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Thanks everyone for all the input. I’m sticking to my guns with these new decisions and staying focused on this new path.
Things can either stay stagnant or actually get better. It’s not like I’ve had a lifetime of absolute chaos, but there was enough junk in my life that I just decided to cut ties with whatever was draining my energy. Honestly? It feels great. I made a massive change for myself and it’s been wonderful. 🙂
Seriously though, thanks again. I’ve never really been the type to take charge, so I’m not even sure how I pulled this off. It just hit me all at once and I went for it. If I hadn't stopped saying "I'll start on Monday," I never would have made it happen.
Sure, the beginning is rough, but if you want it badly enough, you'll make it work.
Sending my best to everyone. 👋
Alex Barnes8 said:It won't be negative; better is usually better.😁
But you should probably expect some setbacks.
Maybe you're riding that high from a fresh start right now, which is fine. But that momentum isn't permanent.
Old habits tend to pull you back. People often miss the point at first and try to force things to stay the way they were, or maybe society doesn't always support someone trying to change... those are just some hurdles, among others.
I guess you shouldn't fear temptation, though. Usually, it's just about facing the same thing again, maybe a bit harder this time. 😁 And every time you push through, the change sticks a little more, eventually becoming part of who you are.
It starts to take over your life, regardless of those old patterns.😉
Expect to feel exhausted, or like giving up, or feeling stuck. When that happens, just tell yourself: 'Well, this is what Alex Barnes8 told me to expect.'😍
Take breaks when you need to. Don't overdo it. There's a difference between effort and just forcing it.
Keeping a journal might help, too.👍
It really is nice to have strangers rooting for you sometimes. Thanks a ton. 🙂
I'll keep your advice in mind, don't you worry. 🤣
Oh, and about the journaling—I've actually been doing that for almost two years now. I love writing. For me, it's basically my pressure valve.🙂
Aaron Jackson3 said:Honestly, I think it’s impossible to say how long this honeymoon phase from all those changes is going to last. You’re basically just stuck waiting to see how the dust settles. If I were in your shoes, though? I wouldn't be sweating it. I’d be feeling pretty damn good about the fact that you actually had the guts to pull all that off in the first place. It means if things go south—and let's face it, they might—you already know you have the skills to fix it and do it all over again. 🙂
As for me? Man, I struggle to change anything at all. Usually, it takes some absolute disaster hitting me right in the face before I even consider making a move. :/
But honestly? I am happy. Truly. I'm really proud of myself because I used to have zero backbone. And don't even get me started on quitting smoking—my record back then was a whopping two and a half days. 😬
I guess I was just wondering how much this kind of sudden lifestyle overhaul can mess with your head.
Matthew Castillo5 said:Seriously, props to you for pulling off so many positive changes. I really hope you can stick with it! 👍
Thanks so much. 🙂
Hey everyone.
Look, I’m really not sure if this is the right subforum to start a thread, but I couldn't find anything better suited.
I'm curious about how much these small, simple, or even drastic changes actually help versus how much they might hurt.
I’ve decided to treat this year as my big fresh start.
I made a choice to hit the gym and get back in shape after all those holiday feasts and just being lazy for a few months. I also finally got serious about school. I started studying more, and I actually decided to change my major. It turns out what I was studying just didn't fulfill me. It wasn't even hard; I just didn't care about it and couldn't see myself doing it long-term.
Then there's the social side. I decided to cut ties with certain people. It wasn't because of any huge fights or hatred or anything like that. It's just that I'm tired of dragging things out—meeting up once a month, sending the occasional text, playing the part. I let go of those draining relationships that weren't necessarily "bad," but they were just exhausting my energy.
On top of that, I landed a great job through a recruiter. The people are super interesting and nice, the workload isn't too crazy, and the pay is solid. I’ve even started saving money, which used to be nothing more than a dream for me.
I also deleted Facebook. It was eating up all my free time, and some of the people on there were honestly just exhausting. I used to be glued to it 24/7. I feel so much better now that it's gone. The people who actually matter have my number and know where I live, so they can reach me easily. I don't need some silly app to stay in touch with my friends.
Right now, I am happy. New job, new habits, home life is good. I’m genuinely happy, in the truest sense of the word. Not too high, not too low. This is the first time I’ve done so many productive things for myself in such a short window, so it’s all very new to me. I'm in a bit of a positive shock.
How much do these kinds of massive shifts actually benefit your life? So far, everything is hitting me positively, but for how long? Maybe there aren't any downsides to making these changes, but what should I expect moving forward?
Hope you guys get what I'm saying. 🤣 👋