Sexual Dysfunction Discussions
in Psychology ·
Henry Garcia10 said:The issue isn't you, absolutely not. You cannot fight against his impulses or his needs. .
Voyeurism and an addiction to pornographic content is a psychological issue, most often linked to severe sexual inhibitions and imbalances that can manifest in truly any way imaginable. He isn't even comparing you to any woman; for him, those are entirely separate categories.
Look, so this thread doesn't just die off, I'm jumping in with my own thoughts. I've been lurking here reading all of you for a long time before I finally worked up the nerve to speak out.
My partner keeps that part of his intimacy very well guarded. In fact, I only know what I’ve managed to pry out of him myself—often through great difficulty and sometimes in ways I am certainly not proud of, simply because the "beautiful" truths were kept from me. So, even though we have been together for several wonderful years, I am mostly just guessing.
Sorry, Henry Garcia10, I wasn't paying close enough attention to gender markers in your posts to know if you're male or female, but you wrote this so eloquently and professionally (if you post again, I promise I will learn 😉) that I simply had to ask: what kind of experience do you have with psychology, specifically regarding this particular issue?
John Price, I truly hope that your efforts to resolve this lead to success. I know from personal experience just how much strength it takes to face a part of your "other half" every single day—a part you can't accept, yet can't bring yourself to leave... there was a time when I would cry in the bathroom every single morning because I didn't know how to move forward with him, let alone how to exist without him.
To clarify, in my case, the obsession with pornography hasn't reached those extreme levels, but our sex life is practically non-existent, which only makes everything worse. It torments me deeply, especially since he refuses to even discuss it at all.
Right now, I am in a phase of ignoring the problem because I desperately need some peace, but I know the moment will come when I have to start working on it again. After all, I don't want to live this way—or maintain this status quo—forever.
Good grief!