Posts by Paul Martin8

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I can't stand sweet coffee.
I haven't actually met anyone from this forum😁

The truth.
lie truth 1. depilate

My shoe size is an 11.
I have always had a massive soft spot for sandy beaches. Is there anything more therapeutic than feeling that warm sand between your toes?

Truth

Lie
I’m not wearing a bra right now.
I hopped on the city bus to get to work this morning

slyraven27 said:Ugh, that veal... when it’s so juicy your fingers practically stick to it. 😁

Man, just get over here... I'll join you soon enough. It's way too late to be worrying about food now. 😁

And it just falls apart perfectly, melting right in your mouth.
Gone👋

slyraven27 said:Bome.

Honestly, I’d rather just grab some ribs from under the grill right now. If I end up lighting an Easter bonfire, maybe I'll get lucky.

Or some veal🙂

But honestly, I’d much rather just head to the laundromat instead.😬

Then I can sit there and actually try to figure out what kind of quick meal I'm going to whip up for myself once I finally get home from work.😳

I’d personally take over this whole operation🙂

Honestly, I’d much rather just curl up in someone's arms and stay there.

Exhausted

Compared

Raymond Booth40 said:I am truly sorry to hear things turned out this way, especially since there was no connection to begin with.

Wow... you really are just a saint, aren't you? A true, selfless altruist.

You know, people like that are practically extinct in this day and age, right?
You'd literally sacrifice your own chance at a relationship just to make sure he isn't sitting there all alone—how incredibly noble of you.

Raymond Booth40 said:And who knows, maybe nothing even happens and he just ends up alone. I honestly don't have a feeling that things will change. He needs to realize that I'm the one right here. But I simply refuse to sacrifice my youth for this.

Just start asking him direct questions; that's some old-school advice you can rely on.

If you're acting like a total wreck, either walk away now or sit tight and wait for the day he finally sees the light, realizes he actually wants a relationship, and understands that you are the woman of his dreams.

Or, if you aren't just playing games, go see a therapist for a few sessions.

Damn it

Raymond Booth40 said:There is simply no way he can fall in love when he’s a true narcissist. He fell for me too, and look how that turned out. Now he claims he isn't interested in anyone else at all.

And that’s the bottom line.
Pack your bags and get out of there.
The man is telling you straight to your face that he doesn't want a relationship and he doesn't want any responsibilities. Why would you keep looking for hidden meanings in his words?
Stop obsessing over him and what he isn't willing to give, and instead, start focusing on yourself and what you actually want out of life.

Sad

Sleep-deprived🥱

Raymond Booth40 said:I'm thinking about getting my life in order. I have some things to sort out first, so I’ll wait until I hit 40. If I haven't made progress by then, well, it won't matter anyway. I want to try to conceive.

Oh, come on, you're already trolling me, aren't you?

Raymond Booth40 said:Honestly, I can’t wrap my head around why he chose to be alone. He keeps insisting that being single is better, telling me I'm just being "boring" about it, and then doubling down by saying he's done with everyone. I just don't have the strength to pull the plug on this completely right now, yet it's crystal clear we can't even be friends. I wish I could just move on, but

The man was crystal clear, wasn't he? What more do you want?
Are we supposed to tell you that one day he’ll suddenly wake up, realize you’re his soulmate, and you'll both ride off into the sunset?

Not likely.

The fact that you can't accept that this was his choice? That's on you.

And stop deluding yourself about staying "friends"—the only thing that actually works here is a clean cut.

Raymond Booth40 said:I’m staying, but... Alain Zanna made a great point above. If he knows I’ve already become emotionally attached, he should end things right now to keep it fair play. Instead, he keeps pulling me back in. Honestly, I don't think he's actually okay with calling it quits. He keeps calling me just to check in, even after I've turned down his attempts at meeting up or getting intimate. I find it hard to believe someone can act this way well into their 40s...

You have to start prioritizing what’s best for you instead of worrying about him. Life isn't some playground where everyone plays by the rules, and people aren't always going to play fair with us.

But let's be real: you didn't come here looking for a reality check; you came here for answers and validation. So, good luck hunting for "signs" that he actually cares about you, even after he’s made his position loud and clear.

At the end of the day, the responsibility lies entirely with you. You get to decide whether you're going to settle for these pathetic crumbs or finally walk away.🤷

We're stuck in limbo, neither here nor there.

Raymond Booth40 said:It isn't exactly as honest as it seems. If she actually agreed to make it a formal relationship, things might change. I can't help but wonder if she'll still be stuck in this cycle by the time she hits 40. It’s truly a shame.

And what exactly would change besides some label on a piece of paper? Would the actual quality of your connection suddenly transform overnight, or are you just holding onto this delusional hope that things will magically improve once you're "official"?

Don't go wasting your precious time and your best years on this, because you don't want to wake up a few years from now asking yourself where your common sense went and why you threw your life away.😁