Matthew Anderson said:What constitutes an acceptable boundary? 🙂
Acceptable boundaries are defined by mutual consent. If one person takes offense at a joke, the joke isn't harmless and the participants aren't on the same page. Such insults should be sanctioned.
If neither party has an issue with the commentary, there is no reason for moderator intervention.
For example, if you call me a chicken and I call you an idiot, and we both move on, that is fine.
However, if you call me a chicken and I tell you to watch your tone, the behavior must stop. If it doesn't, the mods should step in.
It is quite simple.
The reality is that there is a group of well-meaning users who tolerate blunt language among themselves, much like regulars on any standard American message board. Then there are the trolls—people with nothing better to do than jump in to insult, flame, or harass those established users. These trolls are difficult for the community to expel.
If we were asked to list names, everyone would end up listing the same ones. 😉