Posts by vividtiger7

restlessmarlin6 said:Sounds familiar. 🙂
vividtiger7, isn't that just the worst feeling ever?? Like you spend all this time being super accommodating, and then out of nowhere, you end up looking like the villain. 🤣

Man, believe me, I was totally blindsided. I honestly had no clue what I’d even done wrong; and even if I had, I would've just apologized and figured things would smooth over eventually—I mean, we used to be tight, right?

Plus, it was extra embarrassing because she (obviously) totally blew up at me—like, throwing a ton of shade and being super loud about it—right in front of everyone. I almost started crying and just stormed out of there...
Later on, I actually found myself wondering if she really cut me off for good or if she was just putting on a massive show for the group...

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Niobe said:and people actually do this—they act like they have the right to shove everyone else's "flaws" right in their faces just to look cool in front of the crowd at the local bar.

I used to have a friend exactly like this. Honestly, it wasn't even just about looking tough at the pub... if anything, the critiques got way more intense and mocking when she'd drop them in front of my boyfriend, my buddies, or coworkers; and half the time, the stuff she said was just straight-up nonsense. Like, for every single thing—even for people way older and more experienced than her—she had some "expert" advice on how to handle life, and she’d mock anyone who didn't follow it. She constantly acted like she was an expert on everything, though, I guess, when it actually came down to applying any of that knowledge, she was all talk and no action.

I didn't really call her out on it or hold it against her too much (even though she definitely knew how to trigger certain people with her comments), mostly because I figured she was just young and insecure. Maybe she was trying to build some kind of persona or whatever in our social circle, plus I get that some people are just born being critics...

Anyway, one time I mentioned something about her at what was obviously the wrong moment—like, in front of the wrong group—not that I meant anything bad or lied about anything, just... yeah. She immediately shut me down, claiming "she has no idea who I really am" and saying "we can't be friends anymore." 😲

Kurt Cobain

You're 54 years deep, 44 levels of controversy, and somehow still 36 percent nice!

genNorec said:(I also feel like guys suffer way more from what I’d call "emotional coercion." It happens to them constantly, just humiliating and painful, and honestly, it doesn't even have to be about sex... but there's NO WAY they get any recognition for it... Women just seem to navigate emotions better by default...
But the impact is the same.)

I'm totally with you on this.
People say 'no' means 'no'—but then you've got this specific type of woman who turns every night out into some kind of self-promotion campaign. She shows up looking perfect, basically half-naked, making sure every guy in the room feels obligated to "check in" on her. She’ll sit in laps, touch people, "accidentally" let a tiny top or skirt slip, take drags from everyone's cigarettes, sip from their drinks, and drop these super suggestive comments left and right. She'll set up "private" coffee dates with everyone, maybe get a kiss on the cheek here or there because someone bought her a drink—you know, the whole "you're such a sweetheart" routine.
But the second one of those guys makes a real move? She acts totally outraged—like, "How could he even think that!???"
I actually had a friend like this once. And of course, she was always lecturing us girls on how we should "play the game"—telling us not to give in too fast, to make them suffer a bit, to make them chase us so they realize what they can't have...
Do men not have feelings either?!? Seriously, if I were a guy and some girl—especially some immature brat—treated me like that, I’d slap her so hard she’d never dream of treating anyone else like one of her brainless little dolls again.

And now, imagine if she runs into someone who's a bit more "sensitive," maybe unstable, aggressive, or just way too drunk—how do you think he’d react?