Hymenotomy procedure

Raymond Wells68 said:And here comes that friend I mentioned—thanks, babe!
Dakota, I’m actually right there with you on this "wonderful" little problem. Hey, Diana, do you happen to remember where your cousin went or who she saw? I'd feel so silly walking into a clinic and acting like an idiot if they just brush me off with stuff like "it's no big deal" or "just relax a little"—especially since I've been dealing with this for a while now. My hymen might not be super thick or anything, but my pain tolerance is pretty low, so when things finally click, it’s pure bliss! 😱

I sent you a DM.

Laura Jackson56 said:Oh my god. What an absolute load of nonsense.
It sounds like the guy just isn't up to the task—maybe he should focus on himself instead.
And her acting like her hymen is somehow indestructible... I mean, wtf? How old is she? 83? At this point, maybe her hymen has actually grown roots or something?

Why would you even insult a girl who’s clearly dealing with something and politely asking for advice? 🤷

Besides, you clearly have no clue what you're talking about—it's just total nonsense. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if she really does deal with an imperforate hymen. Just because you haven't dealt with something like that doesn't mean it isn't a real thing for others. Seriously, if you don't have anything intelligent or helpful to contribute, maybe just don't post at all. Instead of being so hateful.

I’m running into something pretty similar. My boyfriend and I have tried a few times now, but there was bleeding, and honestly, it was just incredibly painful. He couldn't really get past the first inch or two.
We actually noticed that my hymen seems to have two separate openings—it looks almost like there's a little bridge of tissue right in the middle. I’m wondering if that might be why things aren't progressing, or if it's even possible to work through that without seeing an OBGYN. Is this something that usually requires a minor surgical fix, or am I overthinking it?

Honestly, what you’re describing sounds like it might be a vaginal septum. I actually deal with the exact same thing—it’s just this little wall of elastic tissue, basically a congenital malformation from when you were still an embryo. Are you dealing with much pain, or do you find yourself using tampons? If you do use them, please be careful because they can actually get stuck; maybe stick to the slim ones or just standard size if you have to.

If it starts causing real issues, doctors usually just go in and surgically remove it. For me, thank God, it hasn't been a major problem, so my OBGYN decided it wasn't worth messing with. Plus, if I end up having kids, I’m planning on doing a C-section anyway.

Look, unless that partition is pretty significant and your period flow is totally normal, you shouldn't really have issues during sex. You probably just need to focus on relaxing and maybe grab some lube to make things easier.

Michelle Price66 said:It’s possible you might be dealing with a vaginal septum...

...though, honestly, there is a much higher probability that we are simply talking about a specific variation of the hymen.



Please—and I say this with the utmost sincerity—do not let fear hold you back; instead, please schedule an appointment with a gynecologist for a routine exam. They aren't going to be performing any invasive procedures or forcing anything into your vagina—no, no—they will simply take a look, perhaps perform an ultrasound, and have a proper conversation with you. In the end, wouldn't it be wise to go? Especially since you are beginning your sexual journey—regardless of whether your hymen is "standard" or not... and as for whether your hymen could actually be pierced through penetration alone? Well, truly, this forum simply cannot provide a definitive answer to that.

Exactly, there’s really no reason to freak out. Just go in for your regular checkup and they'll spot everything during the standard exam anyway. Honestly, though, I had this one experience where I went to a private OBGYN—it was my third time seeing her—and she suddenly decided I had a uterine septum. She told me I’d definitely need a C-section and warned me to be super careful when using tampons because they might get stuck because of the septum. It felt like such a reach.

So yeah, definitely do some homework on which doctor to pick. Some of them are total amateurs who don't know what they're doing; at least, that’s been my luck so far....

I honestly don't get it. Wouldn't it be much easier for the doctor to just perform the procedure in the office instead of forcing you to go to a major hospital afterward? 🤔

Drew Gonzalez75 said:I just don't get it—wouldn't it be way easier to just have a doctor perform a hymenotomy rather than having to undergo a full C-section later on? 🤔

The thing is—and I hope this makes sense—Michelle Price66 doesn't actually have a hymenal septum, she has a vaginal septum. That’s what leads to what is often called a double or divided vagina (basically, an internal wall within the vaginal canal). Now, if that septum isn't particularly large—which seems to be the case here, given that her third gynecologist was the first one to even mention it—and if it isn't causing her any actual issues with intercourse or using tampons, then there really isn't a medical necessity to go through with surgery if she doesn't want to. Since a vertical vaginal septum likely carries minimal risk of complications, why rush? I mean, I am certainly no expert on the matter, but surely this procedure would be less invasive than a C-section... though perhaps not quite as simple as a basic hymen incision? I suspect it might require general anesthesia, unlike a simple hymenotomy, but ultimately, the choice of which path to take rests entirely with her.

@ Michelle Price66: Honestly, those doctors of yours were absolute idiots—it feels like you'd need a growth the size of a grapefruit for them to actually notice something! 😲 Well, hopefully I won't run into anyone like that again; I'm looking for a new provider very soon...

coppergardener said:It’s because Michelle Price66 doesn't have a hymen septum, she actually has a vaginal septum, which is also called a double or divided vagina (basically a wall inside the vagina). If the septum isn't huge—which clearly it isn't since it took her third doctor just to notice it—and if it isn't causing her issues during sex or when using tampons, then there’s really no reason to go under the knife if she doesn't want to. Since it's a vertical septum, there probably isn't much risk of complications, I guess... this procedure is definitely easier than a C-section, though maybe not as easy as a hymen incision (I don't know much about the surgery, but I think it requires general anesthesia, unlike the hymen thing) and it’s totally up to her whether she wants to deal with it or not.

@ Michelle Price66: those doctors of yours were absolute idiots, honestly. It feels like you need a tumor the size of a grapefruit before they even bother to tell you what's going on. 😲 Hopefully I won't run into any more of them, looking for a new one soon...

Honey, if some doctor had explained things to me as nicely as you just did, I would have been so relieved.

I went to the public clinic and then a private specialist, and it wasn't until the third doctor in a row—a private one—that she finally mentioned it. I had actually noticed it earlier too; whenever I use tampons, everything feels "fine," but they get stuck when I try to pull them out. Thank God one didn't get wedged in and land me in the ER! Now I just stick to mini or regular tampons, though mostly I just use pads, even if I'm not a huge fan of them. I'm not having any pain or major issues, and I’ll have to have a C-section anyway because I have both a septum and a bicornuate uterus, but oh my God, I am not complaining. I’ll be pregnant and heavy, lounging around in bed and ringing a bell to call a butler!

🙂

In case anyone is curious, the doctor who finally figured all this out for me was Dr. Višnja Tadić, and I am so incredibly grateful for her time and how much she actually cared!

Question—can an incision be performed through both public health services and private clinics? And is it actually worth opting for a private specialist even if the price tag is higher? Also, how long does the healing process usually take? Honestly, this thick, annoying hymen is driving me absolutely crazy.

William Morales7 said:Quick question—can the incision be done through public insurance or does it have to be private? And would it actually be better to go private even if the cost is higher? Also, how long is the healing process? Honestly, this thick hymen is just getting on my nerves and making me frustrated.

I can't speak to what public health coverage covers, but private practice certainly handles it. As for recovery, you should be able to get back to your normal routine almost immediately. It isn't such an invasive procedure that you need some lengthy "healing period." Once it's done, the issue is resolved. 🙂
First and foremost, I would suggest scheduling a consultation with a doctor to determine if a surgical procedure is even necessary, or if there's a way to manage this naturally.

Hello, everyone. I have an issue here that might sound ridiculous to some of you, but it’s been causing quite a bit of stress for both me and my boyfriend...
To give you some context, I had a specific hymen shape that made intercourse impossible, so I underwent a surgical excision a month ago at a private clinic. The surgeon informed me that it was a somewhat "complex" procedure due to the thickness of the tissue, noting that there might be prolonged bleeding during the healing process. Since then, I’ve had a follow-up exam where everything supposedly healed perfectly and looked normal. However, my boyfriend and I have attempted intercourse twice now, and he is having extreme difficulty with penetration—it's almost as if it isn't possible. He claims I am far too tight, noting that even a finger barely fits (which we have confirmed ourselves). Furthermore, when he does manage to enter slightly, the pain is absolutely excruciating.
I find this whole situation confusing. If the area has healed and the hymen is gone, these kinds of complications shouldn't be happening, right? I am looking for advice or insight from anyone who might have dealt with something similar, because I am genuinely at a loss as to what is going on.😕

Look, you really need to reach out to the clinic where you had the procedure done and get some professional advice. Under normal circumstances, things should be elastic enough that you could gradually work on expanding the area—if you know what I mean. Maybe try to gently stretch things out with your fingers when you're using the restroom, just a few times a day. Another thing that comes to mind is having him attempt penetration before he's fully erect. Most importantly, you have to find a way to relax. I bet you're constantly tensed up and feeling totally overwhelmed every single time.
I'm really rooting for you to get this sorted out somehow.

Does anyone have a solid recommendation for someone in Washington, D.C. who can handle this procedure? I see they do it at the Morton clinic (with Dr. Ulla). Someone also mentioned Dr. Višnja Tadić. Is it okay if we just want the procedure itself without needing their full consultation/advice package?
Any leads would be huge. What’s the actual process like? How fast is the recovery? And does anyone happen to know the price tag? Thanks!

I heard Dr. Šikanić performed that procedure over at the Mayo Clinic, assuming you fall into that teenage demographic 😛 It only takes about 10-15 minutes under local anesthesia, and while it might sting a bit once the numbness wears off, it’s honestly not the end of the world.

In Washington, D.C., over at the Star clinic, there's a gynecologist named Grujić. I’ve heard she is incredibly kind and makes you feel right at home, which honestly matters so much when you're going in for those appointments. My only hesitation is the cost—I suspect she might not be the most budget-friendly option... maybe just give them a call and ask?

What's the point of even making that incision...

goldenheron6 said:What's the point of that incision procedure?

Basically, it's about opening up the hymen. For some girls, it’s just too thick or shaped weirdly, which ends up causing issues—either when they're dealing with their period or during sex.

I figured I'd share my own experience in case anyone else is going through this... I actually just got back from seeing dr. Silva Babić over in Trnski. She gave me some local anesthesia and then used some instruments to stretch things out. Honestly, it only hurt for a split second, nothing crazy at all. I did have a bit of a tender feeling when sitting down afterward, but that passed pretty quickly. The whole thing, including the exam and the dilation, cost $133. They didn't even need to go in with a scalpel, but if the dilation doesn't do the trick, I'll probably head back for the actual incision. My boyfriend and I have been trying to have penetrative sex for over a year now without luck, so we finally decided to go see a gynecologist. I'm 24.