Commenting on other people's posts

I have a question—and since I can’t drop links right now (searching via mobile is a total nightmare without a search bar), I'll just explain.

Is it actually allowed to repeatedly comment on or bring up someone else's warnings/bans?

The whole situation is ridiculous, but honestly, it’s driving me insane.
A few months back, some clone showed up in the US chat acting all "people are evil, people are trash, I'm doing drugs"—after getting a pretty harsh reaction from users, they were banned, but she just kept being toxic.
Since then, she’s basically latched onto me—in a really unpleasant way—making comments about how I'd throw her under a bus or whatever. After saying "leave me alone" plenty of times, I finally wrote one long, decidedly unfriendly "back off" post. I got a warning, fine, no big deal. I didn't complain; I knew what was coming.

What I don't get, though, is why mentioning those two warnings (and the ban) is permitted in almost every single thread.
I have her on ignore, but I still get notifications that I'm being dragged through the "lurker thread."
How much longer does this go on?

Of course, it’s always wrapped up in some "people are evil" rant, so even if my username isn't explicitly tagged, it's glaringly obvious who they're talking about. Since when was this okay?

Seriously, for over two months, these drama queens have been haunting the threads I hang out in, constantly painting me as the villain.
What am I supposed to do? I'm reaching my limit here, but I really don't want to lose another 500 points when my attempts to shut her down haven't worked anyway.

If anyone needs the links, I'll post them this afternoon, but for now, the drama is still playing out in the chat and the vent thread.

If you could drop some links, that would be a huge help. Also, we really shouldn't be posting about card decks within the specific topic threads.

Something like this.

It starts off pretty basic (even if it's the same old story).

Zayn said:My point was—not that any forum user interests me, quite the opposite—most are actually repulsive to me because of the hostility they showed me in the past...

And since I'm a lurker 99% of the time, I figured I finally qualified to weigh in...

And then something like this happens:

Zayn said:There was all sorts of stuff here...

From people snapping at me about how I don't deserve friends, all the way down to blatant swearing and insults directed at me...

Granted, the trolls were sanctioned... But it still leaves a bitter taste.

So, I know exactly what kind of personalities hang out on these pages—people like that are precisely why I’m truly glad to be alone...

That part about my desire to throw her under a train—I'll have to dig that up later since it was back in November or December, and I really need Google and my PC for it.

I should mention that I even told her via DM to leave me alone, but it didn't help. The DM ended up being ignored, while the provocations kept coming.

Then, when I said I wanted her and those other cult-like clones to "get lost," I got hit with a ban 😁.
Completely deserved—and completely provoked.

There’s absolutely nothing controversial about what was written. Honestly, we might as well just sterilize this entire forum since one user decided to announce that the "usurper has been sanctioned."

And if we’re being completely honest here, you showed up to the US chat that day—where people tend to jump into conversations quite often (others do it too, though they usually just get a slap on the wrist)—and you told her the following:

bluetinker11 said:You and all your cloned trash can go straight to hell, because I am officially done with you.

You guys can collectively smash yourselves together hoping for some kind of golden glory, but even sticks can survive a nuclear meltdown.

Go ahead, report me. I truly don't give a damn anymore.
At least I won't have to waste my breath talking to dim-witted idiots who think their only talent is complaining about how pathetic they are. They aren't pathetic because they're alone; they're alone because they're pathetic.

So suck it, and you all can decide amongst yourselves who wants to go first.

Look, I said I stand by what I wrote—I’m not backtracking or denying it. I stated my piece knowing full well the consequences, and I pointed out that the whole thing is still visible in the chat (since the post wasn't actually deleted, just sanctioned, if I recall correctly).

And her constantly bringing up another user's ban is perfectly fine, too? Apparently, I can go around claiming clones are provoking me, but she gets a free pass? I'd say that's a bit more mild than "malicious people being abusive."

If you're observant enough to track exactly when and how I snap at people, then you should have noticed her MO from the jump—she's been stirring the pot on the US boards since her very first chat post.

Honestly, good luck staying sane when someone drags out something you said for over a month just to keep the fight going.

I've clashed with plenty of people—I'm not proud of it—but we usually stop the back-and-forth once things escalate, mostly because it leads to sanctions 🤷.

bluetinker11 said:If you’re paying enough attention to track exactly when and how I snap at people on this forum, then you definitely should have noticed her MO from the jump—she’s been throwing shade in the chat since her very first post.

Honestly, I don't blame you for getting annoyed when someone drags out a point you made over a month ago just to keep picking at you.

I’ve had my fair share of petty arguments with people here, but usually, we just stop poking at each other once things get heated because, well, nobody wants to deal with a ban🤷.

How is it your fault if you aren't reporting those kinds of posts in the chat? I’ve been in that chat at least ten times, and I’ve even explicitly said, "The chat moves too fast to monitor everything, so please use the report button or DM me." How many reports actually come in? Hardly any. Why? Because everyone prefers bickering amongst themselves and praying to God that the mods don't catch on.

If there are posts where certain users or specific trolls are being targeted, you can report those. But expecting the mods to sit there scrolling through a chat where messages fly by every minute just to issue bans for things like, "Oh look, so-and-so got banned, tee hee tee hee"—yeah, that's just not going to happen.

Quoting a boxed post? Really?

Zayn said:I just studied the mantras before the exam, not the actual terms.😁

But hey—according to everyone else—I’m supposedly trash anyway, just because I’m pathetic, rather than being pathetic because I’m actually 😁 😁 🤣
...

So my insults are the problem, while the other side gets to be all sweet and innocent?

Zayn said:Yeah, because everyone else runs for the hills once they see the kind of hate and judgment certain individuals you tolerate here are ready to dish out. I mean, come on—volunteering at a local soup kitchen is basically a vacation in Hawaii compared to this.

Just because some people think they have the right to attack someone they don't even know—someone who hasn't done anything wrong to them, like what happened to me in this chat yesterday. There will always be psychopaths like that, but the way everyone else pretends nothing even happened? That’s the real failure...

Enough time has passed for me to cool off and think things through... and I've concluded that it's worth pointing out that your posts are worthless. This is the perfect breeding ground for bullies. If anyone was bothered by my sense of humor in this thread, they could have communicated that in a much more human, decent way instead of labeling me as someone unworthy of friendship or proximity—only to then lecture me and immediately go back to casual small talk.

The US is honestly a place best avoided whenever possible... No amount of solitude can be as cruel as an audience lurking here, just waiting to devour an "easy target."

bluetinker11 said:So, I’m the one being the jerk, while the other person is acting all sweet and composed? Great. Just my luck.

This post is total cardboard. What exactly are we even talking about here?

Like I mentioned before—feel free to just post your stuff over in the subforum. People don't really keep a close eye on the main chat anyway. Besides, there's honestly no point in trying to report someone for mentioning a random user or some old thread; it’s just not worth the hassle.

If rustydrifter10 wants to ban that controversial post, fine by me. Personally, I’m not seeing anything in there that warrants a strike.

Matthew Anderson said:Don't blame me because you guys won't report those posts in the chat. I’ve hopped into the chat at least ten times—and I even explicitly said, "The chat is moving too fast to monitor, so just hit the report button or DM me"—yet how many reports actually come in? Hardly any. Why? Because everyone prefers bickering amongst themselves and praying to God the mods don't notice.

If there are posts where specific users or certain clowns are being targeted, go ahead and report them. But expecting mods to sit there reading a chat that updates every single minute just to hand out bans like, "Oh look, some user got banned, tee hee hee"—absolutely not. We aren't doing that.

So, you aren't going to read the chat and you aren't going to ban anyone? Then what's the point of even bothering to report stuff?

What's the takeaway here?
Should I just pack it in and go home?

I'm not trying to stir up drama, but I also refuse to let someone walk all over me for months only to be painted as the villain when I finally tell them to get lost. I mean, sure, I might be a bit much—but I wasn't exactly unprovoked.

By the way, when I'm writing a post about someone I'm banning, I'll be using "we" since somehow my private info was leaked, allowing people to harass me both here and over on RL.

Matthew Anderson said:The post is already flagged—what are we even debating here?

I already told you—you can report posts to the moderators since this chat isn't really being monitored. Besides, officially calling out some random user or a specific flag—it’s pointless to try and get someone banned over it.

If Nika wants to flag that post, go ahead; personally, I don't see anything that warrants a violation.

That post isn't the problem—the real issue is this whole "everyone is a villain" nonsense.

bluetinker11 said:So we aren't going to quote anything or hand out warnings? What was even the point of all this registration effort then?

It’s honestly impressive how much you struggle with reading posts for actual meaning.

1. This chat moves incredibly fast, especially late at night. Because of the way chat works, the mods aren't sitting there hovering over it constantly or reading every single line like they do with most other threads.

2. Because of that first point, every single issue needs to be reported—either by flagging it or by sending me a DM with the link—so we can actually take action if needed.

3. As for those "Oh, the usurpers have been punished" comments, we aren't definitely going to issue warnings for those unless there are specific complaints from certain users. I guess we should just start banning everyone who writes "hehehe someone got a warning."

🤦

bluetinker11 said:That wasn't even a controversial post; the whole "evil people being mean hehehe" vibe is what's controversial.

Controversial to *you*. Posts that the moderators actually found problematic were warned. If we're being totally honest here, you probably should've seen more warnings yourself given your obsession with hunting down clones and those "you're definitely a clone" comments. And when you guys cornered that female user and jumped her? Oh, absolutely.

If Nika thinks your reported post warrants a warning, then go ahead and issue one.

Which reported post?
Let me be clear—the issue isn't that specific post, it's the whole damn situation
. I started hunting down clones once they began leaking my private info. And honestly, what kind of "just suck it up and stay quiet" logic is that? I didn't get banned because you guys were being generous—I didn't beg for a pass—so I don't feel any obligation to play nice just because you're framing this as some sort of favor 🤷.

This is FEMA, and I’m here asking a question
. The answer still hasn't quite hit the mark—I need to know if I should actually report *those* kinds of posts, or if they won't be banned anyway (in which case, I'm just wasting everyone's time by clicking the little triangle icon)
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bluetinker11 said:Let me say it again—it’s not just about that one post above; it’s the whole damn thing.

So, we’re finally on the same page: your issue is with the OP, not the mods.

bluetinker11 said:I only started hunting down clones once they actually started leaking my private info.

Did you report those posts? Because if you didn't, and something slips through the cracks in the chat—that's entirely on you. Please, just report them. And if some trolls start quoting your own forum posts back to you? That’s also your responsibility to handle. Quoting your own previous comments isn't considered leaking personal info. But if someone starts dropping data that isn't public knowledge, we shut that down immediately. No mercy.

bluetinker11 said:I’m still a little fuzzy on the answer, honestly. I was mostly trying to figure out if I should actually bother reporting *those kinds* of posts, or if they just fly under the radar without getting flagged. I'd hate to be wasting both my time and yours by clicking that little report button for nothing.

What exactly is unclear here? If someone on the forum writes "the usurpers were sanctioned," we really ought to step in and issue a sanction ourselves, because they're clearly referring to... I don't even know where to start with this one. That's just a total joke. Someone. So, about that user? They really should have made it clear they were talking about you. 🤦

It was about private messages—someone leaking my own personal info. I don't want to (and honestly, can't) share those details here—like my email address, which follows the name.surname@... format. I didn't report it because I have no desire for every single moderator to go through that message, and last time this came up, they said all mods get notified anyway.

Again... What’s written above is just one example via mobile—trying to dig up posts from someone you've already blocked without a search tool is a massive pain.
I was just wondering what we "bad actors" are supposed to do when we keep running into the exact same situation over and over. Can we just write that "clones are provoking us"? 😁

Look, realistically, this isn't the most important thing ever—it's just incredibly frustrating being penalized for a post I'm technically not allowed to discuss or even reference, lest I get hit with another strike. Because of "insults." Because of "commenting." Because of "quoting a flagged post."

After you've tried being nice, trying to joke it off, ignoring them, sending a PM, and eventually getting downright rude—and absolutely nothing works... Well, I had to try it here, damn it.

I don't care about ignoring trolls or "getting even," but I have no idea how to deal with someone who refuses to understand anything—subtle, direct, or otherwise.
I'm not entirely sure when I got the strike, but they've been on my ignore list since the day I wrote the post—the actual strike came a bit later, probably around New Year's—and this whole thing is resurfacing today... God, how much time has passed?
Not that I've even posted on the forum until today.

bluetinker11 said:It was about private messages where my own personal info was being leaked—stuff I really don't want to share on the forum (like my email address, which is basically firstname.lastname@...). I didn't report it because I don't necessarily want every single moderator seeing that message, and last time this came up, the rule was that all mods get notified when a report is filed.

If I'm following you correctly, someone else (not you) sent a DM containing your private data, and you're hesitant to report it because then the mods would see your info too? Honestly, there isn't much we can do if you don't flag it.

bluetinker11 said:I was just wondering what we "bad actors" are supposed to do when we keep running into this exact same situation. Can we just report them for "being provoked by clones"?😁

It's simple: just report the post. If we determine that these posts are being made repeatedly just to stir the pot, we’ll definitely step in and hand out sanctions.

bluetinker11 said:I have no problem ignoring trolls or refusing to "fight back," but I struggle with how to handle people who just refuse to take a hint—whether they're being subtle or direct. They just don't get it.
I can't remember exactly when I got my warning, but I've been ignoring them since then (actually, since the day I made that post; the actual warning came a little later, probably around New Year's). This whole thing starts again today... man, time flies.
Plus, I haven't even posted on the forum until today.

Like I said, just report the posts so we actually have something to work with. What you're asking for is for us to react because *you* know someone in the chat is taking shots at you. The problem is, you're the only one who knows that—none of us mods have a clue.

I wasn't even looking for a fight over this data leak (which isn't even linked to this account)—I just wanted to explain the situation.
I closed my DMs, so if they want to go around sharing stuff, let them have their little fun. It’s not like it matters—if someone is operating from a burner account, there’s zero emotional attachment to a throwaway handle anyway.

Fine. Thanks for the input. 👍