Posts by hiddenhound3

wiredbear2 said:I have to disagree—not everyone is actually spiritual. It seems to me that people just love to wrap themselves in that label and call themselves 'spiritual seekers,' but if you look closely, there are very few truly spiritual individuals out there, which is quite a shame, really.

That being said, I will concede one point: everyone does indeed hold the potential to become spiritual... 😉

Anyone who goes out of their way to claim such a title is essentially displaying ambition, which is a sign of having already lost their way.
The most truly spiritual individuals are almost always those who remain simple and humble.

wiredbear2 said:Ah... life certainly seems to be weighing heavy on you lately, my dear guru... 😍

Go ahead, tell me I'm wrong if you think I am... ☕

Look, my perspective is that we are all inherently spiritual beings; it simply comes down to whether one chooses to prioritize that connection through intentional time and focus, or if they let it slide into the background..
Furthermore, sexuality itself is an incredibly fascinating and delicate landscape, shaped by a multitude of subconscious forces that most people aren't even aware exist.

wiredbear2 said:I’ve been doing quite a bit of reflecting lately... It strikes me that very few people have actually experienced sexuality—true intimacy—on a level that transcends the purely physical, or even that raw, animalistic drive we often fall back on.
It feels to me as though sexual connection in the Tantric sense remains an absolute mystery to the human race. There is an overwhelming amount of evidence to suggest this, though there are also countless reasons why we remain so disconnected from it.
I suppose I am essentially offering a diagnosis of our species when it comes to our sexual nature.
My dear fellow humans, you truly haven't the slightest clue what is actually happening here...
I honestly believe we are stunted as sexual beings. And really, it isn't surprising if you take a look at how neglected we've become in the spiritual realm. We are fundamentally incomplete 😁

You simply cannot have meaningful, high-quality intimacy without spirituality, much like you can't expect flowers to bloom in a meadow without the warmth of sunlight. When I speak of spirituality, I am not referring to any organized religion or labeled dogma, but rather to the human capacity for a holistic, all-encompassing experience of reality—noticing all those small and large details that surround us. A person who hasn't achieved spiritual growth or self-realization simply isn't prepared to explore the true depths and vastness of sexual connection 😉

You sound like a bit of a guru, 🤣

Andrew Sanchez572 said:It all begins with visualizing energy flow.
I’m curious—have you ever actually tried circulating energy through your own body? It’s quite an experience... you essentially visualize the sensation starting in your feet, feeling this warmth build up, and then consciously expanding that heat outward until it encompasses your entire being.

The process for managing sexual energy follows a similar logic; one starts with those fundamental energetic exercises, eventually progressing toward much more subtle methods involving imagery and archetypes.

Which leads me to wonder... why is it that you can't simply delay an orgasm?

Well, my own orgasms are quite unpredictable. I have never found them to be intuitive by nature, and I found it necessary to undergo significant internal work to establish myself as a subject rather than merely an object of sexuality—moving away from external validation toward self-actualization.

However, regarding your point, I do not experience this supposed "energy wave" during intercourse. In truth, I don't feel energy at all; to me, it remains an abstract concept, much like how instrumental music might feel to you.🤣

Andrew Sanchez572 said:Haha, I have to admit, when I first stumbled upon the term "sexual economics," it sounded absolutely bizarre to me—like those two concepts had no business being in the same sentence. 🤣
However, there is actually an excellent book by Wilhelm Reich with that exact title, so, well, consider this another recommendation for your reading list.
It focuses on the conscious distribution of sexual energy. It’s fascinating because most people immediately recoil at the mention of sexual-magical practices, associating them with things like promiscuity, coercion, or even dark magic, when in reality, we are talking about the awakening, channeling, and transformation of one's own energy and character.

I have always maintained that the individual experience is the absolute foundation of everything; it's what matters most. Practicing meditation alongside sexual stimulation is simply sublime, and the intensity is truly profound.
When you are part of a couple, maintaining that level of control can be a bit more challenging... though certainly not impossible.

What are your thoughts on this? I am curious about what actually happens in your mind... specifically during the rituals?

For my part, periods of abstinence serve as a way to accumulate sexual energy, which I can then focus much more effectively during the actual ritual.

I view the mind as a set of tracks, if you will; certain internal processes act as the switches that direct that energy along its path.

While I grasp the theoretical framework quite well, the specific mechanics of redirecting that flow remain somewhat elusive to me. For my part, everything seems to unfold entirely spontaneously; I find myself unable—or perhaps simply unsure how—to manipulate the process or maintain any sense of conscious control over it. 🙄

Andrew Sanchez572 said:You certainly did. 👍

The same principle applies when discussing sexual economics...🙂

What exactly does one mean by "sexual economics"?😕

Personally, I believe it is vital to approach intimacy with a sense of mindfulness—to truly be aware of oneself. As for Tantra, I view it essentially as a form of shared meditation between two people.😍

What I am genuinely curious about is what actually transpires within the mind during those moments.

Edit: This logic extends to celibacy as well, since celibacy isn't merely about abstinence; rather, it is a dedicated period where an individual redirects their accumulated sexual energy into other productive channels.

Andrew Sanchez572 said:True, though I wouldn't go so far as to call it forcing anything... I’d prefer to view it as intentional scheduling.

For instance, if I know I’ll be performing a specific ritual on a certain date and at a particular time (which I always do, because otherwise, what’s even the point?), I make a conscious effort to abstain for a period beforehand. That way, when the moment arrives, there isn't any internal pressure to force a result.

I've never been much of a fan of forcing things myself.

Alright, let us clarify a fundamental point that seems to be the core of our disagreement here. When we discuss sexuality within a spiritual context, we aren't talking about coerced sex or necessarily increasing frequency; instead, we are discussing how sex takes on an entirely different dimension and quality.

Am I interpreting the situation correctly?

Andrew Sanchez572 said:I must reiterate, we aren't discussing edge cases here, but rather the general rule. Most college students simply aren't married yet.

I fail to see what all this insistence is about...

This is an accurate assessment. The university I attended was quite large for its type—roughly 2,500 students—and I can recall only three couples who were actually married. Interestingly, all of them were international students who had already wed back home before arriving here. Furthermore, only one couple had a child. When we look at the statistical average, we are looking at people whose domestic partnerships are not legally recognized, as very few individuals in that age bracket, between 18 and 30, are even considering the concept of starting a family.

Sean Cruz said:I can't say I agree with you at all. You're generalizing—which is exactly what you claim to avoid 🙂. Speaking from my own experience and observing the women in my life—friends, acquaintances, colleagues—very few actually lose themselves to their families the way you describe. The reality is that while these women certainly have more on their plates, those truly committed to self-growth won't let a husband or a child derail them. I don't mean that literally, of course, but if you're with a decent man who actually respects and understands you, you can balance it all. That’s a different story for women marrying traditionalist types who think they know "a woman's place," or for those who never had ambitions beyond marriage and kids to begin with. But in my circle, there are plenty of women you can have a real conversation with. There is, however, a flip side: there's often a subtle jealousy among women when one becomes more successful than the others. That's actually why I tend to have more male friends. 😛

Ah, that relentless competitive spirit—faster, stronger, more—it truly is quite monstrous, though I find myself wondering if you believe such an impulse is entirely absent among men? 🤣

Elizabeth Bishop4 said:That’s definitely true, though I feel like once you throw sex into the mix, that emotional depth just kind of evaporates, right? It’s like the whole dynamic shifts completely. I really think you can build these solid, lasting friendships with guys as long as they’re certain there isn't any romantic tension involved, because then they don't go looking for it; instead, they actually see you as an intelligent person they can just sit down and have a real conversation with. But, honestly, I suppose that’s just another byproduct of our patriarchal culture and the way we were all raised, which is something none of us are really immune to, regardless of how hard we try.

I don't know, my own life experience isn't exactly a massive data set or anything, so I'm probably just throwing out theories here.

It's funny because you're calling out that kind of generalization, even though you're doing the exact same thing yourself.

I find myself in agreement with this perspective, although I maintain that sex is the only arena where giving and receiving occur simultaneously; an emotional bond without physical intimacy can still be elevated through other forms of mutual support and exchange.

An idea keeps circling in my mind, drawn from my own life experiences, suggesting that relationships actually require much more frequent sexual intimacy at the beginning than they do later on... it is almost as if sex serves as the primary medium through which two people truly begin to coalesce.

Andrew Sanchez572 said:Look, my intention is for this to be shared with everyone 😁 rather than being reserved just for her 🙂

:blagosiljam:

What’s your take on this, hiddenhound3... do you feel that sexuality—even when integrated into spirituality—is more vital to women than it is to men?
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Thank you, my dear Innocent... 😍

I find it somewhat redundant to debate the sheer importance of sexuality for one simple reason: it is fundamental. As I have previously noted, everything essentially revolves around it; even the concept of celibacy exists only because sexuality itself is such a powerful force. If sexuality did not exist, humanity would never have needed to invent the idea of celibacy 😉

Furthermore, people are incredibly diverse, possessing such vast differences in their emotional, intellectual, and spiritual foundations that I simply do not dare to make any broad generalizations. I am still a student of these matters myself 😍

wiredbear2 said:Look, everything is fine. I totally get where you're coming from—you need to cultivate a certain sexual energy to get your work done, and you're willing to stir things up to reach that state. By the way, what a ridiculous word to use, but I suppose I have no choice... 🙄
As for whether I can eat when I'm not hungry? Sure, I can, but it’s just not enjoyable... 😉 Do you see my point? It’s simply not the same thing. It lacks that spark.
And is celibacy a form of violence? In a way, I'd say yes. But I really need more time to unpack that thought properly, and I have to head out now...

All the best, Andrew Sanchez572, and I truly wish you nothing but incredible, high-quality sex in November 2009. 🙂

And why should she be the only one? 😢 🙄 😍

Andrew Sanchez572 said:I’m starting this thread because I’ve been thinking quite a bit about celibacy lately. I took a quick look through our archives, but honestly, I couldn't find anything that really hit the mark. Most discussions regarding sexuality and spiritual paths seem far too broad and superficial for my liking.

In this particular space, I would love for us to focus our discussion on how we might utilize sex, sexual energies, and specific techniques to facilitate spiritual growth and progress... perhaps even exploring the concept of sex itself as a fundamental spiritual principle.

I know I’ve mentioned this in a few other places on the forum already, but I’d like to once again recommend Osho Rajneesh’s little booklet, "Yoga, Tantra and Sex"—if I recall the title correctly, 😳.

Sexual rituals are woven into so many different spiritual traditions, ranging from tantra all the way to Western Hermeticism, so I find it rather curious that a dedicated topic like this hasn't been established yet 👋

It really does all boil down to the fact that it is all about sex(uality). Whether one chooses to practice left-hand or right-hand tantra, the conclusion remains identical—the expression of sexuality and its utilization in various ways releases the very energy required for our spiritual evolution.

boldhound8 said:Get married to me😍

What, are you serious too? 😲 😍

I rarely find myself utilizing the report function, and when I do, it is strictly reserved for instances of ad hominem attacks. I make a conscious effort to overlook off-topic commentary or minor provocations. Generally, if I intend to report a specific post, I will first notify the user of my intention, providing them with a fair opportunity to remove the content themselves. If they decline to do so, only then do I proceed with the formal report.

I consider myself a very reasonable person. 🙄

Kenneth Peterson5 said:Hey there, hiddenhound3,
I’ll happily throw in a few more details just for you, because I want to make sure we're totally on the same page here.

Look, if you look back about six months—back when the Religion section had maybe 60 active members, while Psychology was sitting at around 30, and Philosophy and Spirituality combined were hovering around 27.

So, what’s the takeaway?

It tells me that certain moderators—you know, the ones who love "editing the threads whenever they feel like it"—are basically driving away anyone who doesn't fit into that boring, mediocre middle ground. And that middle ground? They absolutely love to follow them blindly, whether they're worshipping them or just spitting on any content that isn't strictly "standard." It's a joke, because those outsiders are usually the ones serving up the best stuff.

Since I'm not sure if my little math lesson above made sense, I'll take the liberty of giving you some real-world examples. Let's talk about the actual users who aren't with us anymore—people without whom "things just aren't the same"—like alim, ja_sanja, mislim..., Musliman.hr, sjena., Adura, Zeev Zion, hija del zion, crno&bijelo, Aganor, and plenty more.

That's just a tiny list of names, really. Some got banned just for being "different," others were chased off by constant belittling from the mods and their little cliques, and some just lost the drive to participate in such a sterile environment where creativity and actual intelligence aren't exactly welcomed with open arms.

On top of that—and I don't know how much you know about this—there are tons of users constantly venting about how these specific sections are managed, which you can clearly see over in the "complaint and grievance" section, and sometimes even in the "ban corner." If my memory serves me right, hiddenhound3, you actually filed a completely valid complaint against one of the mods a while back, and—surprise, surprise—you never got a single shred of feedback from the admin team.

If my "numbers game" still hasn't clicked for you, well, maybe it's just me being unable to connect the dots clearly—so bear with me, okay?

Best, and happy scrolling!

That tells us quite a lot, actually.
The last time you checked the user counts was during a weekend tied to Christmas, which hardly constitutes a statistically sound sample. People were away on vacation, spending time with their families, and attending to various obligations; in truth, it would have been more concerning if forum activity had spiked during that period.

As of Monday morning, there were 12 members active in Psychology, 4 in Philosophy, and 6 in Spirituality. One cannot overlook the fact that Philosophy and Spirituality are separate subforums, which naturally results in lower individual member counts. Furthermore, the number of people truly engaged in studying philosophy is significantly smaller than those seeking help in the Psychology section, making such direct comparisons somewhat absurd.

Regarding the Spirituality section, the situation is evolving. People are learning, we have a new moderator providing much-needed assistance, and the aggressive agitators who used to cause trouble there have vanished. Consequently, we are persevering, and it appears that everyone is finding the environment quite pleasant.🙂

Kenneth Peterson5 said:The numbers don't lie:

If you want the ultimate proof of what kind of mods we’re dealing with, just look at the homepage—it's staring you right in the face. Like, check the stats next to the PDFs. We’ve got something like 40 people hitting the Psychology PDF right now, then 35 for the Religion one, maybe 6 for Spirituality, and only 4 for Philosophy. It's pretty obvious if you actually bother to look.

When you factor in the fact that the views on the Spirituality, Philosophy, and Religion PDFs are constantly tanking while the Psychology one just keeps climbing—well, it’s easy to draw a conclusion. It shows that the moderator over at Cocaine Nights is actually sharp, fair, tolerant, and creative. Plus, they actually have a sense of humor and, more importantly, they're the kind of person who can own up to their mistakes and fix them.

So, here's the thing: if the admins actually know their moderators as well as everyone on this Reddit thread claims, then it’s actually in their best interest for the traffic on certain PDFs to drop. And why would that be? Those same admins know exactly why.
To me, the whole thing is just a total enigma.

Right now, there are 103 users in the automotive section, so does that mean those are the best moderators? 🙄

Listen, that has absolutely nothing to do with the moderators; it simply reflects how much interest people have in the specific subject matter of each subforum.

analogsurfer15:

I find myself reflecting on the profound implications of Samarra, contemplating how such a specific concept resonates within our broader understanding of existence. It is a subject that demands a certain level of intellectual rigor to truly grasp. analogsurfer15 says: The concept of reconciliation between two peoples when one has perpetrated genocide against the other is an incredibly heavy subject to contemplate, particularly when we consider the reality of ordinary citizens who now find themselves living as neighbors. It is one thing to discuss historical grievances in the abstract, but it is quite another to navigate the daily complexities of coexistence when the blood of one group is on the hands of the other. One must wonder if true peace is ever fully achievable, or if we are simply settling for a functional, albeit fragile, truce between neighbors who share a border but carry vastly different burdens of memory.

There is something simultaneously touching and deeply unsettling about the way the Japanese have integrated the atomic bomb into their own cultural folklore. They don't cast blame, nor do they seek vengeance against anyone.

Jeremy Palmer said:Florine, this is such a fascinating topic...🙂

Symbols belong to that collective archetypal level. To me, learning to speak their language and grasp their semantics means understanding the language of the transcendent—that otherworldly realm that constantly leaves us breadcrumbs through both our dreams and our waking lives.

Take Kundalini Tantra, for example; if someone hasn't mastered the art of reading symbols in their dreams or the signs they encounter during the day, they simply can't step into the role of a spiritual teacher.

The transcendent is non-causal and non-local, yet it establishes a dialogue with us using symbols, dreams, and synchronicity. That’s why I believe that decoding these meanings is incredibly valuable for any spiritual seeker.

Personally, whenever I run into a certain type of black bird, I take it as a message from Saturn telling me to get some discipline in order. Finding a feather on the path tells me angels have been there and want to guide me along. A cross suggests I'm not properly centered—that the Earth and sky within me aren't in sync. A spiral acts as a little nudge to watch out for repeating past patterns and to try a different approach this time. In my experience, tracking and interpreting these symbols (just like synchronicity) in our daily lives is essentially a way of consciously communicating with our inner guidance.🙂

Of course, without grasping intuition and the subconscious—or more broadly, without understanding every facet of one's own being and, by extension, the struggle on a global scale—we truly know nothing. We are merely sleepwalking, effectively blind; not only are we incapable of being teachers, but we become a burden to ourselves and everyone in our orbit.

Because of this, I believe it is an essential lesson for anyone wishing to dedicate themselves to spirituality to study symbols—not as isolated phenomena, but as a way to practice interpreting the messages they convey to us. Through this self-insight, a person attains an unshakable sense of peace.

Daniel Ward87 said:If we went by that logic, Vočko, Ris, and Vrag would be running the whole moderator team within three months...🙄...

Daniel Ward87

Man, what a complete disaster it would be if Vince Vaughn was running the moderation here 👋 :cereg