I get this nagging pain whenever I’m dealing with an infection. Or sometimes, after intimacy, there’s this intense discomfort where I can’t even tell if it’s my kidney or my ovary acting up—but the sensation feels identical to when I have a kidney issue. It usually happens after things get a little too 🙂. That said, when I’m actually fighting a gynecological infection or a bladder issue, some level of pressure or pain seems expected. I’ve learned that if you just pick the right position, you can manage it. Back in June, I dealt with a kidney infection caused by E. coli, and let me tell you, sex was absolutely miserable. But here is the truly bizarre part: my doctor actually suggested that for women over 30 who are sexually active, having chronic bladder infections or frequent kidney issues is basically "normal." Seriously? I have never heard anything like that in my life, and honestly, it sounds completely fishy to me.