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Drew Allen As follows:
I already posted this once, but someone decided to scrub my message from the board... It concerns a dear friend of mine, someone I care for deeply. She’s battling cancer. I won't go into the specifics here; I have no desire to broadcast someone else's private struggles on an online forum... But the reality is that even her own doctors—men with all those prestigious degrees and fancy certifications—have essentially thrown up their hands and given up. Are we truly expected to just sit idly by and accept their verdict, as if doing nothing at all was the only option left...
To be perfectly honest, I have found myself pondering the exact same question... Why would anyone guard their specific formulas so closely if their ultimate goal is truly to serve the greater good? Is it simply a matter of financial gain, or perhaps they fear that sharing their specialized knowledge could lead to someone misusing it for nefarious purposes... or maybe there is yet another reason entirely that we haven't considered. That being said, I am well aware that there are those who hold nothing back when facing illness, and I truly respect the sheer courage displayed by such individuals...
Here it is... Nancy Hernandez43 I have a question for you... Imagine, if you will, that you are an oncologist. You’ve completed your residency, spent countless years studying the intricacies of cancer treatment, and you now practice at a major oncology institute where you personally administer chemotherapy and radiation to your patients. Now, let's add a layer of complexity: suppose you personally know several people—individuals you trust implicitly—who actually cured their cancer using nothing more than some herbal tea concocted by an uneducated layman. In this scenario, there is absolutely no doubt about the efficacy of the tea; it truly works... The dilemma is this: If a patient came to you with a diagnosis, would you abandon the standard protocols of chemotherapy and radiation for your own patient? Would you tell them that this alternative path is actually far superior and much safer for their specific case... or would you ultimately insist on putting them through the rigors of chemotherapy? Just try to step into that medical professional's shoes for a moment, and perhaps the reasoning behind why they say what they say will become quite clear...
I believe it is abundantly clear to everyone here exactly what chemotherapy entails and the heavy toll it takes on the body, just as it is equally obvious to all that there is a vast distinction between herbal remedies and conventional medicine...
The whole situation is truly appalling... As a physician myself, I find it utterly inconceivable that I would ever permit some half-educated individual—someone who likely hasn't even finished high school—to attempt to treat cancer patients. After dedicating over twenty years to my own medical training, the idea of me actually sending one of my own patients to someone like that is simply beyond the pale... If you have any actual perspective on this matter, please answer my previous question...

Let’s dispense with any pretense of modesty here—my answer is a firm no. In fact, if I were actually a doctor—which, let me be clear, I am nowhere near being one—I would still be the exact same person I am today... a perfectionist who would never dream of washing my hands of a patient only to send them off to fight chemotherapy with nothing but some herbal tea...

I feel a profound sense of sorrow knowing that the doctors at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine have essentially given up on your friend... It is truly disheartening that she has had to turn to herbal remedies for support, though I sincerely hope there is some measure of success to be found in such an approach, because believe me, as difficult as it is to witness my own mother fighting for every single day of her life, it is equally heavy to hear about the struggles of others...

There are moments when I feel a profound urge to lend support to others, only to be struck by the realization that I am currently struggling under the weight of my own mother's illness... But perhaps there is a silver lining, if one can call it that, in the way her care is being managed out in the world at a major research institute. In those sterile halls, truth is often reduced to mere statistics, and whenever the question is posed to the oncologists—asking what happens if she can no longer tolerate a specific medication—they will invariably offer a clinical "there is another option"... yet, beneath that professional veneer, you can almost hear the unspoken sentiment that they are simply giving up... Another reality we face is that for over forty years, our family has been surrounded by an incredibly diverse array of specialists who have nothing to do with oncology: some are standard engineers, others work in pharmacology, then there are transfusion specialists... and even surgeons...

While the way it’s phrased sounds almost perfect, I have to admit that it has already been ten years since our grandfather passed away, and believe me, none of us have truly come to terms with it even now... which is exactly why we are doing everything humanly possible for our mother...

Based on the examples I have observed within my own family and immediate social circle, I can say that I have seen enough people successfully treated through conventional means, yet I have also seen plenty of individuals who attempted to combine standard medicine with alternative methods only to pass away... I don't know a single soul who relied solely on alternative paths, and perhaps that is precisely why. Furthermore, there is the simple fact that unlike our "average" oncologists here, doctors abroad will actually be honest with you; they won't guarantee a cure, and they'll make it clear that if a patient decides to take anything outside of the prescribed regimen—even though they receive a full protocol detailing exactly which chemotherapy drugs and specific ingredients they are permitted or forbidden from using—they do so entirely at their own risk, or rather, it is simply "not recommended"... They will also tell you quite plainly that there is no universal cure and that, unfortunately, a sudden reversal can occur where, despite positive test results, the patient still dies... The body is much like an automobile; no matter how focused you are on repairing the engine, the final axle can still snap at any moment...

Personally, I maintain a rather deep skepticism toward doctors... I tend to stick exclusively to those who have successfully treated me thus far, and when it comes to anything alternative, my perception is limited strictly to natural-based preparations purchased at reputable pharmacies where I can verify the exact percentages listed on the bottle. Physicians are certainly not omnipotent, and I am well aware of instances where even oncologists have succumbed to cancer themselves; however, I feel far more at peace knowing exactly what I am introducing into my system rather than consuming some unverified herbal tea...

Of course, I accept that there are individuals who have recovered through alternative means, but personally, I refuse to believe such claims until I see them with my own eyes. This space seems designed for everyone to offer advice, lend support, and ease one another's burdens in some way. Unfortunately, regarding my mother’s illness, I haven't known more than the bare essentials... for two years, I wasn't even aware of which chemotherapy protocol she was following, nor did I pay close enough attention to her immune support. Many here will likely claim that, as her daughter, I failed in my responsibility, yet she would insist that I acted correctly by leaving it all to the professionals—she is in the capable hands of those who truly know their craft, while I am merely a child...
Drew Allen said:My deepest sympathies. Sometimes, life simply doesn't allow us to achieve certain things we desire with such intensity... 🤷
I truly believe you are mistaken when you claim there isn't a single herb, tea, or plant capable of destroying cancer cells. My very first contribution to this forum was actually regarding hemp oil. Can anyone provide even one logical reason why someone would appear in a documentary—specifically referring to the film about Rick Simpson—claiming they were given only a month or two to live, only to find that this oil allowed them to return to a perfectly normal life? I fail to see any ulterior motive, especially since it is widely understood that those producing it give it away to people... I simply don't grasp why there is such fierce opposition to alternative methods. To me, "alternative" refers to the natural remedies that your doctors certainly won't prescribe, yet I am quite certain you have all utilized at some point, such as noni or aloe vera...

Fine, you champion alternative medicine with quite a bit of persistence, and I have nothing against that per se. However, since I cannot possibly focus on every single argument, I am curious about one thing: what specific illness are you treating, or perhaps one of your loved ones? Let's clarify your motivations here, because the reality is that if these alternatives were truly as revolutionary as you suggest, everyone would be turning to them...

I suppose you expect me to forgive dozens of physicians, biochemists, and various specialists involved in my mother's care, assuming they are all merely fools with degrees when they insist that alternative routes can lead straight to death...

My own view of alternative medicine encompasses anything we can prepare ourselves using natural means, through various fruits, vegetables, and a more balanced, proper diet. As for everything else—if there is a herbalist providing tinctures or teas that come with a full, transparent list of ingredients and proportions, then I respect them, but most of these practitioners hide behind "secret recipes." Personally, I have no interest in "secret recipes"... I could easily concoct my own herbal tea from various plants to boost my immunity, but that is just my own opinion...
Drew Allen said:Nancy Hernandez43Amanda Grant56 mentioned how doctors claimed they had no solutions left for those individuals, despite the fact that they had already cycled through countless therapies prescribed by them... What does that tell you? It suggests that even medical professionals aren't omniscient, and even when they declare that they can no longer help, there is always enough time remaining to try something else. There truly is nothing left to lose once they have already said "it can't be done." Have you looked at other forums? This particular one is one of those that focuses on herbal treatments... http://www.svetbiljaka.com/Forums/vi...c/start=0.html If you can find two hours of free time and have the mental energy to spare, I suggest you sit down and read this... It’s worth the effort. You will find plenty of conflicting reports regarding herbal therapies—some people swear by them while others see absolutely nothing—which only serves to prove that there is no such thing as a universal cure. Every single person is a unique story, and every individual requires a treatment plan tailored specifically to their own biology... If a remedy is truly meant to work for a particular person, they should start seeing results within twenty to thirty days. However, if it isn't going to work, it won't start working after a year either...
I certainly hope that it is... fajterica I reached out to Jova because, frankly, if he isn't, she’s just being contradictory... She was demanding proof that someone actually recovered using his drops, but he naturally keeps that documentation right on hand, since those very individuals who were once ill came to him personally to provide records of both their diagnosis and their recovery...
The fundamental distinction between conventional and alternative treatment modalities lies in this specific nuance: if the intervention actually succeeds, there appears to be a significantly higher probability of the disease returning when one relies on conventional medicine rather than an alternative approach... though, naturally, I am speaking only in those instances where the therapies are deemed "successful."

I am fully aware of all these nuances, and I certainly don't hold the rigid belief that doctors are the sole possessors of correct solutions... In fact, regarding the specific conditions Mary mentioned, it is entirely possible that alternative approaches could provide significant relief. To be perfectly clear, I personally carry a risk factor for developing diabetes, so I am clinging to seaweed supplements like Fucus—along with plenty of cinnamon, pineapple, and salmon, not to mention anything else worth noting—with the desperation of a drowning man, simply because I have read so much about them... I can only sincerely hope they prove effective before my next check-up, so that I might avoid becoming a patient myself...

Unfortunately, I simply don't have two hours to sit here and read through all these alternatives right now, though I’ll certainly set them aside for when I actually need to dive deeper into the specifics... Thanks for the link.

Everyone bases their judgment on their own personal experiences... As for my own perspective regarding cancer, my views are tied exclusively to modern medical methods, because when I asked the doctor what would happen if a mother were unable to undergo the specific protocol she had been following up until that point—the answer was that... There is always a way forward, and one simply never gives up... I am certainly no ignoramus, and please rest assured that if a universal solution actually existed, we wouldn't be here trading personal anecdotes; we would simply be listing endless praises for that single, miraculous cure... As far as my own knowledge is concerned—which is all that matters—I know one thing for certain: my mother is alive today, and she will continue her heroic fight, solely because she entrusted herself to modern medical methods without any attempts to mix alternative therapies with conventional science. To remind everyone, we are talking about a woman who was diagnosed with advanced stage ovarian cancer (IIIC) and was initially met with grim prognoses and shoulders being slumped at her... given they told her she might only have six months left. No matter how difficult or stressful it became, regardless of how poorly she looked during the process, or how unpredictable this disease remains from one day to the next... over these last two years, she has proven to herself that she can fight, that she can live life to the fullest, and that she can place her absolute trust in medicine...

Believe me when I say I am profoundly grateful for every single day that I get to hear her voice; truly, that is my only priority—to ensure she remains with us for as long as possible... I also find myself feeling an immense sense of joy for every individual who has managed to triumph in their struggle against any heavy illness, regardless of the path they chose to take. So... we simply press on...
Angela Wright said:Could you please ask your friends and family members to photocopy their medical histories and send them over to my email at ivana@zanovidan.hr? You see, our Association is compiling a database of "verified" alternative practitioners to help people navigate this overwhelming sea of information. Stories like yours are everywhere, surfacing behind every herbalist, bioenergy healer, or similar alternative "doctor," most of whom have been proven to be nothing more than charlatans...

However, I feel compelled to emphasize that various illnesses present themselves differently based on their specific type and complexity. Cancer is an incredibly intricate disease that is notoriously difficult to manage, and abandoning conventional treatment often leads to a fatal outcome, given how rapidly the disease progresses; when it moves at such a gallop, it becomes nearly impossible to bolster the immune system or overhaul one's lifestyle and environment in time...

I’ve been keeping an eye on Future TV, and perhaps those who watched the segment on explosives (I believe it was this past Saturday) more closely can correct me if I'm wrong regarding the discussion on alternative versus scientific approaches. An oncologist mentioned a sobering fact: unfortunately, there are no revolutionary methods that will lead to a total cure for everyone, but modern medicine—unlike alternative therapies—has been proven to potentially extend life by five or six months. They brought up the famous case of Charlie, who, let us remember, was no ordinary man from the street, but someone widely loved, which surely meant he was treated with much more care in the hospital; yet, in the end, he placed his faith in some herbalist who promised a cure within two months. But as his condition deteriorated over those two months, modern medical interventions were no longer able to intervene, and he passed away shortly thereafter...

What am I trying to get at? It seems to me that heart conditions, such as heart attacks, or diseases like diabetes, simply cannot be compared to a disease like cancer. If any of you have ever seen a microscopic image of cancer cells, you would see just how destructive this disease truly is, and personally, I find it hard to believe that any tea could possibly influence cellular regeneration or halt the progression of destruction, at least not at the speed required to compete with actual medication...
fadedhound69 said:I just wanted to point out that you'll face waiting lists in other countries too if you aren't paying cash or don't have the right connections...
good luck to everyone

While that may be true, there is undeniably less waiting, the approach feels far more professional, and certain medications can be up to half the price—not to mention one specific example I know where a hospital day here actually costs more than a hospice stay in Italy (comparing an American patient in the US to an American patient in Italy, naturally, since we foreigners always get hit with those stinging prices)... and sometimes, it isn't even about who you know, but rather the level of professionalism involved...👍
Taylor Morgan4 said:Hi everyone... I am so glad I stumbled upon this thread, because my life was turned upside down in a single moment too, and I felt a need to share this with others navigating a similar fate. Seven months ago, my three-year-old daughter was diagnosed with Acute lymphoblastic leukemia. To this day, I honestly cannot fathom how I managed to stay conscious when they delivered that catastrophic news. Since that day, my child and I have been confined to a small room at the Vinogradska Hospital, completely isolated from the outside world. She began her chemotherapy last October, and thank God, she is actually handling it quite well. In these seven months, she has only vomited twice, and even then, it wasn't caused by the treatment. We had some minor issues adjusting to the pills, but we eventually grew accustomed to them. Her greatest burden, truth be told, has been the isolation—not being able to have anyone, not even her father, enter the room; we just wave to each other through the glass in the door. I managed to explain the reasons behind it to her, and after a while, she accepted it. I have a younger daughter who was only a year old back then, but now she’s a little girl who can walk and talk. Dorotea hasn't seen her for seven months since young children aren't allowed visits on the ward, and I've only been able to see her a few times during this entire period. She calls me constantly, and I miss both her and my husband more than words can say. We have truly been struck by a massive tragedy, though we have somehow navigated it together and emerged stronger. We are finally counting down the days until we can leave the hospital. Dorotea has her final session of the first part of her third cycle this Friday, and then we should finally be able to head home. There is a six-week break between the first and second parts, so I am praying we really do get to go home. It is certainly about time...

My mother would probably comment something like, "It is such an injustice to see a sick adult, but what did these little sick children ever do to deserve this?"

I am so deeply sorry you are experiencing such an injustice; my eyes welled up just thinking about everything you are going through... Please, continue to be brave and may everything proceed as smoothly as possible. Keep fighting, and keep pushing forward. I truly hope you are released from the hospital as planned, so you can get some much-needed rest and move forward with strength... I sincerely hope so...👍
Melissa Parker37 said:I just wanted to reach out and wish everyone a Happy Easter... You are all frequently in my prayers because lately, I have been reflecting on how many people are suffering through illness right now, and the families standing by them through it all. I found myself thinking about those words, "Do not fear, for I am with you." Even if there isn't much else I can do for you, dear friends, I can hold you in my thoughts and stay close to you in spirit. And Dad, please don't be afraid, I will be with you until the very end...

Melissa, wishing you nothing but the best; it truly is lovely to hear such a positive sentiment and to know there are those who empathize and understand what we are going through...

Sometimes I catch myself spiraling into thoughts about how many others find themselves in situations just like ours, and it is quite heartbreaking... There are moments when I wish I didn't have to hear about any more cases of people suffering so deeply, yet at other times, there is a certain relief in knowing we aren't walking this path entirely alone...

There is no need for fear, as fear only consumes the energy we ought to be directing toward far more vital things—like making the most of every single moment spent with our loved ones...
Sending kisses and wishing you plenty of courage...
Susan Diaz91 said:Honestly, I just can't wrap my head around why they make you wait so long in the first place...
I actually inquired about this whole reform under Milinić... and apparently, doctors are saying it’s slowed everything down rather than speeding it up...
Everyone seems terrified of him because he’s such an unrefined type of minister,🙄🙄so they’re afraid of losing their jobs during this recession if they decide to bypass his protocols.

Anyway, did they give her that anti-nausea medication and that cocktail of electrolytes and minerals? She hasn't eaten a thing in two days, though she hasn't been vomiting...

It’s all just so tragic, isn't it? The things we aren't able to do to help those closest to us...

Look, I'm not exactly an expert on whether things are better abroad, but I know my conscience is clear because I've tried everything. A lot depends on the patient's psyche, the environment they're in, how their body is holding up, and how they'll ultimately handle the chemotherapy...

Thank you for the kind wishes, and I wish nothing but the best for you and your mother as well.

But tell me, did she finally get called in, and how much longer is she expected to wait?

In our case, they scheduled my mother back on March 1st, 2009, and to this very day, no one has even called—and I made sure to give them my cell number, which stays right by my side at all times.

In any case, personally, I haven't seen this reform bring anything positive; everyone seems to complain that it has only caused delays.

My mother has been treated across the border from day one; they didn't even schedule her, and she didn't have to sit around waiting to be called. If she had, she wouldn't be here today. I'm not convinced that "abroad" is any better; according to my parents, the healthcare situation in Italy is actually worse. The real advantage lies in institutions like the one in Avian, where everything is significantly more organized and professional.

Of course, just as you wrote, all of us—both the patients and the family members—feel that regardless of the path taken, the money spent, or the sheer exhaustion poured into treatment, the most important thing—and where we haven't erred for a single moment—is that we provided her with the absolute best within our means. You know as well as I do that it isn't about questioning our conscience or worrying about what the future holds or what we might reflect on "later"; it’s simply about that healthy, honest love that compels us to do whatever is best for our loved ones without a second thought.

Fortunately, we haven't dealt with major issues regarding appetite, weakness, or vomiting so far. I say fortunately, because unfortunately, this illness brings other consequences for the patients themselves (we've dealt with allergic reactions, shocks, and pretty much everything else people go through). But, much like here or in Italy, we encountered some incredibly crude doctors who, instead of showing my mother any compassion, simply told us, "every fourth patient dies."

It’s a Holiday, there is peace, the weather is lovely... so let's be brave and full of faith. Let's set aside the bitterness and the anxiety for just one day, because strength comes from all the positive things we hold onto and surround ourselves with.
Kisses
Susan Diaz91 As if...
It has been quite a long while since I last surfaced here...

My mother has just completed her first round of chemotherapy outside of America... Do you happen to know, my dear friends, if they still haven't called me from the Rijeka Hospital regarding my chemotherapy session... And then there is the wait... just sitting there for fifteen days before starting the next cycle...
She was dealing with some nausea and a complete lack of appetite, though she didn't actually vomit at all, and now her appetite has finally returned... She’s currently indulging in heavy, flavorful foods, and she claims they're exactly what she needs...

She was put on an accelerated course of Gomzar via intravenous administration, and well, that’s the benefit of private care—you pay the premium, you get the service... during those specific days when she was struggling with intense nausea, they administered an IV antiemetic to manage the vomiting and even provided a specialized infusion cocktail to help restore her strength...

Does the medical establishment hand this out routinely, or is it one of those situations where you essentially pay out of pocket to get access? Because if it isn't standard practice covered by Medicare, then I think it’s worth letting people know it exists... just so they can seek out the right specialists for their loved ones if they happen to be dealing with nausea or general malaise...

That anti-nausea medication really did stabilize her enough to stop the vomiting, and the IV infusion finally gave her the strength needed to endure all of this...

We can only hope for the best... 🙂.

My only true disappointment lies with our hospital system... nobody has even bothered to give her a call in over a month and a half now... it is frankly shameful... 😢

I am glad to hear that your mother has started her chemotherapy, and I truly hope she manages to avoid any bouts of nausea...

Regarding chemotherapy protocols and how our hospitals stack up against international standards... just yesterday my mother was venting about how people in Pula are waiting upwards of three months just to get called in for their treatment, whereas abroad, things tend to run on a much more predictable schedule, without those massive delays or constant postponements...

The doctors out there tend to be quite cautious, so it’s highly probable that your mother was given an anti-nausea medication as well... I can't quite recall if our mother received it too, but I suspect she did...

In any case, I wish you all the very best for the Holiday...
slyseal28 said:but the real issue lies in how one actually achieves healing... and that is precisely where the complication arises. You simply cannot tell people who find themselves in a hopeless situation, "Look, if the doctors have given up on you, just try a bunch of unverified remedies and believe, and you will certainly be cured." Perhaps you didn't say it quite like that, but more often than not, that is the exact kind of input we receive from the "alternative medicine" crowd. Not to mention those proponents of alternative therapies who attempt to discredit mainstream medicine with such nonsensical claims; it is truly appalling...
I am speaking to you primarily from the perspective of a wife watching her husband slowly and steadily slip away. What we experience is a constant barrage of unsolicited advice—things like: start using MMS, try Mattias Rath's vitamins, read that book by the famous Lothar, and many other unproven miracles... and you will surely succeed. They suggest that because medicine lacks a solution, you should doubt everything. It leads us to a point where we begin to question every single step we took to fight for even a slightly longer life. Suddenly, you find yourself wondering: Should we have bypassed the chemotherapy or radiation? Is there perhaps a conspiracy, and are malicious pharmaceutical companies withholding the true cure? I don't know if you grasp what I am trying to convey... the fundamental problem is that there are diseases for which a cure simply does not yet exist...

The prognosis for my husband was one year. We are now entering our third year here. The situation is far from bright, yet we refuse to surrender. However, we are fighting with conventional medicine. Had we given up, he would have passed away within three months, because his tumor is so aggressive that no herb or vitamin could possibly halt its progress...
My husband still possesses an endless reservoir of willpower and strength to keep going. He is currently in the hospital, having undergone his second surgery (thoracic) this past Wednesday. Even now, he is already back on his feet and can hardly wait to return home. Meanwhile, I am desperately searching for some way to access that damned medication—which, of course, isn't on the approved list—that might grant him just a little more time...

I want to emphasize once more: the most devastating thing any patient has to face is the reality that for certain illnesses, there truly is no cure, and everything boils down to merely extending life...

Listening to a story like yours provides the strength for all of us to be grateful for the moments we share with our loved ones and to never give up at any moment!

Every one of us would love to know that we will win these battles and that everything will be left behind like a bad dream; we would all love to escape it... but then we look back and realize that this is simply life...

What you are doing for your husband, and the sheer strength you exert for others, deserves a level of gratitude that words cannot express. I can write nothing else, though I hope they approve the medication, as that would be the only just outcome after all the injustice of this disease! I wish him a happy return home, a smoother recovery, and continued success in his fight!
gentletiger46 said:Thanks everyone for the replies. So, I went ahead and chopped it down to an inch and dyed it neon orange—I mean, what does it matter, it’s all going to fall out anyway... and honestly, I love it; everyone keeps telling me how great it looks. 😁 I’ve already spotted some gorgeous wigs I want to check out once these holidays pass—so basically, I’ve decided to just lean into it and try colors and styles I never would have dared to touch before. Since I’ve got this stupid cancer anyway, I might as well go wild while nobody can tell me otherwise, right? HA!

That’s the spirit! That’s what they call having youth and soul, and holding onto it because it’s positive!

gentletiger46 said:Kenneth Wright3- stay close to Mom, talk to her about beautiful things that aren't related to cancer—what you’re doing, what you’re planning. Talk to her about future plans where you see her included, too. Personally, I’ve had enough conversations about this cancer crap just since being diagnosed, so I can only imagine how it feels for those who have been in this fight much longer.

As far as alternative medicine goes, I am strictly against it. The vast majority of people involved in that field don't have the slightest clue regarding basic biological or chemical processes. Very few, if any, of those remedies have ever passed rigorous double-blind clinical studies (homeopathy, in particular, really leads the pack there). In fact, some homeopaths even claim they don't want to conduct double-blind trials anymore because they never yield positive results!!! If ancient medicine were more successful than evidence-based medicine, the human lifespan wouldn't have extended so significantly through the development of modern medicine. Back when herbalists, homeopaths, and shamans were running the show, the average life expectancy was only 40 years. Just look at the human population growth curve. It is certainly true that certain herbs possess beneficial properties. It is also true that drinking green tea won't hurt you and may offer many health benefits. But what is equally certain is that the concentration of active substances in herbal preparations varies wildly from one sample to the next, and these products are poorly regulated. To put it simply, you could very easily end up buying flavored water with negligible amounts of actual active ingredients.

I’m not an expert in medicine so I can’t make absolute claims, but the fact remains that if alternative medicine were actually that effective, people wouldn't be heading to doctors. In any case, our mother isn't using anything alternative and she’s showing steady progress on the right path. Because of her, and everything the doctors told her with the best intentions, I believe there’s no need to resort to alternative methods when modern medicine has so much more it can do. Of course, people can approach it individually if they feel they will benefit more, because anyone truly willing will throw everything they have at finding a way to heal...

gentletiger46 said:My cousin passed away from Hodgkin twenty years ago, despite being given every possible treatment available, from alternative remedies to modern medicine... Today, I find myself facing the very same diagnosis, and even if I am currently in the most difficult stage, I have an 80% chance of recovery—thanks entirely to conventional, evidence-based medicine. A drug or a treatment either works or it doesn't... And once something actually works, it quickly becomes mainstream, at which point there is really no longer any need to label it "alternative." But then again, everyone is entitled to their own preferences... 🙂

Stay strong and don't let this get to you! You're young, and you can push through this; just have faith... Personally, I deal with the same underlying fear of Hodgkin because my father went through something similar, and we recently heard there might be more cases in the family... but even if it happens, nothing is going to break me, because I know it’s possible to win this round (we’re basically living out our own version of *Cinderella Man* here... 🤣)!
Hang in there!
Linda Cox69 said:feralridge3, gentletiger46 ~~~~~sending some courage for the ongoing fight.

Nancy Hernandez43, how are you doing? Have you recovered?

We are doing fine. Mom is too. She even got her nails done beautifully.😁

Well, the hair will grow back, though it is still quite a shock when it’s gone... at least according to what Mom tells me.

Even her leg hair has thinned out. As for eyebrows and lashes, those are still holding on for now.

I've been feeling a bit of anxiety creeping in again. I suppose it's because of Easter, Jesus's struggles, our own calvaries...
I am terrified of losing her. I try not to dwell on it, pushing it deep down inside, but my subconscious still haunts my sleep...

I dreamed of my late grandfather—Mom's dad—that he had come to take her. Even though I begged him to leave her alone, to let her stay, he wouldn't listen. I woke up nearly hysterical from weeping...

Ah, may dark thoughts depart from us all...🙂 The beautiful weather definitely helps in shaking them off. I wish the same for all of you. I look out the window, force a smile, and start a new day. And so it goes, every single day.

Please, stay brave, kind, and proud.

Sending kisses to everyone...😘

Wishing everyone all the best for the Holidays!

I think I've just been caught in a bit of nervousness due to everything, so there isn't much news regarding recovery on my end; just resting, eating well, and keeping everything under control.

Our mother is made of pure steel, and I truly believe she will push through this final round of chemo, after which a full recovery will follow. I know it is impossible to predict what the near future holds, but for now, I simply cherish every moment spent with her. As she would say, "No problem, I can draw my own path in life"... 👍(even without hair, eyebrows, or lashes)

Stay brave, don't give up, find your strength, seek peace, and keep fighting!
Kisses
gentletiger46 said:What exactly falls out... everything? I mean, does it include eyelashes and eyebrows too? I can't seem to get a single consistent answer from anyone; some people claim it’s just the hair on your head, while others say it’s absolutely everything... Not that I’m going to complain if the hair on my legs falls out, but if it starts growing back thicker than it was before, I might just end up swinging from a tree at the local zoo... right now, this feels pretty critical... 🤣

I don't claim to know much, only that it will grow, and frankly, that’s the least of my concerns... It isn't that I feel any sense of shame regarding my illness, but still, I suppose I wouldn't particularly care for everyone to be aware of it; I know certain people who would find a twisted sort of joy in my misfortune. Besides, I work at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, and you all know how medical professionals can be—they tend to pounce the moment they catch wind of a health issue, yet I would much rather discuss other topics, as being ill hasn't exactly stripped me of all my other interests... And I certainly don't want to be constantly reminded of this reality. Unfortunately, I’ve begun to get the impression that this hair loss happens somewhat more gradually. My former boss dealt with breast cancer, and for her, the thinning was quite progressive; she wasn't even completely bald after several months, which led me to hope that I might at least manage to make it through the summer months with some semblance of my own hair... So, I must admit, I am a bit shocked by how rapidly this is actually progressing...

I want to express my sincere gratitude to everyone for the responses and the comfort provided; you all truly are golden...😍 I see that Mom is... mistyridge5 Since I’ve been working, a few things have crossed my mind... I am honestly itching to get back to the grind as soon as possible, mostly because I finally landed a role doing exactly what I dreamed about throughout my entire college career. Things are finally moving in the right direction professionally, and frankly, I find myself missing my colleagues, my mentor, and even my boss... I am under no illusions, though; I know I won't have the stamina to pull those grueling 12-hour shifts like I used to, but I am still holding onto the hope that I can contribute as much as possible while gradually chipping away at my graduate school exams... Does anyone have any personal experiences or perhaps some recommendations on balancing the two? Thanks again to everyone...🙂

feralridge3 That is wonderful news regarding the chemotherapy; please, stay strong... As for the hair loss following radiation, I recall reading somewhere that there might be a possibility it won't grow back in the specific area that was treated, BUT I would take that with a massive grain of salt... I have been consuming so much information lately while under an immense amount of stress that it is entirely possible I misread or simply misremembered what I saw...

biri Walking through nature with my dogs truly does wonders for me, especially now that the weather has turned so beautiful and sunny... Humans are essentially creatures of light, and there is something about the sun that lifts anyone's spirits; when you combine that with the great outdoors and animals, it becomes an absolute perfect storm of wellness. If you don't have one yet, perhaps you might consider bringing a pet into your life—a little dog, a cat, even a rabbit—because having someone to care for makes life feel much more purposeful and less aimless... Not to mention how much it enriches your social circle; my mother actually has her own entire "dog pack" of friends she meets with every single day to roam the local parks, and they truly cherish that time together. In fact, my mother's canine companion helped me immensely during my illness, as by some stroke of luck, the owner happens to be a nurse at a private clinic with their own hematologist on staff, which allowed me to seek a second opinion and find a modicum of comfort... Beyond that, it has been proven countless times that stroking something warm and soft significantly lowers one's stress levels...

The truth is, men might think they have us figured out, but we women possess an incredible capacity to demonstrate just how much stronger we are than those petty little setbacks... If eyebrows happen to thin out—though I suspect the loss isn't uniform for everyone, given how much it depends on the specific medications one is taking—we simply redraw them. A wig is always an option, or perhaps some stylish sunglasses, a chic scarf, or a beautiful hat... then absolutely no one notices that anything about you has shifted. Most people don't even realize my mother is ill, and they certainly don't notice when she's missing "something"... in fact, I more often than not hear them commenting on how lovely it is that she changed her hairstyle...

To be fair, she didn't work at all during those first two months, but for the rest of the time, she managed... she has a job that allows her to put in whatever hours she can possibly manage—sometimes it’s just a few hours here and there—but keeping herself busy with work and her hobbies is really what keeps those thoughts of illness at bay... So, please, don't let fear get the better of you; you'll find the strength to keep working when the time comes...

Hang in there!
feralridge3 said:I didn't dodge it; I just took my dose. 🙄

Regardless of how you were feeling at the moment, I am glad you went through with the chemo...👍
mellowbison13 said:Perhaps you might consider shortening your hair first, just to get used to the sensation, though one shouldn't dwell too much on the loss itself; the hair tends to return quite rapidly once the treatments conclude... often even thicker than before... my own mother began losing hers after her second round of chemo, I believe, and to avoid the constant shedding around the house, she decided to cut it all off, and my father shaved her head completely. A wig, a scarf, and the matter is settled. During that time, I kept telling Mom that she should enjoy the fact that she now has skin as smooth as a baby's backside without having to worry about hair removal... except for the hair itself falling out, of course... one must always attempt to find a silver lining in everything, if only to make life more bearable. Besides, the whole ordeal of washing and blow-drying can become quite a chore... at least this provides a brief respite, and once the therapies are finished, you will have plenty of lush hair to decide what to do with...🙂

We used to tease our mother during the summer, claiming it was for her own benefit—since she wouldn't overheat and wouldn't need to shave... 😍 when I see her tonight, I suspect I might be a bit shocked since I haven't seen her in over two months and now she is completely "bold" (that's our little family nickname for her), though I imagine she has quietly come to terms with it, much like everyone eventually does 👍 because, truly, it all grows back again.
gentletiger46 said:Reading this makes me feel a little paranoid. I am considering cutting my hair short—since chemotherapy is on the horizon—but I had envisioned a stylish pixie cut rather than going completely bald right away.😢😲 😢 At what point did you all decide to cut it? When did the shedding actually begin? When did that happen...🙂

It is perfectly understandable that you are feeling paranoid.😢 Unfortunately, that anxiety is an inevitable side effect, much like a scar, though once you navigate through the fear, things tend to feel a bit more manageable... In our experience, the first time it happened just before the third round of chemo, whereas the second time it was before the second... The difference was simply that the first time, Mom had such long hair she could hide the thinning patches, but by the second time, her hair was already short and she had to shave it all off to accommodate a wig.

To be completely honest with you, given the circumstances, I have been rocking a very short haircut myself for the last year... so we can just joke about being one "big happy family" sharing the exact same hairstyle.👍

Anyway, before you start your treatment, you should probably find a wig that suits you best, and as things progress, you will naturally see when the time comes to cut it... It will all turn out fine. Your hair will grow back once the chemo is finished...
Linda Cox69 said:my dear ladies😍

just a brief note to say hello...
how is everyone doing?

Nancy Hernandez43, how are you feeling? Have you recovered? And how are all the other girls faring?...

Yesterday was the big day regarding the hair situation here in our house. I ended up shaving my mother’s head almost completely down to the scalp. I honestly don't think anything could have been more difficult than that moment, but we are both doing alright now... both her and myself...

We took some photos before I cut it all off, and today she is slowly adjusting to wearing a wig. We are all staying positive and even making jokes about the whole thing...

She is incredibly brave...🙏 and so am I right alongside her...

Tomorrow we are heading out to the salon to get our nails done...😍

~~~~~~~~~~sending positive vibes to everyone...

Here is my new spring avatar, which I'm sharing along with a little spring kiss and some seasonal energy to help us through the fight...

Let us not forget that even when things are at their absolute worst, life remains beautiful...😍

kisses...

As Dorothy wrote... sunshine brings positivity, so I am doing wonderful, and I promise not to complain any further... 😍

I can certainly imagine the discomfort and the emotional weight of the hair situation. The first time my mother faced this, my father had to step in because she couldn't find the courage herself. But now? You just grab the Machine and get it over with... or rather, it is such an agonizing moment to push through... Believe me, she will adapt to the wig before you know it...

And yes... you were quite right to end on that note—because even when life is most difficult, it is still life, and life is beautiful, and one simply must view everything that happens to us through that lens...

Sending many kisses, and enjoy yourselves at the salon tomorrow... 😍 stay lovely and stay brave!
Melissa Parker37 said:My dear friends, I simply wanted to reach out, offer my greetings, and wish you all immense strength as you navigate your ongoing battles. I find myself quite enjoying this sunshine; it brings such a surge of positive energy, even to my father... He has livened up quite a bit lately, and his renewed optimism has been a comfort to us all. I am truly hoping he will be able to make it back for Easter at home, as I know just how much that would mean to him.
Please continue to remain brave.🙂

Undoubtedly—the sun provides the most wonderful impetus for more optimistic thoughts. I sincerely hope your father will indeed be able to manage being there for Easter at home so that your entire family can be reunited...

Sending many positive thoughts your way. Hang in there.
Linda Cox69 said:Dearest ladies😍

Just a quick note to say hello and send some positive vibes your way~~~~~~~~~

Nancy Hernandez43, mistyridge5🙂

I find myself in complete agreement with everything said here, and I truly appreciate the kind words of support...

Nancy Hernandez43, what happened? Was it something akin to the flu or one of those seasonal viruses? Yes, typically rest is the most effective remedy. One simply must recharge the batteries...

Mom is doing reasonably well at the moment. Her pain levels are sitting at a 3 or 4 on the scale—manageable, and certainly nothing like what she endured during her last round of chemo...🙏

I wish you all a pleasant evening, and we shall touch base again tomorrow😍

It is a relief to hear the pain isn't as severe as before, which is an inherently good sign... May this trend of improvement continue...👍 Stay positive and keep the faith!

My mother calls me a sensitive soul, and my sinuses have been acting up for quite some time now; it isn't anything catastrophic, I just tend to complain a bit (pointlessly, really, though I suppose I've grown accustomed to it)😍, I guess
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Things are a bit more cheerful at our house now that the weather has turned so lovely. Mom is spending more time outdoors, which seems to lift her spirits. In any case, I will be able to give her a hug in three days, and we are both looking forward to it. I trust things are feeling a bit brighter where you all are as well? With the warmer days approaching, I imagine the seasonal bugs will finally subside...

Hang in there! Kisses
feralridge3 said:there are some deviations...
monocytes 14 (normal range 2-12)
platelets 137 (158 - 424)
MPV 10.9 (6.8 - 10.4)
everything else is within limits...
I'm still sniffling, though it seems to be easing up...
I am quite curious to see if they will actually proceed with my chemotherapy or not... 🤷

Unfortunately, I am hardly an expert on these matters... I suspect the elevated monocytes might just be a lingering effect of this cold. It would likely be ideal if they were to draw more blood before starting the chemo treatment. It is difficult to say for certain under these circumstances... but I certainly hope you are able to move forward with it...