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The person I’m writing about is a relative of mine, and I’m looking for any advice you can offer.
Since he was a child, nothing has ever brought him joy. For example, if someone buys him a birthday gift, he won't show any emotion or happiness. He just looks at it with a deadpan expression and asks, "What is this?" and nothing else.
Ever since he was old enough to understand, he has had a tendency toward theft. He doesn't steal from strangers on the street, though; he steals from his own family. He takes money from his parents' wallets when they aren't looking, then puts the wallet back exactly as it was so no one notices he touched it.
He used to sneak into his uncle's house while he was out to steal jewelry, cash, and other valuables.
He enjoys drinking. When he drinks, he will refill a bottle halfway with water after drinking the wine so no one realizes how much he actually consumed.
He is an incredibly jealous person. If he becomes envious of someone, he wants to ruin their life. If he can't find a way to do that directly, he resorts to destroying their property.
When he drinks beer from plastic bottles, he peels off the labels and crushes the containers so nobody can return them for a deposit.
If he's a passenger in a car, he throws his trash or food wrappers right out the window.
He uses feces or even cigarette butts to draw swastikas on walls. He also carves swastikas—both right-side up and inverted—into surfaces with a knife.
He is 32 years old and has only held a job for a few months in his entire life because he refuses to work. He has been a total burden on his parents. He has been attending adult education classes for about eight years now, but he still hasn't passed his exams.
He won't even attempt to finish his driving school, even when they offered to pay for it.
He has never had a girlfriend, and based on what I've described, it's easy to see why.
When he goes into town, he glares at people with pure hatred and screams at anyone who happens to make eye contact with him.
Sometimes he starts crying out of nowhere. He'll tear up while riding the bus, or become extremely agitated and start weeping when there are people around him.
He is incapable of having a normal conversation; he just constantly yells and insults others.
His YouTube history consists entirely of religious movies. He constantly talks about the end of the world and how we're all going to burn in hell and other nonsense. He believes he is the only one who knows the "truth."
He frequently threatens his housemates, telling them he’s going to kill them one day.
When he's drunk, he rambles incessantly about stupid things and laughs at inappropriate times.
He is incredibly lazy and avoids any kind of responsibility. At one point, he hung out with some local delinquents, and most of them know him by reputation.
He is extremely stingy. If he buys you a soda, he acts like you owe him ten times the value of it.
The more you try to help him, the worse he treats you.
I have suggested reporting him to the police, kicking him out of the house, or trying to get him committed to a psychiatric hospital, because given his behavior, I wouldn't be surprised if he actually kills them one day.
The reality is that he has nothing to lose. He lives to make other people's lives miserable and to exploit them. He feels successful only when he succeeds in causing misery; if he sees that the person isn't suffering, he gets angry and tries to find new ways to torment them. He has zero motivation to improve his life.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Since he was a child, nothing has ever brought him joy. For example, if someone buys him a birthday gift, he won't show any emotion or happiness. He just looks at it with a deadpan expression and asks, "What is this?" and nothing else.
Ever since he was old enough to understand, he has had a tendency toward theft. He doesn't steal from strangers on the street, though; he steals from his own family. He takes money from his parents' wallets when they aren't looking, then puts the wallet back exactly as it was so no one notices he touched it.
He used to sneak into his uncle's house while he was out to steal jewelry, cash, and other valuables.
He enjoys drinking. When he drinks, he will refill a bottle halfway with water after drinking the wine so no one realizes how much he actually consumed.
He is an incredibly jealous person. If he becomes envious of someone, he wants to ruin their life. If he can't find a way to do that directly, he resorts to destroying their property.
When he drinks beer from plastic bottles, he peels off the labels and crushes the containers so nobody can return them for a deposit.
If he's a passenger in a car, he throws his trash or food wrappers right out the window.
He uses feces or even cigarette butts to draw swastikas on walls. He also carves swastikas—both right-side up and inverted—into surfaces with a knife.
He is 32 years old and has only held a job for a few months in his entire life because he refuses to work. He has been a total burden on his parents. He has been attending adult education classes for about eight years now, but he still hasn't passed his exams.
He won't even attempt to finish his driving school, even when they offered to pay for it.
He has never had a girlfriend, and based on what I've described, it's easy to see why.
When he goes into town, he glares at people with pure hatred and screams at anyone who happens to make eye contact with him.
Sometimes he starts crying out of nowhere. He'll tear up while riding the bus, or become extremely agitated and start weeping when there are people around him.
He is incapable of having a normal conversation; he just constantly yells and insults others.
His YouTube history consists entirely of religious movies. He constantly talks about the end of the world and how we're all going to burn in hell and other nonsense. He believes he is the only one who knows the "truth."
He frequently threatens his housemates, telling them he’s going to kill them one day.
When he's drunk, he rambles incessantly about stupid things and laughs at inappropriate times.
He is incredibly lazy and avoids any kind of responsibility. At one point, he hung out with some local delinquents, and most of them know him by reputation.
He is extremely stingy. If he buys you a soda, he acts like you owe him ten times the value of it.
The more you try to help him, the worse he treats you.
I have suggested reporting him to the police, kicking him out of the house, or trying to get him committed to a psychiatric hospital, because given his behavior, I wouldn't be surprised if he actually kills them one day.
The reality is that he has nothing to lose. He lives to make other people's lives miserable and to exploit them. He feels successful only when he succeeds in causing misery; if he sees that the person isn't suffering, he gets angry and tries to find new ways to torment them. He has zero motivation to improve his life.
Any advice would be appreciated.