Posts by Jeremy Johnson18

Nicholas Kelly3 said:Nah, that’s not how you play it. You're just implying they aren't welcome there, which isn't how Đoš handles things gracefully. He knows how to be polite about it. 🙂

And what about you, Mr. Smartypants? Are you guys actually together or what?

Hold up, are you guys actually defending letting singles in?

Nicole Johnson20 said:Man, me and my partner at work totally fell for it. We were looking at some career advice PDF and ended up lecturing people on topics where everyone was already complaining about how hard it is to find a job. We started acting like experts, telling them "do this" and "do that," and we just pissed them off by acting like we didn't get how much they were struggling.

What kind of hentai is that in your avatar?

I'm jumping in on the trolling.

dustypilot11 said:What defines a "real US-er" to you?
Is it just someone who's single, or does being single mean they also have zero social life?

I’m barely hanging out in the chat these days, but feel free to hit my inbox if you actually want to talk.
We can wrap this thread up since there isn't much left to say.

Fine, let them stay on the off. I just hope they watch their step so we aren't getting trolled quite as much, if all five of us can manage that. We didn't exactly move the needle this time, but hey, at least we gave it a shot.

In the USA, it’s probably better not to open up if the storm warnings say it's going to be bad.
Maybe we could run a little test just to see what happens, like mistyhound94 suggested, purely out of curiosity.

As for the other thing, I'm not going to push it. If people actually show interest, we'll figure something out later. 🙂

mistyhound94 said:No subforum needs more than one chat. Honestly, I’d rather run a week-long experiment where only a handpicked group—people who aren't even in the main chat—could participate. Just to see how long it actually lasts before it gets flooded by all those losers lurking in the shadows, watching everyone else have fun. 🍿

And yeah, there's a massive amount of lurkers. We all started out that way; it's nothing new. Some people just decide to stick around for various reasons, some find a partner and vanish, and others just bail because the vibe isn't right or they're simply fed up. There are a hundred different reasons. And honestly, I don't think the USA needs another depressing chat room. We tried this stuff a long time ago, and it failed miserably. 🙂

Well, hope you guys have a blast over there. It's not like we're crying about it; we're just having fun without you. 🙂

I can easily pull together about 10 of us, so the thread would definitely stay active.
Maybe take it slow, though it doesn't really matter to us anyway. Like I said, it doesn't even have to be on the USA site.
The idea of a trial run isn't bad; we've got nothing to lose. If things go south, the thread just gets deleted.

Look, just leave the United States the way it is.
I won't speak for everyone—even if there are a few of us—but I’d personally just want one dedicated chat.
Not some massive PDF file, just one single chat thread. 🤦

As for the percentages, I'm not going to throw numbers around because, let's be real, neither of us actually knows.
Tons of people pass through there, but hardly anyone decides to write anything, let alone stick around.

EDIT: How exactly were you picturing this working? You think I'm going to go around forcing all the new guys to stay away and banning them from hanging out? 😬

mistyhound94 Asks:
I’m still stuck on how exactly people here rub salt in an open wound. Like, what's the actual method they use to twist the knife? Does their mere existence bother you, or is it just the mess they're making right now?

Exactly. On top of that, there’s all this constant chatter about hookups and social scenes. I head over there to actually unplug from reality for a bit, only to end up staring at everyone else having the time of their lives. Look, I'm just looking for what Josip already set up in the off-topic section. Is it really that hard to wrap your head around?

mistyhound94 said:I get the feeling you aren't actually interested in hanging out. I just don't get why you’re so obsessed with keeping this whole group stuck in such a toxic cycle. It feels like you want everyone to stay in this downward spiral for as long as possible—just constant negativity, depression, and defeatism. You seem hell-bent on making sure anyone who actually has friends or a healthy relationship feels bitter about it. Is that really the goal here?

Bingo! For some reason, it took ten times saying it loud and clear before you got it: I'm not interested in hanging out!
I’ve said it plenty of times before—I’m genuinely glad to see a fresh crew coming on board, and I wish them nothing but the best. But let’s be real: this just isn't my scene.
Maybe our numbers are low, but some people have actually found their little slice of heaven in that mess and they have zero intention of leaving their comfort zone.

mistyhound94 said:I asked you what happens with the loners' hangouts, but you just blew me off because I was actually asking a legitimate question. Here it is: what happens if a couple from that group starts dating after a few meetups? They basically become social pariahs. Even though they finally clicked with everyone, once they’re in a relationship, they aren't "desirable" for the group anymore. They've moved to the dark side, and suddenly they're out of the loop.

Look, I’ve never once pushed for hanging out in person. My only interest has always been typing away on the chat.
That’s a pointless question. If people like that actually manage to find a partner on a chat app, they’ll end up walking away from it themselves 100% of the time to go live their lives.
Look, you still have the option to hang out in the other threads if you want, or just hit each other up in private messages if you've already become friends.

Maybe it’s just pure envy. We see people in relationships and we want exactly what they have—it’s that basic human urge to grab onto something we’re missing.
Just a chat for us, whether we’re feeling lonely or not.

Donna Watson65 said:I'm not being aggressive, maybe I just sound that way because you see me as some inexperienced, dissatisfied kid online.
Also, I don't belong to that pack you're talking about. I don't share their worldview or anything private—not even little bits of info, and definitely not my actual character.
So, now that we've established I left the forum because of annoying teenagers like you, tell me, kid—why does it bother you so much that the same people who didn't torpedo you during your teen years were actually the ones helping you solve all those problems you served up on chat every single day during your "rehab" sessions?

They didn't help. They didn't even try; if anything, most of them were just adding fuel to the fire. Aside from a few exceptions like Wiki, Zvonet, or maybe Mary. And honestly, I don't get why an incident from two years ago is even relevant to this discussion right now.

Besides, I was feeling pretty alone when I first showed up on the US. Yeah, they should have kicked me out. 🤣
And I really don't follow your question. Are you basically asking how it's possible that after two years, I'm no longer interested in the random strangers I ran into on chat back when I first joined the forum?

Ashley Vaughn79 said:Honey, what exactly is your issue here?

Nobody in the States goes around broadcasting their relationship status or rubbing it in people's faces.

Like I already said, Americans aren't just lonely when it comes to love.

I don't get why the very people I'm trying to get away from are even showing up in this thread.
Does it bother you that someone doesn't like your chat, or what?

I already asked the admins if we could move somewhere else to get away from you guys.

You've clogged up the chat so much that people actually feel uncomfortable and are staying away on purpose. And please, don't start with that "it's not true" crap about how you welcome everyone and want to help. 🤦

It's pretty obvious you're missing the point of this thread, and you're also ignoring the fact that you're being annoying by constantly talking about who's hooking up with who or who's hanging out with whom.

Maybe try showing a little respect to your peers once in a while.
Just because you couldn't get what you wanted doesn't give you a free pass to take your aggression out on me.

You guys set up your own chat in the States, and honestly, there’s nothing wrong with it—especially since you even admitted yourselves how much you love it. It’s great for those of you who like to stick together in a pack. As for the actual content in there? It's absolute garbage.

In the end, people try to distance themselves from your group, and then you just find something else to complain about.

Grace Sanders24 said:Look, we've got a dedicated thread for this. There's no damn reason to moderate it as its own separate thing. 🤣

Why not? The rules clearly state "couples not welcome," yet they keep showing up just to troll.
Just ban them like any other troll and move on. Problem solved. 🙂

Otherwise, they'll just keep messing with your head indefinitely.

Nah, the US is actually pretty secondary here.
We already established that most things just are what they are.

That’s why I asked—can we get at least one thread in the off-topic section or somewhere else specifically for the rest of us? ☕

Look, everyone knows who's coupled up and who isn't.
When a thread is specifically opened for single people and everyone else is asked to back off,
it’s infuriating when they jump in just to brag about their sex lives or how happy they are in their relationships. I can't see it as anything other than straight-up trolling.

The topic actually has potential and plenty of people are interested, but the mods just don't take us seriously. That’s why I’m bringing this to Reddit.

It would be ideal if we could host this in an off-topic section, because like I said, the couples dominate the main boards and I'm really not interested in spamming meetup threads everywhere.

Then again, maybe this is just how it's gotta be, rather than not having anything at all.

Hey, forum mods.

Since you guys completely trashed the Lonely Heart threads with all those dating and party topics, us real Americans have nowhere left to hang out.
If I remember correctly, this site was originally built as a landing spot for single people. Now, it’s basically 90% couples and happy people who don't even belong in this PDF.
It got to the point where some of us wanted our own space, so we started a "real Lonely Heart chat" in the off-topic section, but we still get harassed by trolls there constantly.

Can we please just get one small corner of the forum where we can actually hang out at the end of the day without these coupled-up types rubbing it in our faces?

Challenge accepted. Hit me up and we’ll set something up.
And for God's sake, be a girl. I love playing with long hair.

What kind of clown do you have to be nowadays just to get some attention online?

Most ads I see are straight-up fake. 🤷

Anyone out there want to just be by themselves together?
Maybe for some late-night chats?
Like when you're just lying in bed, having no damn clue what the hell you're even doing with your life, and you just need someone to talk to. 🍿

So you reach out and we start typing. It doesn't cost you a dime, and let's be real—we both crave the attention.

I’m posting this for the third time because I honestly don't know how to word it.
Over a year ago, I hit a breaking point and started acting out pretty destructively.
I've stopped now, but I'm still carrying scars that I hide from everyone I know.
I want to talk to someone about it, but at the same time, I really don't want to bring it up.

I just need to know I'm not the only one dealing with this and maybe connect with people who get it.