Infertility and low fertility issues

Ever since I hit my first period, things have been incredibly unpredictable; it’s not unusual for three or four months to pass by without me seeing any sign of it at all. Is this some kind of warning sign that I might be infertile???

Look, you aren't sterile, but you aren't exactly hitting that fertile window every single month either. Have you actually sat down with an OB-GYN yet? Did they bother to send you off for some hormone testing?

Look, you can't just judge someone's fertility or sterility based on whether their period is regular or messy. It doesn't work like that. You need to start with a standard checkup with your OB-GYN, and from there, they'll decide if you actually need to run more specific tests.

I am new to this forum and will be grateful for any help provided.

My situation is somewhat unique. I live in one place, while my husband is stationed on a different continent due to his job—and this hasn't been the case for long. Before he left about six months ago, we were trying for a baby, though not intensely since work had us both completely exhausted; we were basically zombies crashing in bed after work.
Consequently, those six months of effort didn't result in pregnancy. I am 38 years old, and frankly, I'm starting to feel the pressure. I visited my gynecologist four months ago, and everything seemed fine.
However, I can't shake this anxiety. Since I will only see my husband occasionally over the next two or three years—and even then, just for a few days at a time—🙂🙂🙂, I want to be certain about when I ovulate and, more importantly, ensure that everything is functioning correctly on my end.
My cycles used to be quite regular, but for the last three or four months, they have been all over the place; sometimes it’s day 24, other times it’s day 35. It's infuriating!🙂🙂.
Please let me know which tests I should undergo to be sure I am healthy and ready for pregnancy.
It felt as though my doctor slightly dismissed me during our last visit, offering a smile and suggesting we simply haven't been trying long enough. Fine, I admit we weren't relentless, but I only see my husband two or three times a year now. I need to fully understand my body and track my ovulation so I can actually book flights accordingly.🤣🤣🤣.
One more thing: I am carrying about 55 pounds of excess weight, which I've read in many places can decrease the chances of conception. I started a diet on January 1st.
Thank you all for your responses.

Kimberly Martin said:I’m new to this forum, and I’ll be grateful for any help you can give me.

My situation is a bit complicated. I live in one place, while my husband is stationed on a completely different continent because of his job. It’s a relatively recent change. Before he left about six months ago, we were trying for a baby, but we weren't being super intense about it since work had us totally wiped out; by the time we got home at night, we were basically zombies, too exhausted to do anything.
So, those six months of effort didn't result in a pregnancy. I'm 38 now, and I'm starting to feel the biological clock ticking loudly. I saw my OB-GYN four months ago, and everything seemed fine.
Still, I can't stop worrying. Since I'll only see my husband occasionally over the next two or three years—and even then, just for a few days at a time—🙂🙂🙂, I want to be absolutely certain when my ovulation occurs, and more importantly, make sure there isn't an underlying issue with my health.
My cycles used to be pretty predictable, but over the last three or four months, they’ve been all over the place. Sometimes I get my period on day 24, other times it's day 35. It's infuriating!🙂🙂.
Please, let me know which tests I should undergo to ensure I'm healthy and capable of conceiving.
It felt like my doctor brushed me off a little during our last visit, giving me a patronizing smile and suggesting we haven't been trying long enough. Fine, I admit we haven't been "trying" aggressively, but I only see my husband two or three times a year now. I need to know exactly what's going on with my body so I can track my ovulation and actually book plane tickets accordingly.🤣🤣🤣.
One more thing: I'm about 55 pounds overweight, which I've read in many places can hinder conception. I started a diet back on January 1st.
Thanks to everyone for the replies.

First off, I wouldn't recommend a strict diet; instead, focus on regular exercise and clean eating. Cut out refined sugars and swap white bread and pasta for whole grains. Stick to lean proteins like chicken and fish, load up on veggies, and most importantly, stay hydrated. Drastic dieting will just stress your body out, and that won't help anyone.
Unfortunately, even if your periods are regular, predicting ovulation precisely is tricky. My advice? If you're set on dieting, try to time it so you're doing it for at least two months before you're with your husband, ensuring you have regular intercourse during those windows. Also, your husband needs to check his fertility too. If his sperm motility is low, it won't matter how much you lose weight, how perfectly you track your fertile days, or how many expensive flights you book.
For you, the priority is making sure your ultrasounds, Pap smear, and swabs are all clear, along with getting a full hormonal panel via bloodwork—ask your doctor for those referrals.
Your husband should also get a semen analysis to see where he stands.

I couldn't find a suitable thread for this, so I’m asking the admin to point me in the right direction. I haven't even bothered to Google this yet. For about two years now, I’ve been trying to get pregnant. I was on Diane for quite a while due to acne issues and what looked like polycystic ovaries—though I don't actually have PCOS. I’ve started seeing a new doctor and have had two exams so far: one right after my period and another around ovulation. Both times, she just shook her head. According to her, my cervix is too closed, and she thinks that’s why I haven't conceived yet. My Pap smear came back normal, and my swabs are fine, too. I’ve never had a gynecologist mention this to me before. I’m 34. Does anyone know anything about this?

Maria Harris56 said:I couldn't find a thread that fit, so I'm asking the admins to point me in the right direction. I haven't even Googled this yet. Basically, I've been trying to get pregnant for about two years now. I was on birth control for a long time because of acne issues and what looked like polycystic ovaries, though I don't actually have PCOS. I have a new doctor and I've seen her twice—once right after my period and once around ovulation. Both times, she just shook her head. She thinks my cervix is too closed, and that’s why I haven't conceived yet. My Pap smear was normal, all my tests came back fine. No gynecologist has ever mentioned this to me before. I'm 34. Does anyone know anything about this?

You really need to talk to a fertility specialist. Your average OB-GYN is mostly just guessing when it comes to infertility causes.
Go see an actual fertility clinic for a consultation; that's how you'll get real answers.
Since you've been trying for two years (and considering you're 34), it's definitely time to reach out to reproductive specialists.
That doesn't mean you're automatically headed for IVF, but they can actually run tests and suggest treatments instead of just giving you an "opinion."

Hey everyone.
I’m dealing with a blocked fallopian tube—just one left, since the other was removed due to hydrosalpinx.
I'm looking into ways to clear the blockage... has anyone actually heard of using massage to unblock tubes? My cousin in New York City sent me a link to a clinic that claims to treat hydrosalpinx (something nobody here ever seems to mention is even treatable) and says they have success opening up blocked tubes through "natural" methods—massage and some other treatments to get things moving again.
Here is the clinic's site:
https://clearpassage.com/infertility-issues/