Amanda Turner70 said:Maybe your friend's relatives don't care, but addiction hits families hard—it really tears at people. All those excuses about him not being aggressive or not harming others by smoking are pretty ridiculous. I bet both he and his family would much rather deal with an aggressive sports fan getting into fights after a game or someone smoking three packs a day than what he’s become. And as for not poisoning anyone nearby, just wait until his immune system tanks and he picks up something nasty while walking around like a mobile petri dish.
👍 yeah...
And it's definitely not true that addicts aren't violent. When they run out of drugs, they can snap and get desperate enough to do anything for cash. If you even suggest they take a drug test while they're crashing, they might actually attack you. They aren't the same person they were before they started. That's just reality.
Credit to the ones who actually try to get clean. It’s a brutal, lifelong struggle. Staying clean for a few months or even two years doesn't mean much if the mental side isn't handled, because one bad slip-up and they're right back at square one. Sadly, there are fewer people actually fighting it than those who don't realize what they're doing—or maybe they do, they just don't have the strength to fight.
As for me... when I read about some addict overdosing, I don't feel bad. They're weak. I'm not saying the rest of us are perfect, but they're especially weak. Escaping reality that way is the easy way out. I also think they're incredibly selfish and irresponsible. What am I supposed to do, pour my life into someone like that? Probably not, even if they were my own blood. I don't feel any sympathy for them. Not one bit. Now, someone will probably say "they need community support," and sure, maybe that helps some, but usually it doesn't. No one can make you see you're making mistakes until you realize it yourself. Until it finally clicks in their head that it's time to stop this crap, they won't do anything. You can tell them "get help, look at what you're doing, you're going to kill yourself," blah blah blah—it won't matter.
Honestly, I get why Scott Allen10 feels the way he does. I didn't used to think like this, but seeing certain things firsthand really changed my perspective on the whole issue.