Posts by Bradley Rivera6

velvettrucker52 said:The warnings stay because you earned them.

Look, since the warnings and moderator guidelines are such a headache for you, I'll make things easier by just stopping the warnings altogether. From now on, any rule-breaking on the sub will just result in immediate bans without any heads-up.

There, I hope that’s what you wanted and that you're happy with how we're handling this.

What does "without prior warning" even mean?

I haven't received a single actual "prior warning." All I got was some ugly public call-out aimed at me for no reason at all (again, please actually read the posts instead of twisting my words).

A simple, polite warning would have made life easier for both of us. I wouldn't feel like I'm being attacked by you if I actually knew why.

So, there were no prior warnings, and I definitely didn't deserve any lecturing about "cheaters."

Your underlying message in the bolded text is pretty obvious, and it doesn't help either of us.

Jose White18 said:Fine, whatever. velvettrucker52 will stop talking to you like a bratty kid in a middle school detention hall.

Is that settled now?

Sure, as soon as you get rid of those green warning labels (or just tone down the attitude) on the lovebirds—and especially on the cheaters where I didn't actually do anything wrong. It’s been proven, verified, and even people pointed out the mistake, but instead of fixing it, I just got slapped with this ugly, borderline humiliating lecture.

And yeah, I'll take your public apology for that whole "smiley face" incident too. Thanks.

Jose White18 said:DThe crowd that thinks they can act the exact same way regardless of where they are clearly lacks any sense of timing or situational awareness. They don’t know how to read the room, and before they know it, they're playing the "me against the world" victim card—blaming everyone else's malice for the fact that they just don't fit in..

Whatever you say.

What are you even complaining about? 🤷

Do you even know me well enough to say something like that?

Human malice? Yeah, we're all just born with it.
Just another case of being out of sync.

Jose White18 was the absolute you know why I'm so sure—the situation got so heavy I actually intended to write this without any emojis, but the quote was just so insulting that I changed my mind and expressed my annoyance with one single emoji on that specific quote. I'm talking about that post, obviously.

now it's my turn to call you out...

what do I want? I want velvettrucker52 to stop talking to me like I'm some six-year-old in the back of a classroom, and honestly, if you're going to weigh in, maybe go back and read the post where you removed that one lone emoji and see how I reacted to what I quoted there.

Nicholas King said:Since it's so "obvious" to you, I bet you'll breeze through defending this massive lie with some fancy quotes, right? Surely you aren't just going to spout nonsense without any actual points to back it up?

Look, honestly, anyone on this board could probably argue anything if they pulled enough citations together, but I just don't have the energy to deal with all that today (clearly, I've got enough on my plate). Besides, I haven't even been following your posts that closely—I've just noticed how your condescending, "know-it-all" attitude tends to kill the vibe for women who are already dealing with being cheated on.

That's all there is to it. And please, don't come at me over a typo; I only brought you up to connect the dots from what others were saying.

velvettrucker52 said:No matter how much you lean on that "unique communication style" excuse—which we’re all supposed to just deal with because that's just who you are—and how much you play the victim, the truth remains: you knew damn well your constant joking wouldn't fly with the mistresses.
Here's what I wrote about those scammers, and honestly, this is exactly what I was talking about:
I don't know about you guys, but I'm pretty sure the Department of Public Works is just a massive money pit at this point. Honestly, it feels like a total tragedy.

Look, you saw the scams happening in that thread yourself, but somehow you still decided to lean into that performative vibe and keep shoving your "unique" communication style down everyone's throats. Here's just one example of those posts where people kept pointing out that this kind of stuff just doesn't fly here:

I guess I’m just being an idiot here, but does anyone actually believe that garbage? It feels like we're all just circling the drain at this point.

Yesterday was... Another attempt at this. I even called out those cheaters, though I shut him down the second I saw him coming—wasn't about to deal with another three-day standoff.
I also put out a warning to those cheaters who thought they could come over here and start drama in the threads meant for the betrayed.

And finally, your insistence that you only posted one tiny little smiley in that post Jose White18 edited is a total stretch, and Sarah Cooper41 and I both know it.
The fact that you can't even admit something that basic just proves my point. No matter how much Sarah Cooper41 or anyone else tries to call out your communication style, nothing we say is going to land because you aren't actually looking for the truth—you just want to hear what you already believe.

velvettrucker52, what you're claiming is a blatant lie, clearly just a cheap attempt to discredit me because of some stupid smiley face. Just one. And this one too. 🙄 Since I already dropped that quote in my LinkedIn post, I might as well just put it right here too; Oh, I don't doubt for a second that they've mastered the art of self-delusion over there. They're totally humiliated, yet they still act like they're on top of the world.☕
Yeah, truth hurts... If that smiley was pulled just to soften the blow of the quote, I’ll let everyone draw their own conclusions.

Second thing—you’re seriously trying to claim my post about the cheated-on spouses was just baiting the mistresses. You’re still completely ignoring the one post I linked where those mistresses are straight-up insulting everyone who got cheated on in their little corner of the internet.

I didn't even bother reacting or hitting those little upvote buttons; I just said what I had to say. It’s the same way I talk about shoes, makeup, food, or psychology. I’d ask for some basic tolerance for my style, but honestly, you can't compare my takes on dating apps to the absolute trash people post on there about cheating.

It’s all staring you right in the face, but for some reason, you just refuse to see it. And honestly, that's not even just my take on things. Period.

I’m still waiting for some actual examples. Especially now that I’m being hit with the usual "spamming, rudeness, and harassment" labels again.

We all know the moderators are just going to back up their buddy for the sake of convenience, so there’s zero chance of this being fair. It would actually be decent if they considered other perspectives once in a while, but apparently, that's asking too much.

The argument was that "the girls didn't take it well," and now look—Michelle Wilson8 is claiming that even when it comes to scammers, "the girls didn't take it well" either. But in that case, it didn't matter at all. They completely ignored how uncomfortable those women were with one guy's behavior, especially since Nicholas King clearly uses one tone when talking about certain people and a totally different one when dealing with scammers.

I honestly don't get it. I really don't.

Oh, boy, here we go.

Just another typical post featuring this 🙄

got nuked via expedited procedure because apparently they needed to "tone down the rhetoric."

What can I say? Tough times for people who actually enjoy a little sarcasm.

velvettrucker52 said:Huh.
Jose White18 actually fixed this post, not me.

So, basically, yet another moderator decided your original wording was just too aggressive.
And they didn't just pull one single comment—they nuked the whole thread.

They only removed one single smiley because it was the only one there. So... I see you've got it in your signature everywhere, and now I'm wondering if it's really such a massive violation that it requires two mods to step in over one little emoji?
To be fair, calling the post I linked "aggressive" is a bit of a stretch...

Honestly, there's no point in arguing further since moderators are always right, aren't they?

I asked you for just one specific example.

So, I'm going to post the thread you edited. In my reply, I clearly quoted everything that made me feel like I was being "attacked," yet strangely enough, you didn't say a word. Don't get me wrong, I'm not begging for a reaction; I just don't get why there's such a double standard when it comes to this topic.

In that whole post, your "correction" focused on a single smiley face while completely ignoring the actual substance of what was quoted.

Obviously, I can't force you to comment since you've already distanced yourself from the situation, but I'll put it here anyway just so we can finally put this to rest.

Come on, Jessica Alvarez38!

We already settled this: saying someone is "digging their heels in" just means they're getting defensive, and you didn't mean it as an insult.

I just want velvettrucker52 to get it—stop trying to police my writing style. I like to joke around. Most of the time I'm making fun of myself, so if I drop a joke in another thread, it isn't some guerrilla warfare tactic or trolling.

I write like this about everything, whether it's shoes, food, or my husband...

You really didn't do anything wrong!

Just got my DM explaining why I was flagged, so I might as well just lay it all out here.

Basically, Tupelo says:
"Look, when you're trolling, it’s pretty smart to know when and where it’s actually appropriate, right?

Your posts yesterday on the infidelity threads felt like a provocation to a lot of women, and they didn't go over much better on the cheating boards today.
Like I said, you can talk all you want, but provoking and insulting other users isn't allowed."

My only question is: could someone please point out exactly which posts were supposedly offensive?

I'm not trying to be difficult about this, but it’s honestly pretty awkward to see that green warning text aimed directly at me after everything I've posted.
It’s that crappy feeling of being a kid getting scolded by a teacher in front of the whole class without even knowing what you did wrong.
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I feel like my basic right to free speech is being totally stepped on.
Every time I post, Boeing hits me with warnings about "guerrilla tactics" or trolling.

Honestly, I don't even have a single controversial post to point to as proof, and I can't think of any reason why I’d ever target a moderator or Boeing personally.

Now I'm actually hesitant to say anything at all because any opinion could be twisted into "trolling"—which is such a vague term you could use it to shut down even the most harmless joke.

I have no clue why this keeps happening, but I’m asking Boeing to just look back at my previous posts before handing out more warnings or bans. Maybe then they'll realize this is just how I write, without any actual rudeness or hidden agenda.

Thanks.