Posts by Nancy Lee4

There is absolutely no way I am sleeping with someone who starts things off by telling me they’re terrified of babies and have zero intention of ever being a father... we just aren't on the same page at all...
in my opinion... there is no point in dragging things out... you can usually tell if it's marriage material within three or four years.. the idea of people dating for ten years only to break up is just wild to me, honestly. It's almost tragicomic.
I think we've pretty much settled this topic... getting pregnant is actually quite easy if you aren't using birth control properly according to the instructions! If you're worried about it... then maybe just don't have sex for a few days... it's really that simple. I suppose some people would give anything just to have sex... and that's why unplanned pregnancies happen.
If people want an abortion, well, that's their choice... but they shouldn't act surprised when they struggle to have kids later on after an abortion!!!!

Karen Thompson79 said:Nancy Lee4... honestly, everything you just said kind of falls apart when you end the whole thing with "live and let live." 🙂 I mean, if we're being consistent, you should probably apply that same logic to people who choose abortion. Personally, I don't view it as murder, but I do think it's a pretty ugly and irresponsible act. I get why some women feel forced into it, and I'm not judging them, but still.
We're talking about an 18-year-old girl here who's pregnant and has her entire life ahead of her. She really ought to start by seeing some professionals—counselors who can walk her through the consequences, the actual process, and talk about what her options actually look like.
Being a student and having a kid is definitely doable; I’ve had a few friends manage to pull it off quite well. Of course, parents usually step in to help, though maybe not always extensively. Parents tend to be more involved when their daughter actually has someone to leave the baby with or can handle things without needing constant assistance.
Irresponsibility is what I dislike most of all. And I suppose I agree with Nancy Lee that with how common birth control is these days, getting pregnant is actually quite difficult, but I don't buy the idea that it "can't happen." It can certainly happen.

Logically speaking, "live and let live" doesn't really apply to women seeking abortions, because they're essentially just focusing on the "live" part (their own lives) while the "let live" part seems nonexistent. I mean, doesn't everyone have a right to life, regardless of whether their parents decided against them? I know people today, fully grown adults, who were supposedly meant to be aborted... but they ended up being born, and they're wonderful people.
It's fascinating, really... but irresponsibility is a trait almost everyone in this world despises, even if we're all incredibly irresponsible ourselves most of the time.
So, dear Karen Thompson79... I should probably mention my own rule. I don't do sex for the first few months, sometimes even up to nine months into a relationship... depending on how I feel about the person. Usually, the bad ones disappear once they realize sex isn't happening anytime soon... which is fine by me. I actually find guys who can wait to be pretty great, because by then, sex becomes much more significant and turns into a part of the love itself.
If you aren't in a relationship... maybe try getting to know someone before jumping into sex. That kind of connection can be more lasting, though I guess that's not a hard and fast rule.

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I'm not entirely convinced... living life by theory often feels disconnected from reality, though I suppose theory does claim the right to account for even the most improbable scenarios.
I know plenty of couples who play it safe for three or four years, and they’ll swear up and down—with total confidence—that there is zero chance of pregnancy. If you miss one pill, nothing happens, especially during that first week of use. If you miss two... well, then we have a situation. But honestly, which person is actually going to forget two pills? Birth control isn't designed for people with memory issues.
Sure, a condom can break. But if a partner pulls out beforehand, there isn't even a theoretical chance of anything happening. Condoms rarely burst before the finish; usually, it's due to pressure or just being clumsy with them. That's why I think sex is such a serious matter that irresponsible people shouldn't be messing around with. You really ought to talk beforehand, like: "Look, Mark, what if I get pregnant? I'm not interested in pills, so as rational beings, we should probably consider that possibility..."
This is why I have such a distaste for casual flings and the people who chase them. Humans are supposed to be at a higher level than animals driven purely by instinct. I truly believe love is the force that breaks down all the pride in this world and tears down every barrier; it's the finest feeling there is. It's better than any orgasm, and frankly, an orgasm doesn't always mean there's love involved when you're just playing around.
Another thing—abortion. If a relationship falls apart in the meantime, well, if everyone actually took the time to get to know their partners before jumping into bed, things would be much better. You should know how they breathe, understand them well enough to know how they react in different situations... rather than rushing into a second or third date and heading straight to the bedroom, only to end up pregnant and facing an abortion. As for my stance on abortion, I'd only support it in cases involving fetal abnormalities that modern diagnostics can identify very early on.👋

I’m sticking to my guns here: if you aren't actually trying to have a kid, there is basically zero chance of it happening if you’re being careful. Honestly, the way some future parents talk—saying things like, "Oh, it just happened to us"—really bugs me. Like, okay, sure. You certainly made it happen.
1. Take a couple using birth control, for instance. If she’s taking those pills religiously every single day, she’s following the protocol perfectly... so, pregnancy isn't happening.
2. Using condoms while pulling out is also a pretty reliable method, I suppose...
3. In my experience, I don't know a single person who practiced withdrawal and ended up with a baby! (Assuming, of course, that they didn't slip up once, and the guy cleans up and pees before the next round...)
4. It feels like sex has become such a massive deal in our society that couples think if they have great chemistry in the bedroom, a baby will just show up automatically. That’s just not true. Sex can really mask underlying issues that eventually surface later in a marriage.
So, maybe get to know the person you're planning to sleep with a little better first...
5. I actually know a case. A friend of mine got pregnant in high school. They always used the pull-out method, but one time they decided to just relax and let everything happen naturally. They were fully aware of what they were doing, and—well, she got pregnant. My takeaway? If they had truly intended to avoid it, it wouldn't have happened. 😎

David - since 1983 said:😁

Ladies, it probably hasn't crossed your minds, but maybe—just maybe—your pregnant colleague should actually consider keeping that baby.

What, did the child get in the way of her career? Or perhaps her grand vision for her life?
Honestly, she probably shouldn't have been so careless in the first place...

An abortion isn't going to solve her problems. I have this feeling that choosing that route will just lead her toward even more significant issues down the line. Pregnancy is really just a crossroads where different paths meet. If she goes through with an abortion, life might just feel worse. I guess because it’s inherently wrong. If she chooses the path without an abortion, then she’ll be one of those people who picks the right way. It’s a path that brings both good and bad things. And in this life, where none of us can see what tomorrow holds, you really ought to pick the right direction. You should say NO to abortion.

Right now, it might seem like an abortion is the easy way out. But ladies, you really have to watch out for the "easy" way.

Taylor Swift, tell your friend that a guy named David, out of all the women he knows, advised her against an abortion. Even if I am in the minority here, if she’s wise, my advice should mean something. Then again, she probably shouldn't have been so reckless with some random guy... so I doubt she'll listen to me. She has likely already made up her mind. Unfortunately, I suppose...

That's true...

The idea that "it just happened" is nonsense. Pure nonsense. Both parties are responsible, though I guess the man bears more of it since he's the one providing the seed...
Abortion is murder, and an 18-year-old who undergoes one is just as much to blame as the other. There is nothing better in this world than beautiful little babies. 🙂
We are living in the 21st century, and I honestly can't wrap my head around how a pregnancy can happen despite condoms, birth control, or withdrawal (which is really only for responsible, stable people)... it's easier to just say, "let's not use anything," as if a baby is just going to pop into existence from one single encounter!
If you aren't ready for a kid, don't be careless—or use a condom plus spermicide if you want to avoid pills. Though, strictly speaking, the pill is the invention of the century... and its benefits for a woman's body are so well-documented, it's almost unbelievable. The downsides of the pill seem to be disappearing more and more...

Stop abortion! Live and let live!

HPV can actually be transmitted even when using a condom, so whether a guy is circumcised or not doesn't really change much... just a bit of skin-to-skin contact is enough... and let's face it, condoms don't cover nearly enough surface area anyway.... plus, men rarely even realize they're carrying HPV, unless they happen to have those low-risk types that cause visible warts.
If a guy is the type who enjoys gambling with his health, I guess he could just tell himself there's a slightly lower risk of contracting HIV if he's circumcised...

I actually quite liked The Terminal. The casting was much better than giving the role to Tom Hanks, who already did his thing as Forrest Gump. I’d give it an 8.5 out of 10... a genuinely pleasant surprise. Though, I suppose taste is subjective, and people tend to say my taste in movies is decent enough. 😉 As for the classics, if you haven't seen Scent of a Woman (Al Pacino), Silence of the Lambs (Anthony Hopkins), The Abyss (Ed Harris), or even the 50s version of Lolita (James Mason), then you might as well just shoot yourself. 😁