Posts by swiftowl7

placidwalker83 said:I suppose I should start from the beginning. Back at the end of 2017, my classmates and I went on a five-day school trip. Like most guys our age, everyone was pretty much focused on girls and... well, you know what I mean. I remember trying to act all cool and telling everyone that the very first time I was ever with a girl, I was going to go all out. About an hour after I said that, an actual opportunity presented itself. This girl—who was easily the prettiest girl in our entire school and someone everyone was obsessed with—offered to do exactly that with me. At the moment, I think I just froze; I had no idea how to handle it, so I ended up turning her down. Now, we’re in high school together, and she’s honestly become even more stunning, and I find myself wishing I hadn't made that mistake. We were hanging out in the courtyard the other day, just joking around, when she leaned in to kiss me. Once again, I pulled away. Since then, I can't seem to stop thinking about it or wondering what might have happened if I'd just been a bit more decisive. I guess I'm just not quite sure what's going on with me.

You're acting totally crazy, man, that's all this is; do you really need us to spell everything out for you?😁

ps: Just do what any desperate guy would do after a situation like this... offer to let her teach you how to love. And tell her if she refuses, you'll just end up running away.

That actually sounds kind of charming... and hey, maybe it's worth a shot. 😉

We recently had a death in the family, and things have gotten a little complicated regarding the estate. The deceased had transferred most of his assets through a life estate agreement, and right now, his bank account shows a balance of negative -$$4.00.

There are two or three heirs—his sons and his spouse—but they aren’t interested in touching this remaining part of the estate because, frankly, they’re struggling financially themselves.

Has anyone here ever dealt with a situation like this? I'm wondering what happens to the debt if everyone officially renounces their inheritance, especially since there isn't any significant property left to cover the deficit.

Best regards,
ps: feel free to shoot me a DM if you know something about this..

I’m just looking for someone to kill some time with—you know, someone down for a late-night coffee and a smoke around 2 AM. 😁

Age and gender don't really matter to me. I'm totally fine hanging out with anyone, whether they're perfectly conventional or if they've got a few "diagnosed" quirks keeping things interesting.

As for me, I'm 40 years old, 6'0", and... well, let's just say my stats are 18/98/105/100/102 (lol). I used to look a bit like Jean-Claude Van Damme back in the day, haha, but seriously, I'm just hoping we can have some good laughs together. : P

I'm currently based in NYC.

blueranger35 said:First off, thanks for the reply, swiftowl7.

A few years back, I lost my mother, and honestly, it absolutely wrecked me mentally. I didn't spiral out of control or anything, but the grief and depression were just... overwhelming. It’s understandable, I guess.

During those rough years, I went to see my primary care doctor, who ended up referring me to a psychiatrist to get some antidepressants. That psychiatric evaluation was a complete disaster—partly because I was in such a bad headspace at the time, and partly because the doctor just used all those classic, cookie-cutter phrases you see in reports, like "potential aggressive behavior toward self or others" or "suspected endogenous process"... even though we were having a perfectly calm, normal conversation at the time. It's hard to believe.

Fast forward to now: I’ve managed to pull myself together mentally, but I’m struggling immensely because I just cannot find a job—no matter what I try. I have a degree in Economics, which should technically open a lot of doors, but nothing. To make matters worse, things with my family are a total wreck, so unfortunately, I’m still stuck taking those antidepressants—yeah, I know, I feel like an idiot.

My father sees the same doctor I do. He’s the kind of man who essentially destroyed my mother's life, and he pretty much hates me. It’s hard to wrap your head around, but that’s just the reality.

I recently found out that my own father has been constantly badmouthing me to our shared doctor—telling him these unbelievable lies about me that just don't make sense. Of course, the doctor believes him entirely; he’s a master actor, and they’re from the same generation—who would ever take my side? He’s basically trying to convince the doctor to commit me to a mental institution. He harasses me every single day, just waiting for me to slip up so he can have all his bases covered.

And he’s doing all of this simply because we live under the same roof—I’m upstairs, he’s downstairs—but the house is actually in my name. Now, this sick individual is prepared to do whatever it takes to get his hands on the property. I even found out he’s pulled some strings at the courthouse; apparently, there’s a judge with deep connections who will help rig a ruling so they can forcibly keep me out of my own home.

I know how paranoid and insane this all sounds, but unfortunately, it's the truth. What am I supposed to do? If I go to social services, the doctor will just claim I'm harassing a poor, elderly man for no reason. If I hire a lawyer, I don't have the money to pay them. I'm at a loss. It's a nightmare situation.

You aren't being paranoid. What you're describing actually happens in the real world more often than people think, and if everything you've said is 100% accurate, then you could genuinely be in danger right now.

Sadly, posting about this on a forum isn't going to solve anything. I’d just suggest a few practical steps:
- Go directly to Medicare and sit down with someone in charge to explain the situation—ask them to facilitate a mandatory change of your primary care physician.
- Then, request new evaluations from a second, or even a third, psychiatrist regarding your mental state.
- If those psychiatrists conclude that nothing is wrong with you, my advice would be to voluntarily check yourself into a hospital.
- Find a solid lawyer and talk through everything with them; you might really need one soon.

If you're struggling to act on this because you're unemployed or lacking health insurance, please reach out to a reliable friend for help. From my own experience, I can tell you that psychiatrists are generally very wary of dealing with mentally stable observers or legal guardians.

PS: Just keep in mind... if you present these facts to anyone and they turn out to be untrue, they will immediately dismiss you as paranoid. So, don't speculate or make accusations; stick strictly to the hard facts. First, deal with that doctor to get him out of the equation, and then we can figure out the next steps.

By the way, what city or area are you located in?

blueranger35 said:I was wondering if anyone here could clarify what the actual legal process looks like for the involuntary commitment of someone suffering from a mental health crisis. Does it really play out like this in practice?

Basically, a primary care physician issues a referral for psychiatric treatment, outlining the specific reasons why they believe it’s necessary. I've heard that, in reality, the date doesn't even necessarily need to be included on the referral form itself.

Then, the doctor sends all that documentation over to a legal guardian or perhaps a local social services agency—like a county welfare department. Once that agency receives the medical files, they pass them along to the police. From there, officers arrive to pick up the individual and take them into custody against their will, acting on the orders provided by both the doctor and the social services office.

Once the person is admitted to a psychiatric facility, they undergo an evaluation by a psychiatrist, who then determines if there is legitimate cause for involuntary detention. That decision is sent to the presiding court, which is supposed to issue a ruling on whether the forced hold is justified within eight days. After that initial period, the court is meant to review the case every 30 days—and later at three-month and six-month intervals—to extend the commitment order.

It honestly sounds like a nightmare scenario where someone with bad intentions—maybe a corrupt doctor or a crooked judge—could just lock you away indefinitely. I've also heard whispers that, in many cases, patients aren't even notified of the court rulings or given the chance to participate in their own hearings.

Thanks in advance for any insight, especially if anyone knows how this actually functions on the ground.

There are definitely quite a few half-truths and little insinuations floating around here about various things, but the bottom line is... if you stay sharp and keep your wits about you, nobody can touch you. Not a psychiatrist, not social services, not Medicare, and certainly not your primary care physician or anyone else. No one is going to just hand you a referral for psychoanalysis out of the blue.

It’s also a plain fact that if you start acting out—regardless of whether it's due to illness, your natural temperament, or just a rough situation—you could face some pretty serious consequences. This is especially true if you're behaving exactly like the person described in this thread, or if you cause trouble during your actual hospital stay (though I should mention that being a bit restless while adjusting to the facility is totally normal, as long as it doesn't become a long-term thing).

The general consensus is that as long as you remain calm and cooperative while in the hospital, they won't have any reason to keep you once you're discharged. The whole situation is usually evaluated by the department head, who is typically a specialist psychiatrist working alongside the head nurses and medical technicians.

On a side note: I’d suggest to the daughter acting as her mother's guardian that she should have someone very level-headed accompany her when visiting during scheduled hours, especially if she suspects any irregularities. That might include having some informative chats directly with the department head or the attending specialist.