Posts by steeldrifter8

restlesshound27 said:I dunno about all those claims—i remember back in elementary school, there were maybe one or two cute girls who got way more attention from both classmates and teachers. they were the popular ones. but in high school, i don't know, things totally flipped. there were a few good-looking kids, but they didn't necessarily stand out more than everyone else; some were hotter, some weren't, some people liked them more than others. the only time it really mattered was if you were, like, superoooo ugly. looking around now, it seems like for the pretty people, guys mostly just wanted to hook up, but honestly, plenty of guys wanted me too, even though i'm definitely no supermodel. at least that's my take.
As for success, i think confidence plays a way bigger role. plus, if you happen to be good-looking on top of that, even better. i've known gorgeous people with zero confidence who ended up struggling big time, working dead-end jobs or dealing with partners who treat them like garbage.
Then you've got the people who aren't much to look at, or just totally average, but they've got massive confidence and life just sort of works out for them. throw in a lucky relationship here and there, and boom—they're living the dream before you can even blink.😎

I'm with you. But how are you supposed to get that confidence if you aren't born pretty?...

briskcrane642 said:Beauty is essentially just whatever promises a smooth path ahead—at least subconsciously. Generally speaking, you find far more doors swinging open when you're attractive... And perhaps most interestingly, good-looking people tend to deal with significantly less frustration than everyone else...

I don't think that's true. It all comes down to how you manage your own head and your own life. Personally, I'm considered good-looking—though I don't really dwell on it since I see my own face every day—but I was always popular in school. That didn't make me happy, though. Since I was a kid, I was obsessed with one specific guy I could never have. So, the answer is: no, it wasn't easier, because I wanted him, not just anyone else.
2. Second point: attractive people constantly get hit on by random guys, which usually just leads to low-quality drama and jealous arguments from men.🙂
3. My boyfriend left me after four years of dating and stopped loving me, which was incredibly frustrating... Honestly, I'm more frustrated now than an American girl weighing 200 kg.
4. People offered me all sorts of mindless jobs based solely on my looks, none of which actually satisfied me. For instance, someone once offered me a modeling gig for some clickbait stuff, which felt degrading. I’m a mathematician; I want to work on a scientific research team.
So, here's the bottom line: everything I could get based on my appearance wasn't what I actually needed, and what I need has absolutely nothing to do with looks. Again, it depends on how you carry yourself. I refused to play games or pretend to be interested in random guys just to fit in; I wanted to be who I naturally am. And for that, my looks provided exactly zero points.