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shadowcobra32 shadowcobra32 NewcomerOP
8 messages
joined Feb 2010
#1 ·
Hi everyone... I guess this is actually my first time😉 finding the courage to set up a profile and finally pour out these dark secrets that have been eating away at me day after day... I’ve been lurking on this forum for such a long time now, just reading everything, but I could never quite bring myself to comment or actually take a step toward changing anything. So, here goes... I’m 22 years old, about 5'4", and I weigh... well... 180 lbs... which, let’s be honest, feels absolutely terrible, just awful, and I can already hear all the mean things people say... I know exactly where I stand.😢 Ever since I was old enough to realize it, I’ve been fighting this constant battle with my weight, though I often try to blame my genetics because almost everyone in my family is "curvy"... plus, both my parents deal with diabetes, so I’m definitely predisposed to that too, but honestly, if you saw me in person, you might not even realize how much I struggle, because people always seem surprised, yet the scale is an absolute liar when it comes to making me feel better... I’ve gained so much that...😢

The real issue is that I spend nearly my entire day stuck on campus, and my eating habits are just a total mess; I don't eat properly at all, meaning I miss regular meal times and the frequency is all over the place, so I usually just grab whatever little snack I can find when I get a break, and then once I finally get back home from classes late at night, I end up just devouring pancakes or hitting up the dining hall—and we all know how hit-or-miss that food really is.😢

I also barely move at all because after spending the whole day at university, I just don't have the energy left to do anything other than sit or lie down...

To be perfectly clear... I am fully aware that I have a problem and I know exactly what steps I need to take to change my life, but I just can't find the motivation... it's hard because depression is always looming in the background, and even though I have a boyfriend and a pretty normal life on the surface, I still struggle with being depressed, which makes finding the drive to lose weight feel impossible...

So... yeah... that’s my story, and I am so sorry for bothering you all with my nonsense...😢
Jonathan Miller7 Jonathan Miller7 Newcomer
1 message
joined Nov 2008
#2 ·
shadowcobra32 said:The thing is, I'm stuck at university practically all day, so I don't eat properly.

🙄

And when I finally crawl back home from campus in the evening, I just grab some pancakes or hit up the dining hall (and we all know how "gourmet" dining hall food really is).😢

🙄

I barely move because after being stuck on campus all day, I have zero willpower left for anything other than sitting or lying down...

🙄

Look, let's be real... I know I have a problem. I know exactly what I need to change, but I just can't find the motivation. It’s partly the depression—I mean, I have a boyfriend and my life seems normal to everyone else, but I struggle with depression and it just kills any drive I might have to lose weight...

🙄

You aren't exercising, you're eating junk, and you're using your college schedule as an excuse—which is exactly what tons of other people do without making it their whole identity. So, what am I supposed to say? Should I just tell you, "Hey, stop eating junk, get moving, and eat healthy all day long"? Like, thanks for the brilliant advice!
Andrew Wells58 Andrew Wells58 Active Member
58 messages
joined Feb 2005
#3 ·
shadowcobra32 said:Look, let’s be real here... I know I have an issue. I know exactly what needs to change, but I just can't find the motivation. Everything feels heavy because of my depression. Even though I have a boyfriend and a pretty normal life, this depression makes it feel impossible to care about losing weight...

Honestly, look, nobody can force motivation into your head if you aren't ready for it.

It really comes down to one simple question: do the extra pounds actually bother you? If they do, then you've already admitted there's something that needs to change. Maybe start small, like walking to and from campus instead of driving, and pack some healthy snacks so you aren't tempted. Just try to be a bit more mindful of what you eat. There's a more detailed thread on how to lose belly fat if you want to check it out.

If the weight doesn't bother you—or at least not enough to take real action—then maybe don't vent about it. 🙂 But honestly, those two little changes aren't that big of a deal. Just give them a shot.
Daniel Newman14 Daniel Newman14 Newcomer
9 messages
joined Oct 2009
#4 ·
shadowcobra32 said:Hey there... first time posting here.😉 I finally worked up the nerve to make a profile and actually spill my darkest secrets—the kind that eat away at me every single day. I’ve been lurking on this forum for ages, reading everything, yet I could never bring myself to comment or take any actual steps toward change. So, here it is. I'm 22 years old, 5'4", and I weigh about 200 pounds. Yeah, I know. I can already hear the "you look disgusting," "just stop eating," and "it's pathetic" comments coming. Trust me, I get it. I've heard it all in my head already.😢 I’ve been fighting a constant battle with my weight for as long as I can remember. My whole family is built "round," so I usually just chalk it up to bad genetics—it feels like an uphill climb from day one. On top of that, both of my parents deal with diabetes, which means I'm basically sitting on a ticking time bomb when it comes to blood sugar issues too. The weirdest part? If you saw me walking down the street, you probably wouldn't think twice. People look at me and genuinely seem shocked when I tell them my actual weight. They don't see it, but the scale doesn't lie. It’s reached a point where I have so many extra pounds that...😢

The real issue is that I’m stuck on campus almost all day, which means my eating habits are pretty much non-existent. I’m definitely not eating right, and I'm certainly not eating at regular intervals. I just grab whatever small snack I can manage when I finally get a break, and then once I trek back home after classes, I end up crashing with something like pancakes or hitting up the dining hall—and we all know how hit-or-miss the food is at those university cafeterias.😢

I’m moving like a snail today. After spending the entire day stuck at the university, I honestly don't have the energy to do anything except sit down or lie on the couch. It's like my battery is completely drained.

Let’s be real here... I know exactly what my problem is. I know the steps I need to take and I know exactly what needs to change in my life, but the motivation just isn't there. It's like trying to start a car with a dead battery. To make matters worse, I'm dealing with depression. Don't get me wrong, my life looks fine on paper—I have a boyfriend and a pretty standard, stable life—but underneath that, I'm struggling with depression and I just can't find the drive to lose weight.

So... that’s all I’ve got to say. And look, sorry for clogging up your feed with this nonsense.😢

Hey there!
I’ve been exactly where you are—stuck in that cycle of weight gain and feeling like you can't break free. But I finally managed to snap out of it, and honestly, I feel great now. I know you mentioned you're dealing with depression, and looking at your profile, it seems like you have a boyfriend too, which is a huge plus. He really should be your biggest cheerleader here. Use that connection as motivation; let him be the support system that pushes you to get healthy. Your family should be doing the same. To be real with you, I went through a massive depressive episode myself. It lasted a long time because I was drowning in financial stress and struggling to finish my degree at the university. I ended up using food as a crutch to cope with everything, just numbing myself so I wouldn't have to think about any of it. Eventually, though, I hit a breaking point. I decided enough was enough and actually started facing my problems head-on instead of running from them. My family was always nudging me to do this—for my health, for my career prospects, and just to feel better about myself. They were my backbone through it all. The turning point for me was when I finally stopped avoiding the local gym. It was literally a five-minute walk from my apartment—a route I used to take a massive detour to avoid—but once I started going to aerobics, everything changed. I used to be totally obsessed with my appearance in a negative way, but once I got moving and started eating smarter, I actually forgot about my misery and things started looking up. My routine isn't anything crazy: I still eat breakfast, just smaller portions. For lunch, I eat whatever I cook, and for dinner, I usually just stick to some yogurt or fruit around 5:00 or 6:00 PM so I can hit my workout. I’ve stuck to this for about a year now, and I’m determined to keep exercising so I don't pack the weight back on. I know you struggle with late-night eating; I was the exact same way back when I was grinding through college. When you get home, try to keep it light—grab some fruit or a yogurt, then go for a workout or even just a brisk walk. If you keep your body busy, you won't be thinking about food constantly. I hope this helps a little. If not, I'm sure someone else will chime in. Hang in there—you can absolutely do this. Just keep moving forward.👍
Ethan Reyes2 Ethan Reyes2 Newcomer
4 messages
joined Apr 2008
#5 ·
There are people out there who are overweight, yet they couldn't care less about it; they just live their lives, enjoying themselves, their food, and the company of others...

And then there's you, feeling depressed just because of your weight... if that's really how it is.
I suppose you're looking for someone to just come along and fix all your troubles, right?😕
But what does that actually mean? Are you looking to lose weight, or is there something else on your mind?

If your goal is to slim down, you have to be prepared for the struggle. There’s no substitute for hard work, and honestly, there's no shortcut to losing weight either.
It always bothers me when people expect quick, easy fixes to everything. If you want significant results, that kind of thing simply doesn't exist.

If I were in your shoes, I’d probably start by incorporating some physical activity first, rather than making any drastic, sudden changes.

In general, I find that I'm motivated by seeing tangible progress and small wins. I noticed my first real breakthrough just from walking regularly. And we're talking very minimal effort here: just about thirty minutes of walking every day.
The extra weight around my midsection started to melt away.
So, I eventually thought to myself, why not try a Couch to 5K program and start running? 😲
And that's exactly what I did—running two or three times a week for maybe fifteen or twenty minutes at a time.
Then I realized I didn't want to undo all that progress by stuffing myself with junk food, especially since my waistline and hips were starting to look so much better.

So, I figured, let's see what would happen if I actually joined a gym...
I basically just talked myself into it.

Some people might take offense at this, but to me, it seems like being overweight and being lazy are often linked. You have to conquer your own laziness first, and once you've done that, the battle against your weight becomes much more manageable.

I wasn't ever overweight myself, but I certainly know what laziness feels like.😳 😁
Dana Miller2 Dana Miller2 Member
16 messages
joined Sep 2008
#6 ·
Just get moving, seriously, anything at all... it’s the only way to break this funk. 🙂
Ethan Reyes2 Ethan Reyes2 Newcomer
4 messages
joined Apr 2008
#7 ·
Dana Miller2 said:Just get moving, honestly, even if it’s just something small, because that’s how you finally break through the fog of depression. 🙂

yeah.
I guess I rambled so much I completely forgot to mention the golden rule: just get started. 🙂
quietpilot87 quietpilot87 Active Member
149 messages
joined Sep 2008
#8 ·
Jonathan Miller7 said:You’re barely moving, living off junk food, and using college as an excuse—which is basically what everyone else does, so nobody bats an eye. What are people on this forum supposed to say? "Hey, stop eating trash, hit the gym, and eat organic all day"?

Yeah... true. You’re never going to have more free time than you do right now in college. Studying, no matter how much of a grind it is, doesn't even come close to a full-time job or actual adult responsibilities.

On the flip side, I wouldn't be too harsh. Honestly, it feels like a perfect storm of issues here—maybe she’s miserable with her classes, hates the people she's hanging out with, or just has zero motivation at home (probably a pantry full of processed crap).
I say that because those kinds of cycles usually spiral into depression and that total lack of drive you feel when you get home at night. We all hit that wall sometimes, but it shouldn't be your permanent state of being.

The silver lining is that forcing a diet change and getting some movement in can jumpstart your energy levels pretty damn fast.
Seriously, just gotta get moving.

Sleepy, if this thread turns into a giant pity party, I’m locking it or moving it over to the psychology section. We can debate the psychological roots of weight gain and loss all we want, but for God's sake, just start somewhere 😁
Dana Miller2 Dana Miller2 Member
16 messages
joined Sep 2008
#9 ·
She’ll get moving eventually. Honestly, just the fact that she actually started this thread means she’s already decided things aren't staying the way they are...
quietpilot87 quietpilot87 Active Member
149 messages
joined Sep 2008
#10 ·
There’s a massive gap between making a decision and actually doing something about it. Most people just fill that space with whining and bellyaching 😁
That’s why you have to watch your step. I’d personally want some help from her, so I’m gonna leave this thread open—let's see how this plays out.
Henry Miller2 Henry Miller2 Member
22 messages
joined Sep 2008
#11 ·
Brenda Young28 said:Hey there! How’s it going?
I’ve definitely been there myself—dealing with that extra weight and feeling like I couldn't shake it. But honestly, I finally managed to break free from that cycle, and I'm feeling really good about where I am now. I know you mentioned you're going through a rough patch with depression right now, and I just wanted to reach out... I see you've got a boyfriend too—that’s awesome.I honestly feel like he should be out there motivating you and actually being someone you can lean on.Do it for him—so you can finally drop those extra pounds.I totally get where you’re coming from—honestly, my own family went through this too. I spent a long time stuck in a really dark place, just spiraling because of money stress and struggling to finally wrap up my finance degree. When things get that heavy, you just end up eating your feelings and checking out from reality entirely. But eventually, I hit a breaking point where I just had to face it head-on. My family was always pushing me to prioritize myself—you know, lose some weight, finish school, find a career, just look after my own well-being. They weren't being mean about it; they were actually my biggest support system. It’s hard to explain, but one day I just made the call to change. I started going to an aerobics class that was literally five minutes from my apartment—a place I used to go way out of my way to avoid. Thank God I did, because it changed everything. I used to be so obsessed with how I looked, but once I got moving and started eating a bit more mindfully, all that mental fog just lifted. My routine now is pretty simple: I still eat breakfast like usual, just smaller portions. For lunch, I just eat whatever I cook, and for dinner, I usually stick to something light like yogurt or fruit between 4:00 and 5:00 PM so it doesn't interfere with my workouts. It worked so well that I've managed to keep off the weight I lost over the last year, and I’m sticking to it so it doesn't come back. I know you mentioned that dinner is your biggest struggle. I was exactly the same way back when I was grinding through college. Honestly, when you get home, try to grab something super light—maybe some fruit or a yogurt—and then go for a workout or even just a long walk. If you stay busy and move your body, you won't be thinking about food nearly as much. I really hope this helps a little. If not, I’m sure someone else will chime in. You've got this—just keep moving forward. You're going to make it.👍

Look, that bold font is actually hurting my eyes, so I just have to say something. Please don't take this as a personal attack or anything.😁)
Look, if you're actually trying to drop some weight, I honestly think the main driver—aside from the obvious stuff like health and all that—should be making sure she’s happy and actually wants to get down to business. Just doing it for myself..
Everything I do—whether it’s my diet, hitting the gym, or whatever else—is strictly for me. It’s about feeling better, being more confident, staying healthy, and just finding some actual happiness. Honestly, whenever I see those "get fit to impress your guy" schemes or posts about getting in shape just to land a boyfriend, I practically have a mini meltdown. Sorry, not sorry. I just can't help it.😁)

It’s definitely nice to have that support from your boyfriend, but at the end of the day, you've gotta be your own biggest motivator.
Sure, she’ll probably feel a little boost to her ego once her boyfriend—and everyone else, really—starts noticing the weight loss. But honestly? The real goal is making sure those lifestyle changes and that whole turnaround happen for her, and nobody else.

shadowcobra32, you can totally do this—just gotta stay patient and keep pushing! Honestly, there are plenty of us here who’ve dropped 20 or even 30 pounds already. It’s definitely not going to be a walk in the park because you really have to overhaul your habits, your lifestyle, and how you eat. If the whole "getting active" thing still feels like some vague, intimidating concept to you right now, just start by walking on an empty stomach. It’s not that intense, and it’s a killer way to get moving at first. Try to find something you actually enjoy doing, something that feels fulfilling rather than like a chore. For me, hitting the gym was the key, but for someone else, it might be boxing or something similar. Just find your thing.

When it comes to nutrition, honestly, just dive into some of the discussions in this PDF or reach out and ask around. Do your homework, learn how to cook, and just cut out the junk food and those massive piles of refined carbs we all end up eating just because they're cheap and easy to grab on the go. 😁
Daniel Newman14 Daniel Newman14 Newcomer
9 messages
joined Oct 2009
#12 ·
Lisa Wells65;24833206 said:That bold text is honestly an eyesore, I can't just sit here without saying something. (Please don't take this personally.😁)
If someone is trying to lose weight, their primary driver—aside from health or other obvious stuff—should be wanting to feel good about themselves and doing it for themselves.
Everything I do, whether it's my diet or hitting the gym, I do for me. I want to feel better, more confident, healthier, happier... When I see these "get fit for a guy" or "fix yourself up for him" narratives, it honestly triggers a bit of a reaction in me. (Sorry, I can't help it.😁)

look, I get where you're coming from... everyone has their own take on things...😁
quietpilot87 quietpilot87 Active Member
149 messages
joined Sep 2008
#13 ·
Whatever her motivation is, it’s fine 🤷

Bed is only if her guy is pressuring her to gain weight, lose weight, or change anything else about herself.
In that case, the only thing she should be changing is him.
electricraven11 electricraven11 Newcomer
3 messages
joined Mar 2010
#14 ·
Look, just being real—you’re carrying an extra 60 or 70 pounds around, so of course you're feeling wiped after classes. Maybe think about this: once you hit a healthy weight and get some energy from working out, you'll actually have the stamina to get way more done than just dragging yourself to campus. Plus, eating junk isn't helping the burnout.
Henry Miller2 Henry Miller2 Member
22 messages
joined Sep 2008
#15 ·
@quietpilot87/">@@quietpilot87
I’m just speaking from personal experience and what I’ve seen with people close to me. It honestly feels like everything works out much better when those kinds of decisions are made for yourself, rather than for anyone else. 🤷

I’ve been there myself—losing weight, dealing with that annoying yo-yo effect, and trying pretty much every fad diet under the sun. But nothing really stuck until I finally got my head straight and rebuilt my lifestyle from the ground up. For me, it started with just researching everything I could find, and then on April 28th of that year, I finally decided to go for it.🤣

Anyway, I’m rooting for the author. Stay persistent; it’ll all be worth it. There's seriously no feeling like going from struggling to squeeze into a size 22 and eventually hitting a size 16. 🙏 😍
Morgan Torres Morgan Torres Member
40 messages
joined Sep 2007
#16 ·
I honestly don't see how being depressed has anything to do with whether or not you have a boyfriend 🤷 if, what, every single bachelor out there is depressed?
Daniel Newman14 Daniel Newman14 Newcomer
9 messages
joined Oct 2009
#17 ·
Morgan Torres said:I honestly don't see how being depressed has anything to do with having a boyfriend🤷 unless you're saying every single guy in the Hamptons is depressed?

Fair point😁...
Henry Miller2 Henry Miller2 Member
22 messages
joined Sep 2008
#18 ·
I guess it’s just some weird stereotype that girls with extra weight can't find a boyfriend or are destined to be depressed.😬
wearyotter81 wearyotter81 Member
28 messages
joined May 2015
#19 ·
Or just that total misconception that if a girl has a boyfriend, she’s automatically happy. 😬
Jonathan Miller7 Jonathan Miller7 Newcomer
1 message
joined Nov 2008
#20 ·
quietpilot87 said:Yeah, okay... look, it's true that she’s never going to have more free time than she does right now while she's still in college. I mean, sure, studying can be brutal, but honestly? It doesn't even come close to the grind of a full-time job combined with all those other "adulting" responsibilities that start piling up on you.

Exactly. And let's be real, that's not even her fault. 🙂

The actual issue here is just the pure "I don't feel like it" factor.

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