Posts by Chloe Rivera59

Thank you, everyone. But I don't think there will be a need. It was mentioned today that she won't be going home tomorrow after all. Her condition worsened twice today. At this point, I guess it's just a matter of whether she makes it through the weekend or not. We saw Grandma today. She's sleeping. She opened her eyes briefly, but she isn't responsive to anyone. She isn't conscious. Her breathing is shallow. I think the end is near. Maybe she only has a day or two left. Thank God that, at the very least, she won't be in pain. That's really all I can hope for. I just hope she falls asleep and goes to join her grandfather. Thank you all.

Robin Diaz4 said:My dad didn't even realize he had cancer until the spinal pain started. Once we got the diagnosis, it turned out the primary cancer was in his lungs, and it had basically spread everywhere, including his spine.
Since your grandmother isn't able to undergo chemo, that doesn't mean you can't manage her pain. I can't recall the exact names right now, but my dad used transdermal patches, along with both fast-acting and long-acting pain pills; they were all fentanyl-based. Honestly, he was practically pain-free until his very last day.
You have to be really careful when using those patches, especially if there are small children in the house; definitely make sure to read the instructions. You should ask her doctor about it, as those medications are strictly prescription-only and the regulations for getting them are very tight. I had to show my ID at the pharmacy every single time and provide my details to explain why I was picking them up (since my dad obviously couldn't go himself).
I hope this helps at least a little bit.

Thank you so much for responding. The doctor told us it's exactly as it seems, and unfortunately, that Grandma doesn't have much time left, so we need to prepare for the worst possible pain.
That’s why I’m asking what the best way to handle everything is. There is no cure. Sadly. The end is coming; we just don't know when. It breaks my heart to see her struggling day after day. We have the option to send her to physical therapy for three weeks, but I don't think we can leave her there, especially since visitors aren't allowed right now. I don't want her suffering there alone. Maybe being at home with us will be easier. I believe it will still be painful, but... well. I just hope she won't suffer for too long. It has spread to the pelvic bones and is moving toward the spine. The doctor said it's spreading very quickly.

hello everyone. I’ve been reading through your posts and following along. My heart truly goes out to those who have lost their loved ones in this fight. I’m not sure if anyone here has dealt with something similar, but any advice or insight would mean so much to us right now. My grandmother is 80. Three years ago, she was diagnosed with breast cancer, which was removed. She only went through radiation because she wouldn't have been able to handle chemo. Over the last month, she’s started having severe pain in her lower body—to the point where she can't walk or even move easily. We've spent the past month driving her to endless checkups and exams, but no one seems to know what's causing the pain. It’s been incredibly frustrating for both her and us, especially since they wouldn't admit her to the hospital initially. We actually went down to the ward and refused to leave until they finally agreed to hospitalize her. Once she was in, a CT scan unfortunately confirmed that there are metastases in her pelvic bone. The doctor told us to prepare ourselves and start thinking about what comes next, whether that means being at home or in some kind of care facility. The thought of putting her in a nursing home breaks my heart; I don't want her to suffer alone there. I know you can't give certainties because every case is different, but I was wondering about your experiences and general outlooks. How long can someone typically endure this? It feels like in just one month, she has gone from being quite healthy to being essentially disabled and unable to stand. Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated.