Posts by vivideagle8

silentmaker4 said:Meditation, meditation, meditation... 🙂 😍

Look, diving into some spiritual books is all well and good, but honestly? It’s pretty much a waste of time if you aren't actually sitting down and doing the meditation work to back it up
😁

I just can't seem to focus when I try to meditate. Is there a specific technique to help quiet the mind?

Elizabeth Castillo87 said:The holy spirit just can't be weak. It’s freaking invincible.
We just tend to forget that sometimes, don't we?🙂

That’s true. At the end of the day, you just have to trust that things will work out. There isn't any other way.

Just wanted to say I’m slowly getting back to my old self, working on clearing my head and finding some peace. I've been reading quite a bit, praying a lot, and just holding onto the hope that things will improve. They have to. It is high time I start practicing some self-love and actually live life on my own terms. Thanks to everyone for the advice; I was in a really, really dark place for a while, but 🙂 happens. Finding inner peace and happiness is what matters most. There are still plenty of good, kind people out there 🙂

Michelle Sanchez2 said:That’s the gist of it, though calling them comparable is a stretch; Transurfing is an extensive series spanning about 1,400 pages, which is quite a leap from the Louis Hay approach, even if they share similar philosophies.
As for why things stalled for you—it's obvious you either lost momentum or hit a mental roadblock. You likely encountered some internal friction in the process that you haven't quite identified yet.

For me, it was incredibly transformative, but trying to recount every single specific instance would be an endless saga. It’s better if you just dive in and experience it firsthand. Beyond that, we have a dedicated Transurfing sub-forum here where you can read through everyone else's experiences; honestly, it's easily the most uplifting corner of this entire site.😁

Fair enough, I'll give it a read. 🙂

Michelle Sanchez2 said:You can find the answer to this in Transurfing.😉

How exactly did Transurfing work for you? I’m considering diving into all those books. I’ve read Louis Hay before and they seem to share some similarities—the idea that you shape your future by using your own vibrations to attract people. Her positive affirmations worked for me for a while, but then I hit a wall and nothing happened. In her book, she talks about how life is wonderful and that if you maintain that mindset, it will be so. She emphasizes forgetting the past and forgiving both yourself and others.

electrictinker26 said:Guilt is nothing more than an illusion... because karma exists. Everything you do, whether good or bad, eventually balances out. You might feel fear that your mistakes will manifest physically in a future life, but by then, it’s already too late. Your soul remains pure and untainted. Most of what we struggle with are just physical burdens; if we didn't have these bodies, these problems wouldn't exist. Since life continues beyond death, your soul stays flawless.

That's beautifully put.

Elizabeth Castillo87 said:Forgive who? And for what, exactly? Look, vivideagle8, at the end of the day, words are just vibrations in the air—they don't mean anything until you decide they do. You're the one handing them all that weight. That's why what Henry Kim3 said about guilt is actually spot on. It eats at you, sure, but it’ll keep gnawing at your soul as long as you believe there’s actually something to be forgiven. Because if you're looking for forgiveness, you're basically admitting someone had the power to hurt you in the first place. Why give them that much control?

Honestly, I think the real question isn't what happened or why... it’s more like, WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU? Seriously, where have you been hiding? I can't even begin to wrap my head around this one. Seriously, where do we even start? It feels like we’re just spinning our wheels in the sand at this point, doesn't it? Everything is just... messy. I mean, honestly, how did we get here? Is anyone actually paying attention, or are we all just collectively deciding to close our eyes and hope for the best? Because from where I'm sitting, it looks like a total train wreck in slow motion. Does that make sense? Or am I just shouting into the void again? Probably both. Definitely both. Stuck? Feeling like you’re hitting a wall? Look, I guarantee there’s an angel hovering nearby whispering, "Hey, this isn't on you. Let it go. You’re worthy of better than this." But then—bam!—that other voice kicks in. That nasty, intrusive little voice that screams, "Are you kidding me? How can you be so naive? You *are* to blame! It’s all your fault!" And just like that, you crumble. You break down, the tears start flowing, your heart just shatters, and it feels like game over. Your angel is sitting right there, totally helpless, because you aren't listening to the light—you're tuned into some spiritual fraud that’s busy tearing you apart. Listen, life is tough. You have to walk through the fire and gain some actual wisdom just to figure out which voice is telling the truth. Every single soul is fighting a spiritual war, and let's be real: you HAVE to learn how to fight. You are standing right in the middle of the battlefield every single day, and your only job is to come out on top. So, stop asking, "Where did my angel go?" Instead, try asking, "Where am I getting stuck?" Give that angel a chance to actually reach you. If you let them in, nothing can touch you. Their whole damn purpose is to protect you, heal you, guide you, and eventually lead you home to that eternal joy in the presence of Jesus. 🙂

Henry Kim3, where exactly is this "spiritual warfare" supposed to be happening?

It eats at me because I don't believe in myself. I can't find a job, I went to college for something I hated and failed at it, and love feels non-existent. When people ask where I see myself in five years, I have no answer because I'm completely lost. So much of this is eating me alive—feeling like such a weakling and being so unhappy because of it. I don't look forward to tomorrow, and I honestly can't see the point in any of this.😢

Henry Kim3 said:There’s this persistent voice inside you that won't shut up, constantly whispering: "Look at how weak you are. You're worthless. Everything goes wrong because you're fundamentally flawed. Nobody loves you, nobody actually wants you around... It’s all your fault, this and that, and you know you'll never be able to forgive yourself..." I guess it's important to realize that this isn't some divine guidance from God. It’s more like a demon has crept too close because you've kept your heart walled off. First things first: you have to learn how to forgive. You need to start by forgiving others for everything they've put you through. Honestly, just deciding in your own heart to let it go and making a genuine effort to move past it is enough. And after that, you really need to forgive yourself. If you do, I imagine you'll feel this massive weight finally lifting off your chest. 🙂 Furthermore, I think you should try praying to God a bit more often. Maybe pray that He might release you from those chains of guilt and the hatred you hold against yourself...

vivideagle8 As specified by Henry Kim3:
I suppose I just let people hurt me and drive me to tears, even though deep down I know they don't have the slightest clue who I actually am.

I suppose allowing others to hurt you isn't necessarily a bad thing, provided you actually learn how to forgive. It’s much harder to be the one who causes the pain—the kind of guilt that eats away at you until you can't even sleep at night because your own conscience is tearing you apart. Maybe the real lesson here is just learning how to respect yourself first; if you do that, respecting others becomes a natural byproduct. You have to forgive people, you have to forgive yourself, and then you just need to go out and live YOUR life. Don't waste a single second worrying about what people are saying or all their mindless lecturing. Honestly, I think it's better to live alone or just with one decent person than to spend your life chasing after a pack of idiots just so you can be the leader of them.

Your sense of inadequacy is eating away at you, and honestly, it’s destructive. You're letting other people's words and actions get under your skin, and that is something you can never allow to happen—not to yourself, and certainly not to them. Let them talk their trash and act however they want, but you need to live your life for yourself, not for their approval. If you want to show them you're stronger than they are, just let them see that nothing they do can touch you. I guess you have to learn how to outgrow your own reactions. It sounds easier than it looks, but you can achieve that through forgiveness. You simply shouldn't take everything people say or do to heart. People have become incredibly malicious lately; they will do whatever it takes to tear you down just to feed their own egos. It’s like they’re trying to siphon off your life energy to fuel themselves. Don't let them. Build a shield using your faith in God and your own heart, and then nobody can touch you. I don't think you realize just how much damage people can actually do to you if you give them the permission to. I'm not saying you should go around breaking people's arms when they attack you, but in your own heart, you have to know your own worth. You have to know what others are truly worth, too. You really need to learn how to filter out the noise from everyone else.

I suppose a better question would be, WHERE DID YOU GET STUCK? Your angel is right there, surely telling you, "it isn't your fault, let this go because you are worthy," but then this other voice creeps in saying, "how stupid can you be, how can you believe you aren't at fault, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING!!!" and then you just break, you cry, your heart shatters, and that's that... Your angel is powerless then, simply because you aren't listening to them; instead, you're listening to some fool on the other side of spirituality who is destroying you...! A person has to learn wisdom, they have to go through so much in life just to learn HOW TO KNOW which voice is the right one, because, for every single soul, there is a spiritual battle, and you MUST learn how to FIGHT! You are standing right in the center of all of this, and every day you are on a spiritual battlefield from which you must emerge as a winner...! So, don't ask "where did my angel get stuck," ask "where did I get stuck," because, if you allow your angel to approach you, no one will be able to touch you, since their entire purpose and goal is to defend you, protect you, heal you, help you, advise you, and lead you to themselves into eternal joy before the face of Jesus... 🙂

Yeah, I know that this lack of self-belief triggers all the other problems in life. This constant self-guilt happens because I haven't found myself yet and I don't love who I am. I constantly put myself down and let others walk over me. Life is a struggle, and you're on your own. I'll listen to the advice; there are good people out there who want to help, even if it's just virtually. I just know the theory perfectly, but in practice, I'm a total mess.

Michelle Sanchez2 said:Your angel is stuck exactly where you are.🙂
If I may offer some guidance, I would suggest picking up some books by http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eckhart_Tolle.

Once you've worked through those, you can move on to Transurfing.

I will. I've heard of him before.

silvermason2 said:@Michelle Sanchez2, you’re making some really sharp points here. Honestly, I could probably go have a chat with the angels about this too. Every time I’ve tried being totally upfront and giving people real advice, they just end up running off to find answers somewhere else. Then they come back with that shallow garbage like, "Just push through it," or "Get out more, you'll feel better." Yeah, right. Total nonsense.

I’ve actually started distancing myself from people who just don't get it—people who aren't willing to open up or tap into positive vibes. They just drain my spirit, and before I know it, I’m absorbing all that negative energy they’re throwing at me. It's exhausting.

@vivideagle8: I honestly think you’ve already made progress just by deciding to talk about this and admitting, "Yeah, I messed up too." The issue seems to be that you're letting yourself get tethered to these emotions instead of just letting them pass through. Seriously, try sitting down and meditating. Don't run from your thoughts. Let the problems hit you from every angle—watch everything that happened to you like you're watching a movie. Be objective. Just be an observer. Watch how you react. If you need to cry, then cry like a kid. Notice every single detail of how your body reacts to a specific thought. Take everything that hurt you and try to look at it as if it happened to someone else, not you. Once you do that, tell yourself that these emotions aren't *you*. They’re just your mind and body reacting to certain events. Take full responsibility for the sadness, the anger, the despair, the depression. That stuff comes from within, not from the world around you. Find where it lives physically—if your heart aches when you think of something, focus on your heart with the intention of releasing that pain. INTENTION is everything. When you have true intention, the universe moves to make it happen. Not just a wish—an INTENTION. After that, you can visualize the person involved in that situation and have a conversation with them in your head. Tell them everything you need to say now that you realize it wasn't the environment or the event itself, but your own reaction to it.

And I'll leave you with something people told me a million times before it finally clicked: stop thinking about how you feel. Feel how you think!!!

Yeah, it's definitely time for me to start letting go of this weight inside me; it's holding me back. And it didn't happen overnight—it's built up over my whole life, especially these last two years. I don't know if all highly sensitive people remember every single mean word ever said to them, every action, or every mistake they made (I'm constantly blaming myself), but it kills my self-confidence, my spirit, and my very sense of being because I'm always finding something to feel guilty about. So you're absolutely right—the problem isn't the people, it's my reaction to them. I allow them to hurt me and make me cry, even though I know deep down they don't have any power over me. I know I'm making everything sound pretty bleak here, but that's not the whole truth. Usually, I'm a happy person and I have close friends, but none of that matters if I'm not at the level I want to be when I'm alone with myself. Where did my angel go? 🙂

silvermason2 said:Honestly, I agree with every single word you said. That was actually what I wanted to write originally, but I backed off for one reason. I’ve been there before where someone feeling depressed reaches out for help, and my responses were pretty much identical to yours. Usually, I just get hit with: "How can you say this is all on me? I didn't cause this! Blah blah blah..."
I'm a perfect example of this myself. Even though I work on my own spiritual growth and stay pretty self-aware about myself and the world, when I'm in a terrible mood, part of me still wants someone to come along and tell me: "Look, this all depends on how you perceive the situation."

But still, you're right.

And it looks like vivideagle8 isn't the type to reject that kind of advice. Since she's clearly focusing on her spirit here, it's obvious to me she already understands everything you wrote. She probably just needs a little nudge to snap out of it and notice all the "good" stuff surrounding her—stuff she’s likely overlooking because she’s hyper-focused on the "bad."

I won't reject the advice; that's actually why I started this thread. 🙂 I know we are the masters of our own fate, and I realize I've failed myself in certain ways and ended up hitting a wall. Crying or complaining doesn't lead to any actual progress. I've read plenty of books about how people attract certain types of people into their lives through their thoughts and vibrations, but when I open my heart to someone, I rarely get that same energy back. I tend to be too naive; I trust people because I want to believe everyone has good in them, but lately, I'm starting to wonder if that's actually true. I'm no saint, but I make a conscious effort not to hurt anyone, and if I do, I always try to apologize immediately. Last night I was wondering—if it's true that you attract things with your thoughts, am I just full of negativity? Is that why I attract men who leave me, or people who belittle me? Or maybe my smile is fake, and that's why things turn out this way? 🤷

Brenda Cook4 said:Actually, I think there is a connection. It all boils down to discipline and taking responsibility for yourself versus falling into self-pity and a lack of confidence. That dynamic plays out on both a physical and mental level. You have to realize that you are the one in the driver's seat. Now, being in control doesn't mean everything will always go perfectly. When life hits you with a crisis, the best move is to look it right in the eye. Crises are inevitable—it's just part of the human condition—so what really matters is your reaction. If a crisis demands change, you can either fight it and end up stuck in a cycle of frustration, constant complaining, lost motivation, and endless overthinking while crying about your "unlucky fate" because things didn't go your way... or you can embrace the shift and see it as an opportunity to grow. At its core, spirituality is exactly that: the lived experience that shapes our narrative self.

I agree that there’s a link, it’s just that he phrased it in a way where I couldn't see any connection to what I was talking about. What I need is control and a total reset—especially regarding my mindset.

Benjamin Taylor6 said:

I suppose I should probably address the elephant in the room—if you can even call it that anymore—regarding the recent discussions floating around the boards. It’s becoming quite a chore to keep up with the sheer volume of noise, isn't it? Honestly, it feels like every time I sit down to actually engage with some substance, I’m met with this endless, repetitive cycle of nonsense. It reminds me of a situation I dealt with back when I was working a mid-level management gig over in Chicago—just a constant stream of people talking loudly without actually saying anything at all. You know the type. They have an opinion on everything, yet they haven't spent five minutes looking at the actual data. It's frustrating, truly. One minute you're trying to have a nuanced conversation about policy or tech, and the next, someone comes along with a half-baked argument that wouldn't hold water in a desert. And don't even get me started on the way certain users tend to derail perfectly good threads. I was reading through some of the earlier posts today—and I won't name names, though we all know who I'm thinking of—and it's just exhausting. We need more rigor here. More thought. Less... whatever *this* is. It’s like we’ve traded actual discourse for a shouting match in a parking lot. Anyway, my point being—if there even is one—is that if we want this community to mean something, we have to demand better from ourselves. Or at least, I should hope so. kaže:
I find this whole thing deeply spiritual—honestly, there’s something almost transcendent about it all. 😁

Honestly, chocolate is a much better bet than religion in any given scenario. ^^
Buddha is basically just a big guy who lives for chocolate—honestly, I can relate. ^^

She really doesn't want to be a slob. I mean, look at Buddha—he was a total slob himself because he didn't reach enlightenment until he was forty, and by then, he’d already put on a few pounds. He wasn't even planning on getting married at that point. And now we have our friend here on the forum who's already carrying an extra fifteen pounds—it's all starting to add up, isn't it?
She’s standing there at 5'6" and maybe 143 pounds—or whatever she thinks her "ideal" weight should be—complaining that she’s carrying a little extra. Honestly? She thinks she’s overweight, but if you ask me... I’d much rather have a woman with some actual curves than someone who looks like they haven't eaten since the last Super Bowl. It's better to have a little sway in your step than to be skin and bones. 😁
If prayer actually makes her feel better, then fine—let her pray. Or meditate. Heck, she can go hang out on Spark or some other site like it. Honestly, I don't see the harm. But here is my take on why...
I really think we need to address this—and I mean truly address it—because the conversation seems to be drifting toward some rather superficial conclusions. It’s easy to just nod along when everyone is echoing the same sentiment, but if we actually look at the mechanics of what's happening here, the logic starts to fall apart quite quickly. I remember back when I was working a junior position over at a tech firm in Seattle—nothing fancy, just a standard mid-sized outfit—and we had a similar situation during a project rollout. Everyone was convinced that the initial data supported our direction, but they were ignoring the underlying volatility. We ignored it, too, because it was easier to stay the course, and boy, did we pay for it later. It’s the same pattern here. The argument being made by Benjamin Taylor6 is interesting, sure, but it feels like it’s missing the forest for the trees. You can't just take one specific variable and claim it dictates the entire outcome—that's just bad math. It’s like trying to judge an entire American summer based solely on one thunderstorm in Chicago; you’re ignoring the broader climate entirely. We need to stop rushing to judgment. If we want a coherent discussion, we have to account for the systemic issues that most people are conveniently overlooking just to keep the peace. It’s frustrating, honestly. I feel like we’re circling the drain of mediocrity instead of digging into the actual substance of the problem. Let's try to be a bit more rigorous, shall we?

At the end of the day—and I really mean this—everything boils down to the individual and their own specific psychology. It’s all about how a person is wired inside.
If a woman happens to have a high libido—which, let’s be honest, isn't a flaw, just biology—she’s basically walking straight into a brick wall with traditional church doctrines. It’s like an impossible setup from the jump. You’ve got all these rigid rules claiming that even self-pleasure is some massive sin, not to mention the whole "no premarital sex" thing that feels so outdated in this day and age. And then, as if that wasn't enough of a hurdle, you throw in the practicalities like using protection... it’s just one layer of judgment after another. It really makes you wonder how much of these moral codes are actually about faith and how much they're just about control. 😲

hehehe, sure, those are extra pounds, but that's irrelevant now. I don't see how it connects to this topic at all.

ruggedeagle10 said:Exactly. Spot on. That is precisely the point.

The way I see it, I never stay down for long after a fall. There is always something GOOD within us—a core strength you can grab onto to pull yourself back up.

We are capable of far more than we give ourselves credit for. Ultimately, everything within our sphere of influence depends on our own actions.

In the same vein, everything concerning your path is in your hands—in the sense that you should give everything you can, based on your current capacity and the circumstances you find yourself in. The goal is to simply make the best possible choice available to you right now. Take concrete action. If you find yourself in a moment where you are expected to react or act, but instead you pause, reflect, and "look inward"—just as Quincy so eloquently put it above—you will realize that we all possess this fundamental freedom of choice, regardless of how small it may seem. Recognizing that capacity provides a clear sign that you possess a certain inherent power and that you truly matter to something greater. 🙂 And look, if you stumble in your choices—which we all do, because being human means making mistakes—it doesn't matter. What matters is the intention and the direction you are heading. Over time, those errors will diminish as you gain wisdom, and your sense of self and fulfillment will grow.

Don't waste your energy on despair. Instead, focus your energy on playing the hand you've been dealt as well as you possibly can. Act with that intention, and peace will follow. Regardless of whether you hit a specific target or not, you will have achieved success internally, because you took agency over your own life. And isn't that what we are all actually searching for?

So, practically speaking: identify the goodness currently residing within you. When the first opportunity to act arises, move forward using that inner strength.

Stay strong. Sending love. 🙂

Thank you, 🙂 you put that so beautifully.🙂

blueraven6 said:Maybe try viewing that frustration as an opportunity for growth rather than expecting life to bend to your will. If everything is going wrong, maybe that's just a sign that something needs to shift. It could be a prompt to look at where you might be slipping and use it as a challenge to change your mindset or your actions. When you take action, just do the best you can and try not to obsess over the outcome; if it doesn't work out perfectly, you've still learned something. Just keep moving forward. Nothing is ever handed to us on a silver platter, and we all start from different places—some people definitely get dealt better hands from day one. But it’s easy to just complain and let life toss you around like a rudderless boat on the Atlantic. If we just react blindly to every little thing that happens, we aren't going anywhere. Sometimes you have to pause. Don't just react; instead, step back and decide on a different response. Try to handle it rationally rather than emotionally, without any ego or need to prove anything. It's like hitting a "stop" button to just think for a second. In those moments, you realize you actually have the freedom to choose, rather than just following old emotional patterns. You might even find a bit of joy in realizing how much control you actually have. 😉

I agree. A lot of shifts are needed here, and I wish I could approach it all with more optimism. Looking at situations differently and reacting differently—not taking certain things so personally. Life would definitely be easier. But it requires constant work on yourself, learning how to actually manage your thoughts and emotions.

I basically agree with everyone here, and I really appreciate the advice. I know there's a mental block holding me back right now. Life isn't a straight line—it has its ups and downs—but when you try your hardest and still fail for this long, you eventually just snap. I feel like I'm in a downward spiral, even if I haven't hit rock bottom yet. By nature, I'm a very sensitive person, though people rarely see it; they usually just think I'm cold or stuck-up. Honestly, navigating life with this much sensitivity is exhausting. Everything hits me hard, and it feels like I don't have a solid sense of self. Everyone tells me, "That's just life," or "People are going to let you down," but I really don't want to believe that's how the world works. I chose the wrong major in college, which led nowhere, and I've just soaked up so much negative energy. Job interviews go one way, they say "we'll be in touch," and then nothing happens. As for love... I don't even know where to start. Right now, I'm just chronically lacking self-love. I'm miserable, and I never imagined I could sink this low. I know there are people out there dealing with actual tragedies while I'm sitting here venting, and I'm not trying to be dramatic, but I just really need some kind words right now, even if it's just online. I read self-help books on staying positive, but sometimes, it's just incredibly difficult.

I’m not wavering in my faith; I pray my whole life and try my best to live by my values. I know even Jesus had to carry his cross, and we all have our own burdens to bear through life. It just feels like nothing I do is ever right lately. Every job interview falls through, love has been long gone, and I’m just... deeply sad. There aren't many people who truly understand, and I don't want to be a burden to them. I try to be a good person, but I always end up feeling like a nuisance or a fool. I can't even meditate anymore; I just can't find any peace. It’s heartbreaking because I can’t see the point in anything right now—it feels like the world would be better off without me 😢 Now that I’ve actually written all that out, it sounds incredibly bleak. Henry Kim3, thank you. You’re a good man; I always read your posts and I really admire your strength and your will to live!

Everything is just falling apart right now. Every single part of my life—no matter what I try, nothing sticks. I feel terrible. I truly, deeply want to believe that things will get better and that I can stay spiritually fulfilled, but it feels like I’m losing ground. I'm starting to burn out. 😢 Today has been especially brutal. So much has piled up over these last two years, and after finally letting myself cry it all out, I came here to post this. Maybe someone else will find it helpful one day...

I want to ask: how do you all manage to keep your faith strong when life reaches a point where nothing seems to make sense anymore? How do you maintain your spirituality and inner peace when everything is pushing you toward total hopelessness?

Jeffrey Ramos4 said:That’s exactly what I’m aiming for right now. 😁 I'm still in the early stages. 🙂

Me too, me too. 🙂 Hats off to the author! That takes serious guts. I need similar changes myself, especially regarding college. I feel like I'm forcing it right now and it's eating at me because I don't see myself finishing that way, but I'm terrified of making a move. I'm a bit of a coward...

This is actually the first time in my life I've had two periods in a single month... and for the second time now, it's been really heavy.😕