Sex and intimacy

Hey everyone, first off, hi... I really hope I’m in the right subforum for this kind of question.

So, something has been weighing on my mind for the last couple of days. I had sex with my girlfriend, and while we've done this before, it was actually our first time without a condom (honestly, I don't even know what 😠 was thinking). I tried to use the withdrawal method—basically pulling out before I finished—and that's exactly what I did. As soon as I felt like I was getting close, I pulled out and ejaculated outside. My big concern is: is there any actual chance she could still get pregnant? I know it might sound like a stupid question, but I’d really appreciate some honest advice from anyone who knows what they're talking about (please, no trolling or condescending comments... I'm being serious here). Thanks in advance!

There's definitely a chance because sperm is being released during intercourse. The odds of getting pregnant might be slim, but it’s still a possibility

Yes, that is entirely possible.
Do spend some time looking into women's health.

Thanks for the input,,
Dammit, if I have to deal with this one more thing, I am absolutely screwed!!.. 😠 😠

Anonymous said:Thanks for the input,,
Dammit, if I have to deal with this one more thing, I am absolutely screwed!!.. 😠 😠

It doesn't matter. If it goes through, it's a done deal.

stormyheron4 said:It doesn't matter. If it goes through, it's a done deal.

Yeah, because that's exactly what I need at my age 😠..
anyway, how long does it actually take to tell if she's pregnant? Is it just when her period starts running late??

Anonymous said:Yeah, because that's exactly what I need at my age 😠..
anyway, how long does it actually take to tell if she's pregnant? Is it just when her period starts running late??

At just one month along, it’s nearly impossible to know for sure. At least, that's what I was taught in health class—that even home tests might not pick it up yet, let alone a doctor, because the embryo hasn't developed enough to trigger those physical changes you'd actually be able to detect.

Otherwise, the chances of conception are quite slim unless they were within her fertile window; however, if they did happen during those days (or perhaps a day or two leading up to them), then the odds are naturally a bit higher... though that certainly doesn't guarantee anything. Even if withdrawal was used, the risks remain relatively small since there's a distinct difference between what's released during ejaculation versus what comes out during pre-ejaculate, which contains far fewer active sperm cells—though it's worth noting that doesn't mean there are none at all.🤷

Thomas Roberts9 said:At just one month along, it’s nearly impossible to know for sure. At least, that's what I was taught in health class—that even home tests might not pick it up yet, let alone a doctor, because the embryo hasn't developed enough to trigger those physical changes you'd actually be able to detect.

Otherwise, the chances of conception are quite slim unless they were within her fertile window; however, if they did happen during those days (or perhaps a day or two leading up to them), then the odds are naturally a bit higher... though that certainly doesn't guarantee anything. Even if withdrawal was used, the risks remain relatively small since there's a distinct difference between what's released during ejaculation versus what comes out during pre-ejaculate, which contains far fewer active sperm cells—though it's worth noting that doesn't mean there are none at all.🤷

First off, thanks so much for getting back to me! I really appreciate the response.
And another thing—I pulled it out the second I felt like I was about to finish (if you know what I mean). 🙂 I finished everything by hand, so there’s no way any of that could have stayed inside. The only thing left would be whatever might have been released during the actual act, but honestly, I’m just praying to God that I don't end up having to become a father at my age. 😠If everything pans out, I’m definitely learning my lesson. Next time, if that's what it takes, I'll just be using ten condoms to be safe.

Thomas Roberts9 said:At just one month along, it’s nearly impossible to know for sure. At least, that's what I was taught in health class—that even home tests might not pick it up yet, let alone a doctor, because the embryo hasn't developed enough to trigger those physical changes you'd actually be able to detect.

Otherwise, the chances of conception are quite slim unless they were within her fertile window; however, if they did happen during those days (or perhaps a day or two leading up to them), then the odds are naturally a bit higher... though that certainly doesn't guarantee anything. Even if withdrawal was used, the risks remain relatively small since there's a distinct difference between what's released during ejaculation versus what comes out during pre-ejaculate, which contains far fewer active sperm cells—though it's worth noting that doesn't mean there are none at all.🤷

A month? Please. Most tests start reading positive around day nine after sex, assuming that’s when ovulation happened.
Look, two weeks after sex is enough time to know for sure.

You could technically try the test anywhere between 6 and 12 days after ovulation—though, if you want to be smart about it, I’d say aim for that 8 to 12-day window since that is when implantation actually occurs. First comes the implantation, then comes the testing, right? Honestly, it is probably even better to just wait until the very first day your period is late.

I truly hope you are joking about the number of condoms! You don't need a mountain of them; you really only need one single, properly used condom. Using two at once is honestly just a nonsense idea—it creates friction between the layers, which actually increases the risk of a tear rather than providing extra safety. It's counterproductive, really.

I was totally joking about the number of condoms, okay? I know one is plenty. When I listed all those, I was just trying to say that I learned my lesson from that mistake and there's zero chance I'll ever pull a stunt like that again 😉..
Anyway, thanks so much to everyone for the replies and all the help!!

Kevin Bailey2 said:A month? Please. Most tests start reading positive around day nine after sex, assuming that’s when ovulation happened.
Look, two weeks after sex is enough time to know for sure.

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coppergardener said:You could technically try the test anywhere between 6 and 12 days after ovulation—though, if you want to be smart about it, I’d say aim for that 8 to 12-day window since that is when implantation actually occurs. First comes the implantation, then comes the testing, right? Honestly, it is probably even better to just wait until the very first day your period is late.

I truly hope you are joking about the number of condoms! You don't need a mountain of them; you really only need one single, properly used condom. Using two at once is honestly just a nonsense idea—it creates friction between the layers, which actually increases the risk of a tear rather than providing extra safety. It's counterproductive, really.

Thank God I haven't found myself in a position where I actually needed to use a pregnancy test just yet—though who knows what the future holds for me. 😍 😉I am honestly not entirely certain about how much these newer tests can actually detect, but back when I was attending nursing school, they taught us that you really couldn't confirm a pregnancy before that first month had passed. If it turns out I was mistaken, please forgive my blunder and the unnecessary excitement I caused; I suppose it is better for everyone else if we avoid those false alarms and all the needless anxiety that comes with them. 😉 😁

Anonymous said:First off, thanks so much for getting back to me! I really appreciate the response.
And another thing—I pulled it out the second I felt like I was about to finish (if you know what I mean). 🙂 I finished everything by hand, so there’s no way any of that could have stayed inside. The only thing left would be whatever might have been released during the actual act, but honestly, I’m just praying to God that I don't end up having to become a father at my age. 😠If everything pans out, I’m definitely learning my lesson. Next time, if that's what it takes, I'll just be using ten condoms to be safe.

I know quite a few couples—and I’ve certainly found myself doing this too—who practice withdrawal, and pregnancy happens incredibly rarely. I mean RARELY. It doesn't mean it's impossible, of course, but the odds are relatively slim. Well, fingers crossed for you; hopefully next time you'll either have a condom handy or your partner will be on the pill so you can just enjoy yourselves without the worry.😉

Thomas Roberts9 said:I know quite a few couples—and I’ve certainly found myself doing this too—who practice withdrawal, and pregnancy happens incredibly rarely. I mean RARELY. It doesn't mean it's impossible, of course, but the odds are relatively slim. Well, fingers crossed for you; hopefully next time you'll either have a condom handy or your partner will be on the pill so you can just enjoy yourselves without the worry.😉

Yeah, that’s basically just gambling on luck.. personally, I don't play those kinds of games. It’s way better for my peace of mind to just grab a box of condoms than to spend the next few weeks stressing out about whether she’s pregnant 🙂.. anyway, thanks for the input!!