ED or something else?

So, I'm 27 and I've been dealing with this issue where I can't get things up most of the time. It’s been going on for like 10 years now, and honestly, I don't think I've ever actually had a full, rock-hard erection 👎. Even when I do manage to get an erection, it’s super soft and usually starts drooping before I can even finish. I've been seeing this girl for about 4 years now—she's amazing—and I don't think she even notices, probably because I was her first guy (well, she hasn't complained, we mostly just make out rather than actually having sex 😠). It's definitely not a lack of attraction, because she drives me crazy. I used to be about 45 pounds overweight, but I've dropped some weight and now I'm only about 20 pounds over. I started hitting the gym recently.
When I was a kid, I had surgery for undescended testicles, so I'm wondering if there's any connection there.

Also, over the last few years, I've felt my heart racing or skipping beats a lot of times 😕. I went to see a doctor about a year ago and they ran blood work and an EKG, and everything came back fine (though my blood pressure was a little high). Nobody else in my family has heart issues or diabetes, so it's not really a thing in my genes.

Does anyone have any advice? To be honest, I'm a total wimp when it comes to going to the doctor or a specialist 😂, which is why I haven't gone back for a professional opinion yet.
Please, just give me some serious feedback,
Thanks

Since you mentioned seeing a gynecologist, I’m either thinking you’re trolling or you just don't have a clue how this works, because for most "male" issues, you really should be heading to a urologist instead. Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal to go see a urologist, though I suppose it might feel awkward if you happen to know the GP personally, but if you don't see them regularly, you should probably just try to get a referral for a urologist and head straight there.

Look, maybe try talking to your primary care doctor about this first.
But honestly, since you mentioned all your tests came back clean, it sounds more like this might be psychological.
The good news is everything is fixable nowadays. You just have to decide if you'd rather spend your life stressing over this "erectile dysfunction" or just swallow your pride and actually deal with it.
If it helps, doctors see stuff like this every single day. They aren't shocked by it, and you're definitely not some medical anomaly. So... just man up and go for it.😉

I don't know. Honestly, it might just be an issue with blood flow down there. I’d suggest trying a few specific things.
1.) Unknown exercises.
I'm assuming you aren't familiar with them. Next time you're in the restroom, try stopping your urine mid-stream. That muscle you use to halt the flow? That's the Unknown muscle. Try squeezing that muscle about 200 times a day.
If you want more details (and trust me, you really should), just Google "Unknown exercises"—you'll find plenty of useful info out there.

2.) Drink some ginseng tea.
You can pick some up at a CVS or Walgreens. Basically, ginseng helps boost circulation throughout your entire body. It's definitely worth it. I’d recommend having a cup every single day.

3.) Get moving.
Hit the cardio hard. Go for a run, ride your bike, go swimming—whatever. You need to do at least 30 minutes of it. It helps with that overall circulation too.

There you go. A few pointers. You've got nothing to lose, right? Give this a shot for two weeks and see if you notice any changes down there. If nothing happens, well, you'll just have to check back in with your doctor. If you need anything else, just shoot me a PM.😉

Look, being impressive isn't about how high you climb; it's about the ascent itself. You can find here some more info regarding different levels of firmness. At the end of the day, your "maximum" erection doesn't necessarily have to be rock hard—it's simply whatever your personal baseline is if you've never experienced anything else, just like you mentioned.

Secondly, losing an erection is often a psychological thing, tied directly to arousal. Just because something turns you on doesn't mean it keeps you turned on indefinitely. You have to actively maintain that spark, especially during longer sessions. It’s much like whether or not you lose steam while you're solo.

Back in the day, people used to apply castor oil topically to help stimulate blood flow in that area.

Since you’re posting in a medical thread, don't be surprised when people give you blunt answers.
It sounds like you might have sustained some testicular damage, and now you're dealing with the fallout.
Beyond just your standard physical checkups, you really need to get a full hormone panel done.

Honestly, maybe look into some deep psychoanalysis too.
If things start looking up, great; if not... well, that's life.

When it comes to your romantic life, you've basically got two paths to take.
Either find a woman where sex isn't the absolute center of her universe.
Or, figure out how to satisfy both yourself and your partner through other means.
You could even consider an open arrangement if she has those needs.
Good luck.

I hope I haven't rambled too much here... my intention was simply to be as clear as possible...😉

a) Get yourself to an optimal weight.
How is your diet looking—are you eating clean or just living on junk food?
It would be a real shame if, say, a constant diet of greasy burgers, fast food, and other indulgences caused a young man to lose his edge. Stick to plenty of fruits and vegetables, keep things lightly seasoned and low in fat... and don't overdo it on the alcohol & CIGARETTES!!! You wouldn't want to deal with the consequences in your later years!
(I have no idea if you drink at all, mind you, but I'm merely pointing it out)

b) Are you under stress? Specifically when you are together, I mean. Do thoughts of whatever is weighing you down keep creeping in? 🤷 Even if you find yourself spiraling into thoughts like, "Oh man, is this actually going to work?"—that kind of mindset can be incredibly counterproductive. Instead, try focusing on the fact that right there beside you, within arm's reach, is a beautiful, warm, soft woman who WANTS you. WANTS YOU!

Go get 'em! 😁

c) What is your communication like? Can the two of you truly talk? Are you able to tell her—"I'm not really feeling this," or "Let's try it this way instead"? 🤷 Take it slow, WITHOUT any pressure or force...

d) Now, others have already mentioned those Unknown exercises for you. Start practicing them. And remember—nothing changes overnight! 🙂 It’s a process!

e) Ah... oral sex? Foreplay? Those are powerful tools for boosting both your libido and hers... unleash the beast within you both 😍

So, that's my two cents; please don't take offense at my blunt approach.

Good luck 👍

darkscout81 said:Since you're posting here instead of on a medical forum, don't be surprised by the kind of replies you get.
You probably damaged your testicles, so now you're dealing with the fallout.
Beyond the standard physicals, get a hormone panel done.

Maybe try some deep psychoanalysis too.
If things improve, great; if not... well...

When it comes to your love life, you've got two moves.
Find a girl who doesn't prioritize sex above everything else.
Or just focus on satisfying both yourself and your partner through other means.
Alternatively, let her have her adventures if that's what she needs.
Good luck.

What does testicular damage have to do with an erection?!?!?!

Anyway, my advice? See a urologist instead of a gynecologist. A checkup and ultrasound with a specialist like Dr. Unknown will run you about $350$133, which is something you can manage once a year. I actually had surgery to descend my testicles when I was a kid, which led to a poor sperm count and eventually a testicular tumor. So, my take is go get your motility checked to see if there's anything to be done, and at the very least, see a urologist annually to screen for cancer. People who have late-descended testicles—meaning they require surgery later in life rather than being born with them descended—face a tumor risk similar to how smokers face lung cancer.

Joshua Doyle75 said:I'm 27 and struggling with ED; this has been an issue for about 10 years now, and honestly, I don't think I've ever actually achieved a full, rock-solid erection 👎. Even when things get going, they stay soft and usually die on me before I can finish. I've been with my girlfriend for four years—she's great, and I don't think she even notices because she was my first (or at least she hasn't complained; we spend more time making out than actually having sex 😠). Trust me, the attraction is definitely there, so it's not a lack of interest. I used to be 45, now I'm about 35. I've started hitting the gym lately.
I had surgery as a kid for undescended testicles, so I'm not sure if that plays a role here.

Also, over the last few years, I've felt my heart skipping beats quite a bit 😕. I went to the doctor a year ago, had blood work and an EKG done, and everything came back fine, though my blood pressure was slightly elevated. No one in my family has heart issues or diabetes.

Any advice? To be honest, I'm a total wimp when it comes to seeing a specialist 😂, which is why I haven't sought professional help yet.
Please keep the comments serious,
Thanks

Moving this to the health section.