I'm 300 lbs and need some advice

restlessmarlin6 said:At its core, it’s usually just a chewing addiction, pretty much like you pointed out earlier. 😉
It likely starts way back in early childhood, when moms react to every little cry by shoving a pacifier into the kid's mouth. 😁

I don't know if you've ever dealt with being overweight yourself, but let me tell you, it can be a brutal, messy fight—mostly against your own head.
I honestly have so much respect for people who manage to drop significant weight; more often than not, they show way more strength of character than anyone else ever could. 🙂

I was pretty chubby growing up, so I can tell you firsthand that wrestling with those extra pounds isn't just "not easy"—it's a nightmare.

People look at weight gain and act like it's some simple math problem: "Oh, just fix your diet, hit the gym, and boom, results!" But it doesn't work like that at all...

For people who struggle with weight (and I'm not talking about those dealing with hormonal issues or pure genetics), there's a much deeper issue at play. It manifests as this constant urge to just shovel food into your face, creating this endless, vicious cycle that's incredibly hard to break... though it is possible.

I actually mentioned to the OP above that they should definitely sit down with a therapist, because carrying that extra weight leaves deep scars on your psyche, especially when you're young.

William White2 said:and I’ve got this one other issue that I could probably fix if I just stayed disciplined for two weeks, but honestly, I’ve been dragging this thing around since I was a kid.😳

Now, I suppose I should ask, "Well, what's that about?" 😁 😳
(to be totally honest, nothing is coming to mind right now 🤔 )

shadowsurfer11 said:People who struggle with weight gain—and I’m not talking about those dealing with hormonal imbalances or genetic predispositions here—face a much deeper issue that shows up as constant binge eating. It becomes this endless, vicious cycle that feels impossible to break... though it *can* be broken, if you try hard enough...

I actually wrote to the author earlier suggesting they definitely sit down and talk to a psychologist, because carrying extra weight leaves really deep scars on your psyche, especially when you're young...

Seeing a psychologist is a solid idea, I guess, but maybe just having someone close by who actually gets it would be enough. 😉

And honestly, to deal with that whole "vicious cycle" thing, his family needs to step up big time. They have to clear out all the junk food from the house. If they really want to help, they might even need to lock the kitchen doors at 7 PM or something. 😁
It’s just not going to work if everyone else in the house is snacking on greasy, sugary stuff while he’s stuck staring at a tiny portion of cauliflower on his plate. No way, absolutely not. 😁

restlessmarlin6 said:I suppose I should be asking, "So what?"😁 😳
(to be perfectly honest, nothing else comes to mind at the moment🤔 )

And I suppose I should just suggest stuttering...

Or perhaps stammering. 😬

Does that make any sense now? 😁

My brother actually struggled with this stuff 🙂
He was seeing a speech therapist since he was just a little kid and eventually worked through 😉it all

But honestly, I guess I find it kind of cute. 😉

restlessmarlin6 Asks:
I went to speech therapy when I was just a kid, and eventually, I got it sorted out. 😉

I guess I find that kind of thing somewhat charming, personally. 😉

I’ve actually gone to see a speech therapist myself at some point... though, I guess my concentration levels are pretty much all over the place right now. 😳

I suppose you think you’d find me more charming if I just stayed quiet, don't you? 😁

Well, I don't always feel like putting in the effort to explain myself. 😁

I recently met this girl, Vania, and we were just sitting there having some drinks and talking. I actually mentioned to her that I have a stutter, and she honestly didn't believe me. It was almost like she couldn't even wrap her head around the idea, because, well, it didn't seem to show at all during our conversation. 🤣 🤣

I suppose if I were actually required to pick up the phone and call someone I didn't even know just to ask a question, I'd probably struggle to get a single word out. It feels like a daunting prospect, I guess. 😳

I suppose I’ve drifted completely off-topic now. 😳 😁

William White2 said:okay, I'm totally going off on a tangent here. 😳 😁

totally 😉

I’ve seen some absolutely disastrous advice on this thread...
Look, I don't have the issues you're describing; if anything, my situation is the exact opposite. I’ve got a fast metabolism, I'm 19 years old, 5'9", and weigh about 135 lbs—down from 139. I can't seem to put on any weight at all.
My friend, here is some sincere advice: eat as much as you possibly can, but be smart about it.
Cut out the sodas and all that junk food. Instead, invest in some good quality fruits and vegetables, and pair that with physical activity. Go chop some wood to get a real workout, or just head out for a run in the countryside to soak up some fresh air...
I’m not joking; please don't mistake this for sarcasm...

As for diet specifics, I can't give you a magic formula, but you have plenty of resources: there are hundreds of forums (which, in my opinion, are the best sources), books, the internet, and even friends...

From what I can tell, your current diet isn't doing you any favors. For breakfast, maybe try some whole grains—though you should look into whether specific types affect weight gain. Or just grab an apple. For lunch, stick to home-cooked meals. If you have a garden, growing your own veggies is unbeatable; let me know if you want tips, because we have a garden and some experience with it. Just wash everything thoroughly. Personally, I spent a lot of time digging through books and found a mountain of information. You can usually find great stuff in used bookstores for next to nothing.

Regarding vegetables—whether you like them or not—give them a shot. But don't boil them into mush; steam them instead so they actually retain all their nutrients.

For dinner (this is something I make quite often), I grate an apple and a carrot, juice an orange, and mix it all together with some homemade grain "flour."
Take some brown rice, rinse it in hot water to get rid of excess starch, and then use a small grinder at home to break it down—not into fine flour, but into larger granules. Mix that with some almonds or whatever else you like. Wheat is incredibly healthy too. If you want, you can drizzle a little honey over it and enjoy.
My sister practically glares at me when she sees me eating this... but honestly, once you get used to the taste, it's great. Even though carrots aren't my favorite, I can manage. Trust me, it is INCOMPARABLE to eating processed deli meats or sausages. Gross!

If you want some help navigating this, feel free to send me a private message. I'd be more than happy to chat.

Jose Miller3 said:Totally. 😉

Well, I don't want to go completely off-topic here, but I suppose I could try to draw a comparison between my speech therapist and, say, someone's personal trainer or their specific diet plan... 😁

A speech therapist isn't going to step in and start stuttering on my behalf, just like a personal trainer isn't going to lose weight for their client.

I suppose it really just comes down to persistence, and that’s about it...

Is that any better now? 😬

I actually got chills reading that... going without food for an entire week? I can't even remember who posted it, but honestly, it doesn't matter. That kind of thing just wrecks everything—your circadian rhythm, your sleep, your mental health, the whole works.
Hang in there, buddy. Keep your head up, everything is going to be fine!

Jamie Cox29 said:I’ve seen some absolutely disastrous responses in here...
Look, I don't actually have those issues—if anything, it's the opposite. I've got a fast metabolism, I'm 19, standing 5'9" and weighing about 135 lbs—used to be 138... I'm definitely not exactly "overweight."
Buddy, if you want my honest advice: eat as much as you can, but be smart about it.
Cut out the soda and all that junk food... just go buy yourself some decent fruit and vegetables, stick to that, and get some physical activity in. Go chop some wood for some extra work, or just head out for a run somewhere in the countryside to get a breath of fresh autumn air...
I'm not joking; I really hope you don't take this as sarcasm...

As far as diet goes, I don't know—you've got hundreds of forums (which are the best sources, IMO), then books, the internet, friends...

From what I can tell, you're eating pretty unhealthy... For breakfast, maybe crush some cereal (I don't know if they make you gain weight, you should look into it)... or just grab an apple. For lunch, eat something cooked. If you have a garden, great, plant some veggies; if not, let me know, we have a garden and some experience with it... just wash your produce thoroughly. I've spent a ton of time digging through books and found a MOUNTAIN of info. You can find old books at used bookstores for dirt cheap.

Regarding vegetables—whether you like them or not—just try them... but don't boil them to death; steam them nicely so they actually keep all their nutrients.

For dinner (this is what I make often), I'll grate an apple and a carrot, squeeze an orange, and mix it all together with some grain "flour" I make myself.
Take some rice (keep the bran), rinse it in hot water to get rid of the transport stuff and whatever... grind it in a home mill, but not into fine flour—more like small granules. Add some almonds or something to that. Wheat is incredibly healthy. And if you want, you can drizzle a little honey over it and eat.
My sister gives me looks whenever she sees me eating this... but nope, I love it. Once you get used to the taste, it's great, even though carrots aren't really my thing, I can manage. Either way, it's INCOMPARABLE to something like processed deli meats or sausages. Gross!

If you want me to help you out somehow, feel free to shoot me a DM. I'd be happy to.

You two just need to swap menus.🙏 😁
You aren't exactly going to get fat off carrots and wheat.😉

Unless you're vegan, then I guess it's fine.🙂

Look, I know it’s not exactly gourmet, but it beats grabbing hot dogs or processed deli spreads all the time, haha.
As for gaining weight, I gave up on worrying about that a long time ago..

Jamie Cox29 said:Look, I know it's not ideal, but hey, at least I'm eating this instead of grabbing hot dogs or cheap deli spreads, haha.
As for gaining weight? Honestly, I gave up on that mission a long time ago...

Just have a beer every night. Trust me, it actually helps!

What’s the verdict on weight gain?
I’m going to give it a shot, even though I absolutely can't stand Vopi.🤣

Hmm... I'm sitting at about 285 pounds and honestly, I don't sweat it too much. The only thing that actually bugs me is that I can't get my bathroom scale to work properly. So, I end up propping one side up with something just to get a foot on there, and even then, the reading is totally wonky. This morning it clocked me at 143.🙂 I haven't stepped on it in a while, though; I figured I'd probably cleared 300 given how brutal this summer has been.

frozencobra37 said:Hmm... I'm sitting at about 285 pounds myself, and honestly, I don't spend much time fretting over it. If anything, my only real grievance is that I can't get my bathroom scale to cooperate properly. To get around it, I actually prop up one side of the scale with something to tilt it, then I try to balance by putting one foot on the device and... well, you get the idea. It basically cuts the reading in half. This morning it clocked in at 143 lbs. 🙂 I haven't stepped on a scale in ages; with how brutal this summer has been, I genuinely thought I might have surged past 300.

That is certainly an interesting way to weigh yourself, though I have serious doubts about its scientific accuracy. 🙂

But hearing that you aren't particularly worried about it? That’s the part that actually concerns me...

Jamie Cox29 said:Eat some cereal for breakfast (do some research on whether it actually makes you gain weight...) or just grab an apple. For lunch, have something cooked. If you have a garden, grow your own veggies—it’s great.
For dinner (this is what I make all the time), grate up an apple and a carrot, squeeze an orange, and mix it all together with some homemade grain "flour."
Take some brown rice, rinse it in hot water to get rid of the transport stuff and whatever else, then grind it in a home mill—not into fine flour, but more like coarse granules. Throw in some almonds or something. Wheat is incredibly healthy too. And if you really want, drizzle a little honey on top and eat it.

Look, kid, your problem is that my cat—the small one, mind you—eats more than you do. That's why you're skin and bones. An apple for breakfast? Good grief, I'd be starving to death by lunchtime. Just go buy some Nutella. 😉

I’ve basically got the appetite of a small bird, haha, but I make up for it by crushing kilos of chocolate every single day... and honestly, it’s killing me. I’ve actually tried to quit... but let’s just say it hasn't gone well.

That’s overpriced. 😁

I’m still out here hunting down those $7 blocks of peanut butter
I'd kill for one right now!