Sleeping too much

crimsongull20 said:Was it behaving this way even before that year mark passed?

Yes.

crimsoncanyon2 said:Given that he sleeps most heavily when his girlfriend visits, it is entirely plausible that we are looking at pure lack of motivation or sheer boredom.

Yawning serves as an indicator of either disinterest and boredom, or a physiological sign that the brain is craving more oxygen—which often points toward issues like low hemoglobin or anemia.

Inquire about his diet and attempt to engage him with subjects he finds genuinely stimulating.
If there is a sudden surge in energy, then boredom was likely the culprit.

No, it isn't just that he sleeps more when I visit; if anything, I try to nudge him to get up "earlier" (though by his logic, 2:00 PM counts as early 🙄). He is oversleeping every single day regardless. He actually admitted to me during one of our talks that he sleeps too much because he simply has nothing to do lately, and I can see he has completely flipped his sleep cycle... he’s going to bed after 3:00 AM and not rolling out of bed until 3:00 or 4:00 PM. I have been urging him to go to a local clinic for a full blood panel, but he refuses, insisting nothing is wrong. He mentioned his mother gave him the exact same advice.
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If he was always like that, it’s really no big deal...

crimsongull20 said:If he was always acting this way, then there isn't really much to complain about, is there?

To be perfectly honest, yes, that has always been his temperament... however, over the last six months, one could say things have "deteriorated" significantly... 🤷

fadedranger2 said:Honestly, yeah, it’s always been like this... though things have "taken a turn" over the last six months, if you want to call it that... 🤷

Maybe they're just escaping into sleep to deal with work stress. Happens all the time.

They could always just go get some basic blood work done. Not exactly a huge ordeal...

I can’t even remember how much sleep I got before having my kid... it feels like my entire life was just a cycle of sleeping and working. Even during the pregnancy, I spent most of my time catching up on rest. For those first three months, I barely stepped foot outside the house, except for doctor appointments. 🙄

Then, for the first three months after he was born, I basically slept whenever the baby did. He was a total sleeper, just like his mom. 😁 😁

Eventually, the little guy finally dragged me out into the real world. 😁

And here I am, setting some kind of unintentional record🙄
Today—I didn't crawl out of bed until 1 PM...
I actually turned in around 1 AM, but when I finally opened my eyes, I genuinely thought it was only about 11...
Then, to make matters worse, I ended up crashing next to my husband in the afternoon while we were watching *Law & Order*🙄 and passed out for another two hours flat...
As I’ve mentioned somewhere else before, I don't have a thyroid, so I really ought to schedule an appointment to get my hormone levels checked out properly.
It’s true that when I’m under heavy stress, sleep becomes impossible, but lately, even after I finally manage to unwind, I just sleep and sleep; honestly, this feels like a personal record, which is exhausting because sleeping is my only outlet for stress, yet I dream so much that it actually wears me out—I can remember almost every single dream from a seven-hour stretch, and let me tell you, they aren't exactly pleasant.
It’s actually a little frightening. I have to be back at work on Tuesday...
To be fair, everyone around me seems to have had their sleep cycles completely trashed lately.
Everyone is complaining about how much they're sleeping; I suppose we all paid the price for those lazy years of overindulging and staying up late, and now the pendulum has swung violently in the other direction. I've set my alarm for 10 AM tomorrow, and I’ll have to find some way to actually drag myself out of bed...
Whatever—I think I'll just ask my manager if I can switch to the night shift instead.😁

So, I spent the entire week over at his place last week, and look, I get it—it was New Year's and all that—but it was honestly a bit much. We were hitting the sack around 5 AM every single night and wouldn't roll out of bed until 4 PM 🙂 And the thing is, he’s still carrying on with that exact same schedule right now.

fadedranger2 said:Yeah, I spent the whole week over at his place last week—New Year's stuff and all that... but it was overkill. We were hitting the sack at 5 AM and rolling out of bed at 4 PM every single day. 🙂 And he’s still acting the exact same way.

Let him live it up while he can. Since you said he isn't sitting on a pile of cash, he probably won't be able to pull this off forever...

Think about how much trouble it'll be down the road living with someone that stagnant. If you aren't wired that way, it's going to be a massive headache. That kind of gap makes sharing a life pretty complicated...

Look, this thread belongs in the "living together" section. If you're looking for a reason to call it quits, honestly... any reason works.

The whole thing about how people's sleep needs and desires shift as they get older through different stages of life—that's just common sense, right? It's totally irrelevant here, just like how this isn't some kind of medical issue.

If anyone actually had the decency to show some empathy, I’d tell the OP to try walking a mile in someone else's shoes for once. Like, if she needs seven hours of sleep to function, but she's living with someone who insists five is plenty because they can survive on four... and then she tries to claim they're "sick" and need medical help? Imagine how that feels... and what you'd even do about it.

Donna Johnson16 said:this discussion really belongs in the "relationship dynamics" section. if you're looking for an excuse to walk away, any reason will do.

The reality is that a person's sleep requirements and desires naturally shift throughout different stages of life; frankly, that’s irrelevant here, just as the fact that this isn't a medical issue is also irrelevant.

If there were actually any willingness to show empathy, I would suggest the original poster try walking in someone else's shoes for a moment. For instance, imagine if she required seven hours of sleep, but lived with someone who insisted five hours was plenty—simply because he functions fine on four—and then suggested she seek medical treatment because she’s clearly "unwell." How would that make her feel, and what kind of action would she take?

That isn't the case at all; I'm certainly not looking for a breakup or even wanting one.
I just want him to be healthy, and flipping day and night isn't right... even now, it's only 6:00 PM and it's already dark, yet he's still asleep...
As far as my attitude goes, I have plenty of patience and understanding when I'm visiting him for the weekend or during the week; I sleep whenever he needs me to, I let him rest, and I move on. This isn't about me being some irrational person who is annoyed that my partner sleeps a little longer instead of spending time with me; he actually told me himself that he'd go get his blood work done to check things out. 😁

fadedranger2 said:Not really. I'm not looking for a breakup or anything...
I just want him to be alright, and flipping day and night isn't the way to do that.

Flipping schedules is fine if you can afford it and your body handles it. I did that all through my twenties whenever possible.
It works for him, but you clearly can't handle it—that's the bottom line.

crimsongull20 said:Swapping day for night works beautifully for anyone who can afford the lifestyle and possesses the right biological clock. I used to pull those kinds of shifts all through my younger years whenever the opportunity arose.
It seems perfectly acceptable to him, but you aren't on board with it—and that is the crux of the matter.

The guy wakes up, looks at the clock, starts swearing 😁 and goes on and on about how he's already falling behind schedule... he even mentioned that his mornings are the absolute worst; once he actually wakes up, he physically can't even get out of bed, claiming it takes him a full hour just to find his footing.

fadedranger2 said:some guy wakes up, curses at the clock because he's already behind schedule 😁 and goes on about how he can't catch up... claims the worst part is just getting out of bed, takes him a full hour just to find his feet.

Low blood pressure?

crimsongull20 said:Low blood pressure?

None. 🤷