Posts by rustyheron13

copperrider20 said:True, though while it’s not life-threatening, there is definitely a massive social stigma attached to it.

Unfortunately, you hit the nail on the head. Most visible conditions—things like acne or psoriasis—carry this heavy social weight. It really takes a toll on your mental health... people end up feeling isolated, almost cast out from society like they're untouchable.

I wasn't suggesting it's easy. I just meant it isn't fatal, and if someone puts in the work to find help—using the right medical or cosmetic treatments under a doctor's supervision—they can lead a pretty normal life.

On the other hand, what might be even more critical is the root cause. That spike in androgen levels could be genetic, or it could stem from an underlying disorder or illness. Now, I don't think this forum is the place to pry into the OP's private medical history or demand her records; we aren't doctors, after all. We shouldn't be handing out medical advice here. But, I don't know if she's seen an endocrinologist yet... if she hasn't, I honestly, and with the best intentions, would suggest she finds a solid specialist and gets a full workup. I'm not exactly the first person to run to the doctor myself, but you have to look after your health... you only get one shot at this life.

Look, you’re dealing with something you didn't choose. You didn't cause this, so there is absolutely zero reason to carry any guilt about it... please, try not to let it get to you too much. Honestly? Anyone who judges you or pushes you away because of a genetic condition isn't someone you’d want to build a life or a family with anyway. And if I can be a bit controversial here—forgive me—but maybe just forgive him for his poor judgment. Humans are biologically hardwired to seek out healthy partners for reproduction, and we subconsciously shy away from anyone who seems "unfit," even though our modern ideas of ethics and morality came along much, much later in the timeline.

Think of it this way: you have a built-in filter to weed out the fools. Plus, compared to some of the truly devastating illnesses people face, your situation isn't so catastrophic that you can't find a silver lining... I promise. There are likely treatments out there that could help minimize or ease what you're experiencing visibly.

I just skimmed through the replies and noticed you've been pretty hesitant about seeking medical advice. But look, you wouldn't go to a manicurist to fix a broken engine, right? Medical issues need to be handled by specialists—by actual doctors. If your first experience wasn't great, don't give up on medicine entirely. Just find a different doctor. Don't lose faith in the profession; they are there to help make your life easier. Good luck!