectations have started to feel like a heavy lift—family gatherings, holiday parties, and long-winded get-togethers. I can handle about an hour before I hit my limit, but when these things stretch into six or seven hours? It's brutal. After that first hour, boredom sets in and I’m just counting the minutes until I can leave. I dread weddings, christenings, First Communions, birthdays, or those endless office parties...
Common courtesy and social etiquette suggest you shouldn't turn down invitations to weddings or religious ceremonies, and I get that. But what about birthday parties for people who aren't part of that inner circle of four? How do you dodge those without looking like a complete weirdo or being rude?
The thought of spending hours at a kid's birthday party, a family reunion, or a friend's bash where I know the crowd and the conversation won't resonate with me is exhausting. An hour is fine, but six hours...🤦
I didn't quite follow that last post.🤷
Could someone clarify?
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