Posts by Edward Rivera98

I’ve always wondered if staying with one organization for your entire career is a blessing or just a gilded cage. It seems like being tied to one spot for so long can feel more like a sentence than a choice. Does anyone else feel like "sticking it out" is overrated?

cosmictinker21 said:Poor woman. It’s clearly a one-sided situation. Honestly, it makes me wonder if love can even exist if it’s only coming from one side... If he actually felt anything substantial, you'd think they would have done something about it by now. But they haven't...

It seems to me that he might be the closest thing to what she actually needs in a partner—like, almost an ideal version of what she’s looking for. Obviously, she clearly saw some genuinely solid character traits in him, the kind of stuff that makes her see him as exactly the type of man who fits her life best...

I think there needs to be some distance here. It’s about accepting the reality that sometimes, you just can't get past a certain level of deep friendship and mutual respect... it’s just how things work out in the real world. She should probably just take some comfort in the fact that they actually shared those moments of genuine connection and happiness, and let that be the bedrock for whatever friendship comes next. But honestly, if she wants to move on, she needs to finally face the truth: he isn't going to be "the one." He was—and remains—just a partially realized ideal. It might be best if she starts looking elsewhere, if only to stop the endless cycle of heartache. I'm sure there are plenty of other guys out there with similar qualities, or maybe even better ones in different ways... she might even find a new kind of love. But this time, it would be a love that actually exists in reality...

There’s a massive difference between projecting qualities onto someone you want them to have and actually recognizing that they possess them. Then there's the third step, which is arguably the hardest: accepting that true unity might just be an impossibility... And if you're chasing that perfect romantic connection, maybe the move is to look for—and eventually find—the next person. And then, actually experiencing a love like that... To live...!

It’s like I wrote the whole thing myself...

I’ve been the target of that kind of obsession before (and honestly, I still am), but I’ve also found myself right in the middle of that exact same mess...

Feelings like that are never just a one-way street, because if it’s actually going somewhere, both sides have to be fueling the fire... In our case, it just wasn't meant to work out, so I accepted that pretty damn fast, but it lingered for a bit before eventually morphing into this sweet friendship that we still have today. I've had other guys, obviously, but with him, I was looking for that specific spark—that certain something everyone is always hunting for in a partner—and he really had it all... the whole package... 😁
Well, whatever, it is what it is...

I don't think there's anything wrong with being a bit of an idealist—honestly, it’s pretty nice to just drift through the clouds when you're actually in a relationship that works... but once that turns into a full-blown fixation, or even crosses the line into something pathological, then we've got a problem. It's not just about the potential for things to end badly, though that's definitely a factor, it's more about the fact that losing touch with reality entirely is never a winning move...

Jeffrey Peterson43 said:A 1% clindamycin alcohol tincture is meant for facial acne, not for open wounds!
If the cut is deep, did it even cross your mind to see a doctor? Now your knee is red and hot, so I'm guessing it hurts and you can barely move it properly. Honey, everything you just described sounds like classic infection symptoms.
Also, just so you know, there's this thing called the prepatellar bursa right under the skin in front of your kneecap, which you probably opened if the wound is deep. So that fluid you're seeing? Could easily be bursa fluid.
Look, I won't get too technical, but I think it’s high time you hit up an urgent care center to get that wound cleaned out properly. You really should've gone right after it happened, but better late than never, I guess...
That’s just my two cents, take it or leave it.

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Are you actually being serious right now?!!

I mean, I only wiped it once with that, then I went out and bought some iodine solution, wiped it again, and put gauze over it.

And I didn't go because... I don't know... who even goes to the ER for a busted knee...🤷

My knee isn't red, but it's still hot. And not just the knee, but that whole area. It hurts a lot, and it's a little—okay, maybe just a tiny bit—swollen. And I think the "function" of my knee, like you said, is limited mostly because the wound itself hurts. I can walk fine otherwise.

I have no idea what a bursa is, but it sounds pretty serious.

Oh, man, I might actually have to see a doctor after all... 😢

Thanks!

Scott Allen10 said:The whole "Oderotina" vs "deep" thing is tripping me up a bit... anyway, whatever you decide, just don't go slapping any kind of antibiotic directly on it.... washing it is fine, disinfecting the area around it with some alcohol prep pads is okay, you can even rinse the wound itself with something like hydrogen peroxide, cover it with sterile stuff, maybe use those hydrocolloid bandages... but Bivacin, Neomycin, or anything like that...🙂...putting antibiotics on top locally doesn't actually do squat...

All I had lying around was that 1% Clindamycin lotion....
I only did it once... won't be doing that again 😳

"Deep" isn't really the right word, but... there's just so much lymph draining from it, that's what I meant... it stays constantly wet... it's not just some surface-level red scrape with a little blood (like that one I got on my elbow). My entire knee feels hot... jeez, what have I done...

So basically: hydrogen peroxide and then cover it up with gauze? And then wrap it with a bandage?

Thanks a million! 🙂

silentstag1 said:I reckon it’d be smarter to just wrap it up with some gauze and a bandage instead of leaving it all exposed like that...

Alright, sounds like a plan. I'll go with that.
Thanks!

How often am I looking at cleaning this thing or swapping out the dressing...?

Wiped out on my bike and absolutely shredded my knee 😢
The scrape isn't huge, but man, it’s deep and it stings like hell. No blood, but there's definitely some clear fluid oozing out everywhere... I already cleaned it up and wiped it down with some liquid Neomycin.

What’s the move here? Should I wrap it up or just leave it be? I can't find a bandage big enough to cover the whole mess, so I'm stuck wondering if I should protect it or just let it air out and dry...

Thanks.

Justin Sanchez6 said:Edward Rivera98, are you that girl with the blue bob? 😍

Anyway, regarding Fish Tank—that win was totally deserved. + I get what you're going for with that title metaphor, but honestly, everyone else's take on it feels a little... 🤷

Andrea Arnold has basically been playing with this Dogme 95 style for a while now (if you look up her Advance Party trilogy, which was shot using those same principles), and she carried most of those technical vibes over to Fish Tank. Personally, I think there’s just something about that shaky, handheld camera work that has a certain charm you can't really shake. 😍
Everything else was handled so beautifully that I almost convinced myself Fish Tank was better than Red Road. IT ISN'T! ☕ But hey, it's still better than most of the stuff we saw at the Motovun Film Festival.

Giants. Jara 😍
Let the Right One In 😍 Oskar 😍
Lemon Tree 🙏😍

To the souls 🙂

Not the blue bob. Is a bob a hairstyle or some kind of winter sports equipment?

"Lemon Tree" worked for me too. And that Swedish horror... I don't think it's an Oscar contender, but I liked it.

As for "Fish Tank" — nah. It's a decent enough flick, but it's nowhere near being award-worthy in my book.

Alex Vaughn3 said:"My Mother" is such an incredible movie!!! I'm absolutely floored.

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Would that be playing at the Motovun Film Festival right now?

brightsurfer4 said:Regarding the title—honestly, I was hoping there was some deeper, smarter explanation I just missed. It feels like people are taking Fish Tank way too seriously. I’m actually a big fan of Haneke’s whole philosophy that film and art should be about asking difficult questions, but this? Fish Tank is just trying to shock the audience, and frankly, it fails. They wrote Lolita ages ago.
As for the documentaries in the main lineup—I don't think there's even a basis for comparison here.
Look, the real question is what you're even using as a benchmark when you're comparing feature films, given how massive the variety is, but I think this is a bit of an apples-to-oranges situation...

Well, you definitely missed it. You asked why it’s called Fish Tank and mentioned how those "subtle allegories and metaphors don't really click with your anatomy."
But there's zero subtlety here. And that’s the issue. The movie isn't even trying to shock you; it’s just being incredibly blunt about everything. But it's nothing like "Lolita"—that's a totally different beast where the "little girl" is worlds apart from this one. This girl acts tough on the outside but she’s actually naive and fragile at her core. Lolita looks innocent and sweet on the surface, but she knows exactly what she's doing. We're talking about two completely different things here...

It’s a movie where things play out realistically, yet somehow land on a positive note. She could have killed that kid and destroyed herself in the process. He could have killed her. She could have settled for being a dancer in some bottom-tier go-go bar. She could have quit dancing entirely and realized she'd make more money from older guys looking to escape their boring family routines.
But instead, a hit to the head snaps her awake, and she chooses the "road less traveled"... walking away from her apathetic mother, the old man, the stagnant surroundings, and leaving with someone her own age to try and actually build a life for herself.
If you realize that the United States has massive issues with teen pregnancy, especially when you consider how certain social safety nets can unintentionally encourage dependency, or if you see how cities like New York are filled with teenagers navigating cycles of poverty passed down from parents who chose the path of least resistance... if you understand all that context, then you have to admit this film is asking real questions. In that sense, everything lands exactly where it should.

What really bugs me, though, is how painfully obvious the metaphors and parallels are... they're just glaringly obvious.

brightsurfer4 said:I’m totally with you on that—I just didn't have the patience to type out a whole manifesto.
Regarding the lineup—honestly, I don't even know where I'd catch these movies anywhere else in the States (unless I'm heading over to some indie theater in Brooklyn), so this is actually a decent opportunity. The reality is, if you strip away the classics and the Finnish films, there isn't much substance left to chew on...
Look, I’m no film scholar, but isn't it a bit weird that the main competition includes a documentary (Letters to the President) alongside stuff from '07 and '08?
But hey, since we don't have anything better going on in our neck of the woods, we guess we’ll just take what we can get. It would be great if someone actually running the festival read this, though, because things could be run a hell of a lot better.
And as for the drinking? Unfortunately, that’s where the money is. If it weren't for the booze and the free camping, nobody would show up to Motovun in the first place. And if nobody shows up, there's no TV coverage and no sponsors...

Why's that?

Chris Barrett5 said:Who else is planning to head out to the Motovun Film Festival to catch some movies? 🤣

Yeah. 🙂

And if I told you the rest of it... man, you wouldn't even believe me...
Nah, I'm not trying to make anyone jealous...

You can get everything done eventually. You just have to figure out the how, the who, the what, the when, and the where...
I mean, that's basically a lifetime of experience at the Motovun Film Festival... 😉

Dennis Cooper3 said:@Edward Rivera98: That is such a wonderful interpretation.

So, I finally sat down yesterday and watched Giant. It truly was such a charming, lovely film. 🙂

I actually thought Big Boy was pretty cute too. When he finally shows up at the beach and stands right there next to her, I was just sitting there thinking, if he doesn't sit down right now... 😠

Alright, let's get this show on the road... 😍

I dig that happy ending... mostly because it doesn't feel forced or over-the-top, just one of those possible ways things could have played out...
And it would be pretty damn nice if things finally worked out his way...

brightsurfer4 said:Glad you're on board with the idea that the movie isn't anything special. Sure, there's some chemistry between those two, but I was talking about that scene where he breaks down over the horse and then that dance with the old lady—just totally off. And seriously, what is even up with the title *Fish Tank*?? All those subtle allegories and metaphors? They just don't sit right with me. It feels like if a movie tackles a socially conscious topic (even if it's poorly executed), people just assume it has to be good...

Well, eto, it's like the three of them are living inside their own tiny little bubble, totally isolated and alone, just circling around endlessly... Sometimes someone drifts in from the outside and drops a little crumb of hope, or maybe some affection, passion, or support, just enough to give them the strength to keep swimming, but they vanish just as quickly, leaving them right back where they started—alone again, circling, waiting for the next person to show up.
But this time (with this guy showing up), instead of help, he drops a little morsel of poison, a fake sense of hope, much like how he brutally killed that fish he caught in that actual pond he lured our main character into under the guise of trust. He slashed her leg there, and then just kept making things worse. Still, I guess it's a good thing he showed up, because for the first time, she actually decides she’s done waiting for someone else to toss her a scrap of hope... she finally swims out of the aquarium and heads out into the real world.

It’s basically a coming-of-age story about initiation. A bad movie that honestly didn't deserve the top prize or the FIPRESCI award, but here we are.

My issue is that the metaphors aren't subtle at all; if anything, they’re just way too in-your-face...

James Turner3 said:brightsurfer4.. I value your take, but I have to disagree on one thing: my neck and back are absolutely killing me after watching Pavlov's Dogs at JMK. And calling the music in that surprise movie the biggest pile of trash ever? It was just boring and exhausting to sit through... I guess I'll only complain about that because everything else was actually great. I'd definitely come back.

Does anyone know the name of the band and that specific song they played right before the movie Let the Right One In?🙏🙏🙏

Finns

At the festival, they actually played an English version, but... from what I gathered, the title basically means "seven days." Unless I totally missed the mark... 😁

Still, it's a killer track, though.

Morgan Cooper34 said:The phrase "I just can't do it."

Just like that whole "I have to do this" attitude, you know, like when you're on vacation somewhere and everyone loses their minds because someone, say, "has" to eat cheese for breakfast... 🙄
It really gets under my skin when people start acting all frantic over nothing.

Plus, there's zero tolerance for anyone being different.

And the arrogance, that vibe where someone thinks they're God's gift to the world.

Not to mention the hypocrisy. I don't care if your principles are totally different from mine—if you actually stick to them, I'll respect that. But when someone talks a big game and then does the exact opposite.... 😠

Yeah... sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but this is basically a lifelong battle. I’ve been dealing with this since I was a kid. Sometimes it disappears for years, sometimes it just pops up and vanishes, and then there are times—like right now—where I've been struggling with it for a solid year... It shows up, fades away, leaves some redness behind, then flares up again, usually in the same spot, though not always... and so it goes.

No, creams don't really do much. Stuff like Zovirax, Acyclovir, and whatever else... they only work if you use them *before* it actually breaks out. Like, once you feel that tiny, tender, warm spot on your lip, you gotta slather it on immediately and maybe (!) you'll manage to dodge the actual blister. Otherwise...

My advice? Start taking a B-Complex, every morning and night for a month, and then just one a day after that. That's what my doctor suggested for me, because these herpes outbreaks are basically just a sign that your immune system is tanking. Give it a shot, it's not like it can hurt you.

Good luck.

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