Posts by Sophia Jones5

I totally get where you're coming from with that whole "it'll be fine" cliché... It’s such a hollow thing to say sometimes, right? Honestly, I work with people in their final moments, and I never use that line. Why? Because when people are at the end, they aren't just mindless followers—they're usually incredibly aware of what's actually happening. Thank God, most of them are actually pretty peaceful and try to soothe the people around them instead. Look, your mom isn't terminal, and no matter how heavy a diagnosis feels, there is *always* hope. There's always a chance things improve, both in terms of time and quality of life—basically, that things can actually "be okay." The real issue is that people throw that phrase around because they're uncomfortable and don't know how to handle the situation. They mean well! But when you're deeply connected to someone who's hurting, hearing that can feel super fake, like some cheap polite excuse to distance themselves from the reality of the pain. At the end of the day, I think what matters most is what you believe deep down. Try to put all your energy and focus into a positive outcome, but don't take those "it'll be okay" comments too much to heart. People just freeze up and say the easiest thing they can think of. They aren't trying to be dismissive; they're just lost for words.

Sending nothing but the best vibes to your mom. From everything I've seen in my line of work, hope truly exists even when it looks like it's gone.🙂

Kevin Bailey2 said:Grow up.

This kind of behavior is basically just immaturity fueled by deep-seated insecurities.

I’ve caught myself doing this plenty of times, and it forced me to take a hard look in the mirror. What am I actually doing, and why?
Usually, it's an attempt to fix my own flaws by projecting them onto someone else.
The root cause is often just repressed fear—fear of being hurt. And fear and aggression are two sides of the same coin, whether it's verbal or physical.

Sure, lashing out might give you a momentary rush... but...
It doesn't work that way. You're just spinning your wheels in a vicious cycle.

If you aren't a cold-blooded shark (and honestly, I'm not) and if you aren't some kind of sociopath (which I'm betting isn't you, since you actually want to change)... then this conflict might feel good for a second, but eventually, the guilt starts eating at you. You'll hit a point where you stop and ask yourself... what was the point of all that?

If you don't want to be haunted by your past, just own it as part of growing up. Apologize to the people you might have hurt. Then, do your best to move forward.

Good luck.

Wow, beautifully put.🙂 I'd agree with everything said here, and I'd just add that the OP (whose initial post is basically just a stubborn desire to force a change in behavior that just won't budge) really needs to work on their own inner integrity and peace of mind.
You're never going to solve a problem like this by attacking someone else or overthinking what that person "deserved" to trigger our reaction. Only looking inward at your own "self" actually gets results. You can do that through creative projects, sports, meditation, or just diving into learning something you love... When a person focuses on "building" themselves, they become better, more purposeful, and more impactful to the world. They react with more coordination, empathy, and—most importantly—they think before they act.
Using "character" as an excuse is, in my opinion, a terrible way to live. If we just blamed everything on unchangeable personality traits, we wouldn't even be able to close the doors on new apartments in a suburban housing development!😁